Why do some girls get off on hurting a good guy?

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I experienced these type of girls a few times in my lifetime , I treated her the same way I wanted to be treated in return , with kindness, respect, loyalty etc.. and in the beginning she loved every second of it , but as time went on , she decided she didn’t want that anymore, and wanted more of a bad boy type , that treated her like shit , So those relationships ended and i was left with a broken heart so i eventually decided not to be such a nice guy anymore to girls’ because being nice guy just lead to having my heart broken eventually. When I started being a not so nice guy and leaned more into being a bad boy to girls’ , and acting like I didn’t care , my relationships with girls’ would last longer , which blew my mind, and it pretty much taught me , to balance between good and bad to a girl to keep her by my side , and it seems to work for the most part , it seems girls’ always want opposite of what she already has , which is why I say girls’ are selfish people. that are never satisfied with whatever they have. I would love to find a girl that isn’t that way , but so far I haven’t found her and don’t know if she even exists to be honest

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

I too have noticed that when I act like an asshole, women seem to be more attracted to that, but being an asshole is just not in my nature. I do it when I have to, but not as a characteristic.

It is a sickness in women of our culture (western world) to be drawn to men who are disrespectful, immoral, delinquent, abusive, showing no love, etc. And they also seem to think they are showing spite and malice towards men who are decent by choosing those other toxic guys, but in the end the joke almost always ends up on those women, who eventually get burned or humiliated by those bad boys they wanted so badly. That is why I stay what I am. Ultimately I am the winner and have often garnered more respect from people for carrying a quiet fire that makes them uncertain of what they think I really am. Whereas, people often fear the more aggressive man but deep down they do not really like him, they are just afraid of him.

A man shouldn't be a softy or a pushover, definitely not. But he doesn't need to be this aggressive asshole that our culture's toxic women are so drawn to out of their own uncleanness. It does seem like it's hard to find more upright women in our culture - and it probably is in today's world, but they do exist even if they're harder to find.

FreakInTheBedroom · Accepted Answer

So my ex wife was just like that and in the end before I left her I could see the hate in her eyes sometimes when looking at me and I did nothing but try to make her happy all the time which that was a joke and I tried figuring it out for years what had happened to my wife because the woman I was with looked like her but like changed over night or some shit but never came back as she was before the first issues I myself noticed... well turns out she was a narcissistic af person and I could go deep into this conversation but I dont really want to right now

RandomGirl42 · Accepted Answer

I read many of your questions but I am never really sure if what you are asking is what you are really asking. You seem like an intelligent , thoughtful man who got hurt very badly and it left you bitter and confused.

Some girls get off hurting others for same reason guys do. Masochism/Sadism can play factors. Psychological reasons that you are well aware of, etc. So, you know the answer. I wonder what it is you really want? Someone to tell you that true love does exist and that someday you will find a woman that you can share your life with who will not play with your head, heart and emotions like in the past?

I believe so and I really wish for you that you find it. Or it finds you. Sometimes the universe works in really funny ways.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Some girls get off on that the same way some men do. If you’re continually attracting that type of person I would take a hard look at yourself to see why that is. I think sometimes we unconsciously go for what is familiar for better or for worse.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Maybe being treated well makes girls think you will expect the same treatment from them, and they are just too lazy to give you the same treatment in return. In other words, being with a bad boy is easier.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

It usually has nothing to do with the guy being “good.”

Some people act out from their own wounds, insecurity, fear of intimacy, ego, or a need to feel in control because life made them feel powerless before.

A good man just becomes the safest target, because he won’t hit back.

But it’s not about goodness being unattractive.

It’s about someone who hasn’t matured enough to handle genuine care.

Healthy women don’t get pleasure from hurting someone who treats them well.

The ones who do, are operating from unresolved damage, not strength.

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

Don't be a "good guy". Be someone who can hurt others but chooses not to. Otherwise, you're just weak and needy and women sense that. Not accusing you of one way or the other. We, as men, need to get away from this good guy thought process. You must refuse to take abuse from women who are not worth your time. State your reasons for not tolerating the abuse and what will happen if she crosses that line. Lastly, stick to your guns...

Please don't feel attacked, brother. You deserve better but you need to make that better happen. No one else will do it for you.

CherryLove007 · Answer

Well maybe try dating your energetic match... flip flopping your morals and beliefs are a slippery slope to appease women. Sounds like your creating your own hamster wheel go around.

Do you really want to be a dick for someone to stick with you.

40andabellygoingon · Answer

It’s not girls it’s people in general they are nasty. Go through life focusing on your goals and working on yourself and a good woman will notice you and want you. Never chase a woman that’s not what God intended

sage2021 · Answer

@RandomGirl42
@Finchie40

WOW! So you believe that I am NOTHING because I don't have love?
That's just not true. Other people don't make my life worth something. I do!

I think that's a horrible thing to say. A lot of people are completely single, so does that mean all of them aren't worth anything because they don't have someone to love?

Well, we don't have any of your relationship problems either!!

AngryCarl2 · Answer

The kind of girl you're looking for does exist but she's not going to throw herself at you, in fact you probably won't even notice she's there.

But yes, most girls hate simps and they have a very low threshold of bordeom. And those are the girls that most guys want to get with, if they are honest.

OneViewpoint · Answer

You offered up a doormat and they used it. Standards and boundaries dude. Never show you are afraid to lose her. Fail to do that and she may get comfortable, feel like she has no risk. Some people will interpret kindness and thoughtfulness as weakness. They lose respect for you. Never offer up everything they want on demand when they want it. Learn the word "NO" and use it regularly without apology.

Anonymous · Answer

How many wars ago was it that Congress declared the wars a war again?

Fuck 'em. They are murdering hundreds of thousands of Americans with tainted drugs in collusion with China including someone I knew. They are inviting enemies of the United States including China, Russia and Iran to set up military bases right in our back yard.

They destroyed one of the richest countries in the world (their own) with their socialism, emptied their prisons and insane asylums and dumped tens of thousands of violent criminals into the United States over the Democrats open border under Biden's watch. And hundreds of thousands of other Venezuelans broke into our country under Biden when they ran out of zoo animals and pigeons in the parks to eat in their country after they went from capitalism to socialism.

It is about time we get that bastard out of leadership there. It won't take much. They may not have to even fire a single shot to get it done.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Radical Feminist Disorder. That's why men should have 3  interview  dates before any intimacy starts. There is a list of subtle questions out there to ask which will reveal them. And when we are in risky business and public settings, wear a wire and tie-tack cam. There are truly predators out there that want men to burn. We stupidly think women are addicted to love and sex like we are. Not true. They want power, money, prestige and trophy bling. They use sex as a corral.

ElaHop · Answer

They are angry and want to take their problems out on innocent people

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They're sick cunts!! Just like any guys that'd do the same to girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Then a good man should use his mind and not choose the bad girls.

Geminiaqua · Answer

lack of challenge but dont change for anybody, be you and somebody will dig it

melanieeeB · Answer

Buddy! Move on and work on your self esteem. It seems like she dodged a bullet and did the right thing by moving on, you should also move on too

noohair · Answer

This might be called running into the Woman’s Prerogative. I have empathy for you.

MJVillarama · Answer

Some people are drawn to what challenges them, but that doesn’t mean all girls are like that. The right person will appreciate your kindness without needing you to switch personalities.

msc545 · Answer

Because they can, and there are no consequences for their bad behavior. Women in general are not held accountable for much of anything, and they know it and they relish it.

Twalli · Answer

Girls like that don't stay single for long. They find a guy who wants them, like you, and the guy doesn't let them go, because he knows how special she is.

jahaims · Answer

Hurt people hurt. It's an unhealthy coping mechanism

DavyJ · Answer

Probably the same reason men do it to women. It’s not a trait that’s exclusive to women.

ABC1x1x · Answer

Because "good guys" aren't good at all and deserve hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they think they'll look cool in front of their girl friends,

SolitarySolace · Answer

Because women like violent men

AgentG111 · Answer

They are females. Enough said

Anonymous · Answer

because she is out of your league?

Anonymous · Answer

It's a powertrip for them

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