Am I wrong for telling my autistic friends to stop pursuing neurotypical people for love?

[Anonymous]

So I’m autistic and most of my friends are autistic or neurodivergent. This may sound very unpopular but neurotypicals and neurodivergents should NOT date each other. I tell my autistic friends to don’t even bother chasing or pursuing neurotypicals. Our brains are just too different from normal brains and we’re wired WAY too differently. Some of them have dated neurotypicals and they ended up having too many fights, abuse and taken advantage of! To put it bluntly, it will NEVER work! One of my friends who is autistic is so stubborn. As a teen, she always dreamed of being with a gorgeous or hot guy. She had the biggest crush on this very cute boy but he was one of the neurotypical crowd. She wants to have the life that “normal” people have. I ask her why would she follow the social standards and go crazy over hot guys when they will break her heart. She said the guys in our class aren’t cute. There was a guy that was autistic and most of us can tell he likes her. He stares at her, flirts with her and ALWAYS asked her to eat lunch. Even one of the teachers said she rather have her given our classmate a chance than her crush because general peers aren’t so nice to special needs peers. I told her if I was her, I would give our classmate a chance and she’s better off with a guy that understands her and is autistic like her. She refused. She ended up finding out he had a girlfriend. Thin and petite. He was tall over 6ft and slim. She’s a big girl, was obese (no offense) and let’s be real, fit guys wouldn’t go for obese girls.
I have only dated neurodivergents and I’m more comfortable and I can be myself with them. I’ve only dated one neurotypical and he was a jackass. He abused me and accused me of using my autism an an excuse. My current boyfriend is also autistic.. best relationship ever! We’ve been together for three years!
Autistics please stick with autistic people. Neurotypicals aren’t going to want to date us.

[ohsheeT]

I think you mean well and you would be right. Well at least your right for you and how you see it and feel about it. But know matter who we are in life and people give us titles we try to be different and better and we don't like any telling us who to be or how to be.

You could label me as a jack ass and sure I would except that. But if your going to be so kind to give me that title. Then it's not right or fair if you font list all my titles.

Im a dad. I'm a good friend. I'm a house builder. I'm a welder. I'm an owner of a business I'm a lover. I'm a seeker of truth I'm a helping hand the list goes on and on..

I also look at autistic kids or people as being borderline genius

I also look at them as being telepathically. I also look at them trying to stay out of the spotlight

I think you are very wise and smart and I think your heart is in the right place. But if you want to teach someone if you want to guide some you have to do it from your heart. And I believe you did and you do and you have its your words that you havebto change up a little. Your very passionate about the things you believe in. And I love that

Try something for a week do you have thoughts come in to your head that might not be yours. Pay attention to this and see what you can learn about it.. because maybe the reason why people fight like you said it's because of frequency like a radio station play in the radio it travels through the air just like telepathically it travels through energy take your title of autism or autistic and learn something more powerful. If you can I'm not saying you have to do it but.
You're smart enough 2 figures is out.
And if you did, you would help out so many people.

We are all spiritual beings before we are made of water and atoms. Atoms, Brooklyn eagl is energy everything.
And it travels through frequency.

It's like people that have anxiety. I believe because I hear things traveling through the air in sound. It's so minute that they can't hear it but they feel it and it makes them feel some thing and they have anxiety attacks

Understand in the human body in eachspell has the energy of The Big Bang Theory. That big Bang now put that big Bang in each one of our cells. Do you know how much power that is? It's more powerful than a thousand nuclear bombs

Anyway good job for looking out you have a beautiful heart

[Asker]

Awww thank you so much

[ohsheeT]

You are very welcome and I see that you have like. I said a beautiful heart and you're a good friend. But the thing about life\nIs it? We are all here for a reason. And we all have to experience life to understand that reason

And at the same time, I just said that this might be a reason. No reason is to help people see things in a different light. So I think that's cool

[Anonymous]

What a moronic take.

So you're telling me that my wife and I should not be together.. That because she's autistic, she and I shouldn't have fallen in love. Your entire argument is idiotic.

Mind you my wife and I have been together for 12 years, 10 of it married.

It's like you paint all of us NT people with the same brush. It's just as bad as the morons who paint all autistic people with the same brush. It's discriminitory, evil and wrong.

If you truly believe the diarrhea you're typing here then I pity you. People like you are what's wrong with both communities.

[Opinion Owner]

Basically I will stack my 12 year long relationship and successful marriage. against your idiotic take any day.

[HollyK21]

I genuinely hope that the asker has enough guts to respond to this with any sort of argument, you blew her clear out of the water. Her opinion is grossly self-centered and misguided, and she really needs to stop giving such shitty advice to her friends. I hope even more that they don’t fucking listen or be discouraged by her horrible opinions. I wish her friends could meet you and your wife so they could see how wrong this idiot of a woman actually is.

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed. Holy shit man. Replace her question with "am I wrong for telling my white friends to stop pursuing black people for love?" and she's an instant racist.

She either believes what she said, or she didn't think before she asked this question.

[HollyK21]

You couldn’t be more correct, and congratulations to you and your wife on 12 years of success! This is exactly what the asker needs to see👍

[Opinion Owner]

I honestly can't imagine my life without her. She's the best thing that ever happened to me.

[Screenwriter]

In general, I can see your points. But you have to let your friend find her way through the school of hard knocks.

I would never say only be with one kind of person because you're that type and it'll be more comfortable to be with people exactly like you. There are accepting people everywhere. Maybe it's unusual that neurotypical and autistic people will couple. But this is not to say that that is impossible.

Your friend needs to learn the signs that someone is or is not interested in her. Help her to learn this. There are slim guys who like big women. This is a minority of slim guys. But they exist.

Train her to be more aware so she won't waste her time. I know this will be especially difficult due to her autism. But tell her you love her and want the best for her. You do not want to see her hurt by pursuing people who are not interested in her.

That's all you can do. Maybe time and experience will teach her what you've found out already. But give her positive support. Allow her to make her mistakes. Maybe she'll eventually see what you're talking about. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Remove autism.
You can't live others lives for them. If you are their friend you support them through their mistakes and triumphs. That is living. We all have our own choices.

[Anonymous]

No. I agree. Let the normies date the normies.👍

[Asker]

Makes sense. I’m not trying to tell autistic people what to do but I think it’s for the best. Normal people date normal people. Autistic people date autistic people. It doesn’t work when normal and abnormals date.

[HollyK21]

Definitely wrong.