Why do people get mad when their actions cause negative reactions and other people find a way to protect themselves, maneuver, or take advantage?

[Anonymous]

A man said, "Guys are so starved for positive attention that a simple compliment will likely get him interested in you."
He said it was a secret among the guys that women didn't know. As a woman, I chimed in to disagree.
We know men like compliments. In fact, some women use it to easily take advantage of men.
In spite of this, I responded with his own words
"A simple compliment will likely get him interested in the woman" and he said that this point on why women might not compliment men was irrelevant. Not only that, but someone chimed in that I should be open minded and see it as a reminder. I disagreed and said that the women are being held accountable for men's actions. I was dismissed because he still believed, it's irrelevant. Overall, this is a pure example of society. Specifically, men and women's relationships and why women don't approach men or compliment men.

1. We don't know how it's going to be received
and we're putting ourselves physically at risk
(I would be more confident in giving a compliment if I was a 5'10 man standing in front of a 5' 5 woman)
2. When you're giving a compliment, you're interrupting that person's life because you feel compelled to share your opinion of what you think of them. (Again safety comes first) Because
3. Society will side with man, over the woman, unless it's some drama that they can monopolize.
What was she wearing? What was she doing?
Compliments are literally people going out their way. So if he " get interested in her" , follows her, get rejected and she gets hurt by him.
Society's will split the discords between she should of minded her business and she needed to be more vigilant before approaching men. This is when actions causes reaction. It's not a secret, but calling it one, calling it a reminder, saying it's irrelevant, removes the blame men play in this and puts everything back on women. Women have enough examples from others and experienced cat calling while we ARE minding our own business.

[ohsheeT]

Well not sure that guy knows what he's talking about and if he's talking about himself that's boring lol

[Nikki1989]

It is a defensive emotional response. It is a sign of profound immaturity and a desperate attempt to avoid accountability for their own negative actions. Some men are masters at this game.

[Anonymous]

You could have just typed "women are always the victims".

You would have said the same thing and saved yourself a whole lot of time.😆

[Asker]

Well, I disagree with that statement
Like I said, some women take advantage of men

[Opinion Owner]

I was referring to your 1,2,3 list. I know there are women that lead men on. Yes there are violent men. But most of those men are going to be violent regardless of what you do and they do not make up the majority of men.
Still I do think it's good you err on the side of caution. Even if your fear is embellished a bit. Better to be safe than be a victim from your own foolish actions.

[Asker]

Oh, that was for the guy who thinks it's irrelevant to the situation
and guys who think more like him.
I don't know if he'll understand, though. He couldn't even see the danger women face in his own statement.

[Anonymous]

Those both seem like natural responses. 2 and 3 are false.

[Asker]

2. isn't false, you literally have to get the other person's attention to talk
I didn't say they took it as a bad thing but the interaction wouldn't of happened if you decided not to engage
3. Isn't false men perception of who the law protects more is off.
Perverted men are more praised and normalized. Different things society teaches women to let men slide, but when something happens to that specific woman, she feels like it's wrong. However, you have other women and men saying "boy will be boys" like men can't control themselves
They doubt the woman trying to make up scenarios, put holes in her story, and change the victim to the man for "getting slandered"