If a woman brings a kid on a date with you, would you be mad?

[Anonymous]

I know most men hate kids and their a burden to your life but if she has no babysitter or no one to watch them think its understandable.

[RavVid]

She should just cancel and reschedule.

[BarryLiverstone]

Happened to me once and I wasn’t mad.

[HawkPerception]

Firstly, at this point in my life, I wouldn't date a woman with kids. I want a family of my own and don't want to look after another man's kids.

Secondly, even if I was at the point in my life where I would date a woman with kids, she'd have to let me know she has them up front and also be transparent in letting me know that she has to bring them along on the date. I will also not be paying for her kids on the date. They are not my responsibility, ESPECIALLY on a first date trying to see if we're even compatible.

[OlderAndWiser]

A date is intended to be time for a man and a woman to share focused on each other, without distractions. If you have no babysitter and no other options, you should tell your date IN ADVANCE and either find a solution - TOGETHER - or agree to reschedule the date.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "I know most men hate kids" Wrong. Don't villainize all of us because of a few jerks. Suppose I said, "I know most women are golddiggers. . ."

2. I have dated single moms and paid for their babysitters.

[ohsheeT]

If the guy likes the girl. He know your child is part of the deal it's a package deal. And if he likes the girl and is smart. When your making plans he would say of course. How about instead of us doing this let's do this to make it about the child. No I see no problems

[AviatorTom]

If we talked about it before the date, I wouldn't be upset. But if she just showed up for our date with her kid, that would be more than a surprise.

[DishLady]

Why would you bring a child on a date?

[Screenwriter]

If you bring a kid with you, it is not a date. I would be mad if I were a guy thinking I would be spending uninterrupted time with someone I'm hoping to get to know. Children are professional interrupters and you would not have a date.

If RIGHT NOW you cannot find a babysitter, start asking at your local colleges or universities, which usually have babysitting pools. Check out online in your town. They'll have listings too. There may be services that have babysitters who've gone through background checks, et al. And if you live in a neighborhood where you know some of your neighbors who have children, ask them who they use.

Find out what they charge, meet the babysitters (have at least two you could use so you have flexibility if one can't make it), and see who they are as people.

But do not bring your child on your date. You simply have to work hard to find babysitters. It'll be worth it in the long run. Everyone needs a break. Your dates can be yours.

I don't think most men hate kids and I don't think they're a burdern to your life at the right time and place.

When you're finally introducing your date to your child, THAT is when it's appropriate to bring them along to the park, waterpark, zoo, or simply out for ice cream or lunch.

[Cormac995]

I'd be ok with it but I would find it disappointing and discouraging because I wouldn't want to do things like hold her hand and kiss her with her kid present unless we were deeper into the relationship and I was already a little bit involved in the kid's life as a father figure or something. If it was on the first date or one of our earlier dates, I'd defiantly be a little disappointed.

At the same time if you wanted to make this date so bad that you'd rather bring your kid than rain check I'd find it kind of endearing because that shows you really, really wanted to be there come hell or high water. So I guess for me it's kind of mixed.

[OneViewpoint]

The OP seems extremely self centered. If you don't have a babysitter, friend, or family member to watch your kid here are your options.

• Tell the guy you can't make it and why. He'll understand but it will be a wakeup call informing him how life with you is gonna go.
• Tell the guy and why and ask if you can bring your kid to the upscale restaurant he had lined up for dinner. Just assume he's gonna pay for your kid too. Once again this is a wakeup call for any guy dating a single mom.
• Don't tell the guy and just show up with your kid. The guy will be pissed but polite. He will make your kid feel comfortable, welcome, and included. The date will end early and you'll never see that guy again.
• Call and cancel and ask to reschedule.

[Zack-Bann]

Most men don’t hate kids


Most men don’t wanna be left carrying someone else’s kid at random when they go on a date


There’s such a thing as boundaries


You have a kid, cool
But you should ease your date into the idea of having a kid in your life, and therefore his.


Showing up with a kid to a date when you’re getting to know someone turns the “date” into a “family outing” except it’s someone else’s family


Most men won’t respond positively to that and they shouldn’t

[humpbackjack]

I wouldn’t say most men hate kids. I would say most people don’t like bratty kids and probably most men prefer not to raise another man’s kids which I understand both but me personally if I’m dating a woman with kids it’s easier to fall in love with her kids than to fall in love with he which really I think I only truly loved 2 women in my life not counting family. I messed with several girls that had kids back in the day and always included the kids in any gifts or meals and enjoyed spending time with the kids. My wife had one kid and was huge pregnant when I met her and had her second by the time we started dating which was about 1 maybe 2 months later even though I fell in love with my wife the second our eyes met. Now to answer your question I would prefer if she let me know ahead of time like even just before I left my pad so I could change clothes if needed

[SphynxUK]

Most men don’t hate children. If this is a first date or in the early stages it’s highly inappropriate. You don’t involve children until a relationship is well established and going somewhere. If this is a date in an established relationship then occasionally bringing the child along shouldn’t be an issue.
There is always an option for finding childcare for a few hours.

[TonyMetal___86]

You have to know who you're dating 1st, i don't think that a man who wants to date a girl won't be aware that she's a single mother and if the girl kept such a thing hidden and brought her child to the date out of the blue without even asking him, than yes he has the right to become furious and to cancel the date!

As a man myself, i love kids, i don't hate them but yes a kid is a burden, that's the truth, if a man considers his own kids a burden, than how come to others, for sure a good burden, it's not like he hates it but we are just stating some facts, with each new member being added to the family, the burden becomes bigger!

[Purpleronnie]

Bringing a child along wouldn’t be the issue it would be the other person knowing this was the plan , that’s just basic respect and would matter greatly depending on the “plans” within the date.
Again there is an assumption there that the guy knew there was a child but I’ve assumed because why would it be hidden

[itsannalee]

If you don’t have someone to watch the kids that time, just reschedule the date or just discuss it with your date if he prefer u to bring the kids or just let you reschedule it.

[MannMitAntworten]

It happened a few times with one woman. I was given a heads up each time. She was a young widow (granted I was still young then too) with a little daughter. Her daughter was the quietest smiling kid I ever knew.


Anyway, it was never an issue nor a burden. Perhaps because I actually like kids and get along with them.

[Flower7]

This is a cute story.

[MannMitAntworten]

@Flower7 Thank you Flower.

[Angelo75]

From the point of view of the kid, I would be worried.

He's instinctively looking for a father figure. And you have no idea how the guy is gonna be on a longer term. So your kid end up getting attached and then the guy disappears cuz u broke up.

I'm not sure what the psychological effects will be on the kid. But I don't think it's gonna be healthy.

[Benjiman19]

If it's the first date, I'd be happy to meet her child and know that she has a child or children. But on the other hand, at least warn me first and if we're both heading towards sex afterwards, I'd find it a little awkward.

2nd or 3rd date, tell me beforehand but otherwise, I don't mind. I don't find children to be a burden. Just a little inconvenient when there's two people trying to get to know each other over a dinner or a walk in the park or wherever you go.

[SoccerPlayer99]

It's not understandable. Not one bit. The date is about you and him, not your children. If you cannot make time for him alone during the dating process then why would he believe you would make time for him in marriage? Reschedule if you cannot find a sitter. by the way I love kids.

[Seangreen]

If it was like a niece or nephew and it wasn't a first date I might put up with it however if it was her kid I don't think there would have been a date most men try to stay away from single mothers at least men who have any self worth and I'm just being honest. You don't have to like what I said but I'm letting you know what a lot of men think.

[deaddude7734]

I am totally upfront about being "child-free" and I make it very clear that I only want to date "child-free" people, so I would be very angry if a "potential date" showed up with kid (s) and I would get away as quickly as possible...

[beenherebefore]

This is a terrible idea for both Men and Women. I love kids but a date is not a place for a kid to be at. If you cannot find someone to leave your kid with to go on a date then you shouldn’t go on a date to start with.

[UpaRupa]

I'd depends on if your being deceptive about it and just spring it on him. If he knows in advance or someone with some kind of relationship with the kids already it's fine. otherwise I don't think kids should be there anyhow just meeting someone first time, for the kids benefit.

[NoDecision]

I would say that they best look for a date where you both have kids. Of course, if she could not get a baby sitter that would be a different matter. But, she should ask if it is ok beforehand.

[DonaldDarko]

If she's stuck taking care of a family members kid that's OK by me, we'll go find some things to do. It could be fun unless the kids an asshole or something. As long as it's not her kid with her "baby daddy", I don't date ghetto.

[HighValue]

Guys don't hate kids if they are their own. They just know a single mother is nothing but problems, drama, expense, and a source of stress to be avoided. I'd have no interest in a single mother.

[VitaminAndB]

I wouldn't be mad as much as it would be awkward there are Pro's and Con's to the situation one of the Pro's would be to get to know the child better but one of the Con's for me would be, no privacy for a date its normally just about you and her with a kid it's js awkward and its not only about you and her its about you, her and her kid leaving minimal privacy and the feeling of awkwardness

[silvermoon84]

Not a man but if a man brought his kid on one of our dates I would try to be understanding as to why

[Nikki1989]

Mature/secure men won't have a big issue with that, but the insecure, immature boy type will make a run for it.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Som, etimes explaining things to people just gives them a cheat code to hack the next time a thing happens. Ain't gonna learn shit.

[DryGermanGuy]

How about rescheduling the date, then? People can’t communicate changes?

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Yes because that tells me they will just bring anybody into their child’s lives and I’m NOT about that life. It comes as a lack of care for who’s in that child’s life

[exitseven]

My wife used to bring her little sister on our dates. I did get annoyed at times but I married her anyway.

[Berethor]

Single moms are a red flag, most men don't want to raise a child who is not their own.

[ProbablyClueless]

I would not have any problem with that at all. I'd hope it wouldn't become a regular part of date nights though.

[fivebyfour]

I would be cool with that, it removes the thing about sizing each other up for sex, a better way of getting to know each other imho,,,

[Twalli]

If I know she's a single mom, yes. The fact is, thst if you're dating a single parent you need to realize that you probably won't be their first priority.

[jahaims]

I wouldn't date anyone with a kid. Why would I take on extra baggage when their are tons of single females that don't make irresponsible choices.

[Staximus]

That is only acceptable if she is already my girlfriend. If not then she needs to find a babysitter or reschedule the date and stay home.

[PlanZ6]

If she let me know from beginning or before the date. I wouldn’t. But if she no warning I’d be mad.

[janemarie15]

No. Especially if the kid is her daughter. I really want to meet her and be close to her, just in case lol

[Hellraiser1984]

I have no problem with kids. When you date her the kids are part of it.

[Meatballs]

No I like kid's and if it saves her money for a babysitter definitely not

[LiamJHayden]

If she does not ask me, I won't be mad but I will probably cancel the date.

[AngryCarl2]

That sounds weird and creepy. I mean the guy wants to date you, not your kid.

[Anonymous]

No, men don't hate kids, they just don't like to pay for another man's kids. This is not rocket science, dear.

[Bloodparadise]

What's a kid gonna offer on a date let them do what they want.. I don't mingle

[blackeagle007]

Really? Never heard of a date when a kid is around

[qwerty2469]

Only if they kid is black or part mongrel. Id leave tp go to the bathroom and skip the date/check.

[Anonymous]

Sure, if she is my type of girl, and has no babysitter, it's completely understandable.

[Anonymous]

Not outwardly. But it would be the last date.👍

[MasterKS]

I have been with single mothers so i know how to handle it.

[dustybiker2]

"I have a kid..."

[Miristheiss]

I would never date a woman with kids.

[Anonymous]

That's not appropriate.

[Vegasrunner]

Cancel that date immediately.

[Ariesman81]

Thank her for not wasting my time

[StevenMcGarrett]

To be honest, I wouldn't date a woman with kids.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I wouldn't date a mother, but yes.

[wkhan_87]

Don't date a man who hates kids.

[Anonymous]

Fuck no I will run away

[Asker]

You sound like a little boy then.