Girls, Have You Been Mostly Receptive To Guys Cold Approaching You? Guys, Has Cold Approaching Had A High Successful Rate For You?

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Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Cold approach has never worked for me.
It’s not really my style. I have to have detected some commonality or connection to even attempt to get to know someone better. The coldest i’ve ever approached was a young woman who worked at my local record store. She was beautiful and friendly, and very knowledgeable about music; including some of the lesser known bands and artists i was a little obsessed with back in the day. I can’t tell you how many hundreds of dollars i needlessly spent in there just trying to get to know her better. When i finally went for it, she let me down about as easy as can be done. I think. I even expected it because i didn’t feel the spark. So i didn’t think she did either. Which makes the rejection a little rougher. I thought i could woo her and she thought otherwise. 😂😂😂
She did say she had a fella, and he might have been one of the dudes that worked there. Her boyfriend might have watched a strange guy ask his girlfriend out. I didn’t go back for weeks. She was still very nice and none of the other staff made me feel uncomfortable, but it was still awkward for me.
I’ve had a couple of one night stands that sparked in a bar, but i feel like that’s different.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I approach beautiful girls’ first with a friendly
Conversation before I even consider asking her for her phone number or making any moves on her , it’s the respectful thing to do , because she doesn’t know me and I don’t know her , we are strangers to each other , so it’s best not to creep her out or freak her out , so in most cases this approach has worked for me to get her interest when girls’ cold approach me , whether I am attracted to her or not, I am still polite to her and not rude at all , I think people that are rude right from the start are complete assholes that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves , so I choose not to be rude or disrespectful, I will only become rude or disrespectful if she doesn’t take No for an answer

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Well I was always nice to guys who cold approached me but it seemed to happen more when I had a partner. Now it's probably because I don't dress girly anymore so dudes just sometimes stare at me or walk by me lots of times looking but I don't have the confidence to greet them first lol.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I said no. I’ve never trusted a guy that just came up and asked me on a date or for my number. Just start a conversation instead. The worst that can happen is you leave having had a simple chat.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well this just depends I think most women are rightfully cautious of random men approaching them. They don’t know who you are or what your intentions are. Especially unfortunately most men approaching random women who are let’s just say attractive men 9/10 want sex. There are men doing cold approaches who want a genuine relationship.

It all depends on the woman as well as the way you go about it. You’re taking a risk too…. Be cautious. You don’t know her well yet.

HawkPerception · Answer

The last 2 girls I've approached at the bar were extremely rude. And I didn't even have any intention to hit on them. I was just being friendly, inviting them for conversation with a friend and myself when I saw them alone. I even told them, if they're waiting for someone, they could have conversation with us until they arrived, just to prevent their boredom

Zack-Bann · Answer

I will answer from the guy’s perspective (obviously)
I rarely cold approach

I get why it’s a skill and some people do make it work and all that
But I feel like it’s a large investment into a total stranger on the street

But I did say rarely not never

Because if I see a girl I truly feel attracted to I will see it as a worthwhile attempt

I wouldn’t say I have a perfect record. I don’t.

But I do succeed more often than not simply because I don’t take too many long shots

People will say “play the numbers game”
But really it just means get used to be rejected over and over
I prefer meaningful dates and meaningful rejections whenever possible

msc545 · Answer

I used to do really well when I called approached women with a success rate of about 80 to 90%, but that was several years ago and things have changed. It turns out that cold approaching women is now legally risky if the woman doesn't like it and I have stopped doing it mainly for that reason. This is also made it very difficult to meet women for dating and I've given up on that as well as it also is extremely dangerous legally.

I like it when women approach me and of the ones who have over the years and there have not been very many. Their success rate has been close to 100%. I've had a lot of sex that way in a lot of good times that way and met some really good friends as well who I still have.

I think the world does a lot better place and a lot nicer place when women approach men. I wish they would do it more often.

Staximus · Answer

I don't hit on or ask a woman for her phone number unless I've already had a conversation with her and know she's receptive to it. I will strike up random conversations with random women to see if they are interested, though

slatyb · Answer

I've met almost everyone I've been with on a dating app. When I do meet women face to face, they respond to me because I don't ask for anything. Ask for nothing and they will give you everything.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No, not really. But I’ve mostly been approached in a school setting where everybody sort of knows everybody else anyway.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

No the handful of times most women seemed to just smile politely and wave it off with some excuse of. mmmmuttering

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think most girls would prefer to know more about the guy on a dating platform or socials or via friends first... but who knows!

Anonymous · Answer

I do not like to be approached by people I don't know. I think it's rude and invasive.

Jennz6 · Answer

My line of work I am available to any approach 💃

LiamJHayden · Answer

I estimate my success rate as between 10% and 15%. I'd rather take a lot of swings and get some hits than sit on the bench.

Anonymous · Answer

I never actually approached because I'm too shy. I need a self-confident girl who likes to take initiative.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I don’t really need to cold approach women. I get approached by women all the time.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Talking/complimenting/charming/helping women in public via cold approach is the BEST way to get results.  It's unexpected. Authentic. The opportunities are infinite.

Kelley1 · Answer

If they are HOT, that or most anything works. Otherwise, don't waste my time.

Anonymous · Answer

I hate being approached and never give chance to people who approach first but I've had about 90% success rate when approaching guys by myself amd 0 success with girls

Anonymous · Answer

Not often but it has happened

Anonymous · Answer

Cold approaching is illegal here

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