Why do ex boyfriends come back when they still have better options?

[Anonymous]

I haven't slept with my ex in 4 years, but I have given him makeout ses until this year
I went no contact after he switched his work schedule. He still contacted me every week to see if maybe I'll answer him. I did a couple of weeks ago, and he's been trying to hang out with me even more so.
He asked if I wanted to do this or that, and I'll just say no.
However, recently, he dropped the facade and wants to "please" me and "have fun" together.
Instead of saying no, I was digging around for answers within our conversation. I found out he's been having more advanced sessions with more experienced partners & they come back to him.
He even admitted he had a partner all throughout
last year, but I assumed last year that he had a lot of talking stages maybe a couple women, but the majority of the time focused on his hobbies because most of the Sundays mornings he was making out with me. For the last 2 weeks, he's been begging from can you come out this day? to yesterday asking if I could come out for an hour.
Also I told him I was eating and he told me to show him, but I said no because I had grease on my face. He said 🙄 You won't even show me that. You're worried about some grease? Why is he circling the block on me when he has better or more recent partners. If he was intimate with the other lady majority of the year, she must be good too
Cuz our relationship only lasted 9 months. Why not hit her line? and why was he making out with me anyway during that year? Also he's coming to work a shift with me today so blocking him isn't the call
Also I don't hate him, he's just not good for me
I don't want to get him in any trouble

Updates

9 mo

Sorry when I mean this year I meant to say January of this year I haven't seen him since then and we only started talking on the phone in the beginning of August He texted me during the no contact months to hangout I never answered.

[ohsheeT]

But do they really most guys didn't leave. It's because they another woman. But in time that other woman gets to know that guy. And she probably doesn't like a lot abouthey split

Then he comes back to the x because the x allowed him to get away with doing a lot of things because of love and no confidence

If the x was smart she would say goodbye mister because it's just a matter of time until he does it again

[Anonymous]

Every guy has that fat girl that tries really hard that they can keep going back to if need be. Don't question it. Just enjoy it.😆

[EmmaMary]

You say you haven't slept with him in four years, yet you give him makeout sessions... Just what the fuck is that all about? smh

[Asker]

Well I didn't hate him & I, for one, find my ex attractive, plus we've been intimate a lot. So I gradually took privileges away from him because we aren't together
Took some... but I don't like rebound behavior.

[EmmaMary]

Sounds to me like the two of you are well suited to each other... You both want to have your cake and eat it!

[Asker]

I don't get why you say that? Please elaborate. My goal was to detach, his goal, I don't know, but im not blaming him for the actual makeout. I'm just wondering
why he's coming back to me when he was with a better option and could reach out to better options
When I continue to say no to hanging out with him.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[avery58]

You're making yourself available would be my guess. He seems like a player and you'd be better off without.

[Asker]

But I've said no to every invite and now he's picking up my shift, which by the way, is the complete opposite of his

[avery58]

Well, then he sounds like a weirdo. Have you tried telling him to let you move on? You said that he was seeing other girls while making out with you anyway, right?

[Asker]

He seems completely fine with that.
Majority of the time, he sat in my area to work, and sometimes, guys would come up to talk to me.
He would get up and give us space, then come back later to my area.
And sometimes he'll ask me if I need space so the guy won't get jealous.
I'd say yes, and he wouldn't come in my area, but he'll still be on the floor to talk to me later that day.

[WhitneySnow]

He really likes you. Probably cause of the makeout sessions.