I understand people want to present their best self but at what point is it lying? Do you use filters on your pictures to make yourself more attractive to others?
Is using filters on your dating app profile LYING?
In life we learn to put our best foot forward. Learn new skills, to boost your career. Adapt a style so you look more professional. Study more to acquire more knowledge. Network to obtain insight into various interests or even work prospects. Get professional headshots done as they look better on a website, CV or work profile.
On a dating profile, I think it's the only time when you need to be as authentic as possible. Yes you can post a really good picture of yourself but if you know that's not how you look a lot of the time and it's been enhanced, smoothed, more importantly aesthetically more appealing I think that would be deemed as lying.
You are pretty much pressuring yourself to live up to an expectation you cannot possibly meet.
Isn't it better for someone to fall in love with you for you rather than your potential?
But if you've looked through your photos and they're all selfies on a average day. I urge you to get out there live and laugh a little, and if you can mark those times with a photo.
You always look better when you're surrounded by the people you love.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
6 mo
As a photographer, SIGH!, one of the things I tell clients during consultations is that I am not your plastic surgeon. You aren't going to fool anyone if you show up with a set of photos I've changed and added filters to where suddenly you've lost 50lbs, or that huge birthmark on your shoulder has magically disappeared. We are who we are, and if you want a relationship where someone is getting to know YOU, and not some fake wanna be image you think they will like, then be yourself in pictures. For women, make-up is it's own sort of filter but going far beyond that to literally altering your facial structure...come on. Same goes for guys. You want the person to fall for you not be disappointed you fail to meet the fantasy which is what extreme filtering and photoshops are.
I would say that touching up the photo make it into a good photo is ok. That’s photography 101.
But when a filter distorts your face into someone else entirely that will only cause problems
I remember distinctively matching with a girl on an app and my friends said “damn she’s the female equivalent of a fighter jet”
We go on a date. She was 2 feet shorter and like 40 pounds heavier than all her pictures It was a whole different person
I gave her a chance anyway but quickly realized we didn’t have much to talk about and she clearly was a little desperate for a relationship which is a turnoff
Went our separate ways (wasted an evening)
So no. Don’t use filters to change who you are unless you can change reality to match the filter
Yes. If it isn't genetic and it morphs the structure of your face instead of simply flattering it, you're setting a false standard.
As superficial as beauty is, it still passes to your children and decides their ability to enjoy their life and procreate.
So if I date a woman who had a nose surgery from a rhino to a proportional form, I expect her to tell me before it starts to matter.
But if I date a woman that wears make up that changes her face, I myself can't even enjoy my time with her in the short and long run because she's straight up wearing a mask to make up for her insecurities. Insecurities from a topic I do mind.
When you have your first face time and he walks past you without recognizing you or he doesn't want to recognize. lol I mean what is the point to lie and to deceive in dating profile and pictures? Only people who want attention would do that because it's counter productive to find a partner who accepts you like you're.
Well kinda. I have seen old wedding photos from the 1950's that were redone too by those days technique and I don't get the point of that as well. I am not single, but when I was I would delibertly not go there as I needed to get to like myself, my looks, more as natural. Plus I felt nervous if I looked like that I had to keep it going and what if he did not approve of me with less or without. It was better then to just get it over with. What I noticed is that it did not make a difference in how a guy acted. It was all in my head.
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Anonymous
(18-24)
6 mo
I’m not on dating apps cuz im taken and not looking, but i do use filters on friending apps and so are the friends i made on there? It doesn’t take much to understand people don’t look exactly the same without makeup and filters but that’s just life? Sometimes people are even at different weight but again weights fluctuates and that’s just reality? the pictures i put on friending apps are like me but like 10 kg heavier and noone bat an eyelash lol Drastically changing your facial features with filters is something completely different tho.
Maybe, but not so much. As long as you resemble the photograph, it's ok. No one looks exactly like the photo they posted. Just don't post an out of date photo. I met one woman and thought "How old was the picture you posted? It looks like it was ten years and a hundred pounds ago."
Because of the great difference between the picture posted and her appearance when we met. If she had used an age regression filter on a current picture, I wouldn't have cared, and probably wouldn't have noticed. She didn't look old for her age, but she posted a picture when she was ten youngers younger and a hundred or more pounds lighter. The picture showed a woman of perhaps 135 pounds (60kg). The woman I met must have been 250 pounds (115kg). I was not amused.
I think it kind of is yea I don't like it when I can tell there's a filter on because it makes me think I might be being catfished. Honestly though the biggest problems I have with dating apps is the rigged algorithms, elitism and unreasonable standards it's created in the dating world.
Filters aren't necessarily lying. Try taking a photo of a plate of food, it'll often look washed out and nothing like what's in front of you. A filter helps restore it to what it actually looks like.
Photographers have been using filters for decades to help highlight colours and contrasts in their work, it's not lying just helping the camera do it's work.
All you're doing is wasting your time, because any rational guy that sees you show up not matching the picture you posted is just going to leave and then you're just going to be sitting their holding your dick when they just laugh at you and walk out.
Its a form of deception yes and bad for ones self-esteem.
Using AI to change one's looks means admitting that you don't consider yourself good looking enough and you will be comparing yourself to the fake you that you are advertising.
What you see nowadays definitely isn’t always what you get especially when it comes to online dating. As for filters, photoshop or altering a photo it’s definitely lying.
Like a girl with a push up bra, that’s false advertising.
I don't use dating apps, but if I did I wouldn't use any filters on myself. If a lady does that's fine. I can tell when a lady does, usually it's quite obvious. I also have an app that can remove makeup to see what a lady looks like without makeup on.
A little filter for lighting or color isn’t lying, but anything that changes how you actually look can be misleading. Keep it real, you want people attracted to the real you.
No, according to definition: "A lie is a statement that is believed to be false" (statement implies verbal application). Filters on dating apps are visual, they may be called "deceptions", but they are not the same as "lying about something".
No offense but that is only one definition of “lie” another is to lay in a specific position. If you continue to read the definition further than the first entry you’ll realize that it also included to “present a false impression; be deceptive”
Opinion Owner
6 mo
Of course - lying in English language is to lay in specific position, but not in my language. However, lying is verbal, deception is visual, so it's not the same.
So what you’re saying is that a lie can only be verbal? So if I say I have $1 million that’s a lie BUT if i write it in a text that’s true. 🤔 after all I didn’t speak it “verbally” so therefore (according to you) it can’t be a lie. Clearly you have this world figured out.
Then there’s that saying, “I don’t believe my lying eyes” which clearly means my eyes are verbalizing a lie.
Opinion Owner
6 mo
Don't pretend to be naive, writings are written words - still verbal. 😏 If you draw something, that wouldn't be considered as verbal. The eyes can only verbalize a lies when they read the written lies. Therefore - yes, lies are verbal only (auditory/hearing them or visual/reading them).
So what you’re saying is a “lie of omission” isn’t a lie because you didn’t say it. So if you shake your head “no” when the correct answer is “yes” that’s not a lie? Good luck with that philosophy. Also there’s a difference between written and verbal. One is visual and one is auditory. If they were the same then there wouldn’t be two different words for it. If you lie about someone verbally it’s slander if you lie about them in writing it’s libel. My advice to you; learn the difference between things and be more humble when you’re are wrong which you clearly are.
Opinion Owner
6 mo
No, of course it's not a lie if you don't say something (maybe you forgot). Shaking head is a gesture, do you know what gesture is? "A gesture; a motion of the body or limbs in speaking, or in representing action or passion, and enforcing arguments and sentiments" - Therefore, gesture represents words, not pictures, images, or instagram filters. As I said, words are verbal, regardless of being spoken or written - they are not photos or paintings. Good luck with your arrogance, cause you're the one who is wrong here ;)
Yes and do you realize that verbal is defined as “spoken rather than written” if someone is nonverbal it specifically means “not speaking” Also what you are explaining are forms of “expression”. Writing, speaking, painting, gestures, etc all of which are different and are NOT the same.
Opinion Owner
6 mo
See the definition if you don't understand. Verbal: "Of, relating to, or associated with words" (as you know, words can be either spoken, or written). Gestures are like sign language for mute people, they can be used for confirmation or negation. However, pictures, paintings, photos, and instagram filters can't - why not? Because different people have different interpretations of images. Therefore, images can be used for deception, but they are not "lying". Get it? ;)
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