Would you go out with someone 9 years younger than you?

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kmg9150 · Accepted Answer

I read your reason why you asked. Well Think about what he didn't do, he didn't choose to lie to you, string you along, try to date both you, etc…. You’re upset with the guy because you feel and got rejected after feeling like you guys hit it off…. Welcome to the life of a man, where rejection comes in many forms constantly. Sounds to me like he's a decent guy already.

For the lady that brought up military and possibly being a rep…. Like come on, really? So you would let something created society that is used to stereotype who a person is cause what could be the love of your life slip away? So what if he voted for Trump, literally every President and human being for that matter has done things people dont like but it doesn't make a person who agrees with them a bad person. What if I revealed vile acts that Dems have done throughout the years, hmm, like slav€ry, the most damaging domestic conflict America has ever experienced, the induction of Eugenics practices on private citizens (if you dont know what Eugenics it would be a good history lesson) which is how Planned ParentH came to be and how its intentions are still aligned with the Eugenics movement…. I could go on, would you suddenly change your political view and have a new disdain towards everyone who favors the left? Now dont get me wrong, Rep aren't innocent either, they just haven't been to blatantly obvious….

And no I am not a republican, I claim no loyalty to anyside because ultimately they dont care about us. And their success relies on keeping the citizens in a continuous state of internal confliction. The left is supposed to be all about inclusion, equality, dissolving discrimination, etc…. Unless theyre republican, then its ok put all those things into practice….

But is it better to judge from areas of opinion or by how you and others are treated through their actions?

Also, relationships with a greater age gap tend to last longer, due to more understanding of differences and less caring what people think about their choice to be together.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

When I was 53, I dated a girl who was 36. I am now 70 and married to a woman who is 62.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

The life experience between 22 and 33 is a bigger difference than the difference between 40 and 49. So, it's more of the ages you're talking about, rather than just the 9 years.

You have to consider the person you're considering too. Dating that person will tell you a lot about them. I wouldn't write them off, but, 22 is "just out there" while you've been out there a decade longer. Likely not living at home, etc...

But you'll find out the differences. No harm in trying.

Demetria5 · Accepted Answer

I’m dating someone 10 years younger then me actually. Plus I don’t drop under 25.

HawkPerception · Answer

Yeah for sure. I think most men would agree with that.

Age genuinely does not matter, and if I didn't care to have kids, I'd be willing to date a 50 year old (I've seen some bombshell older ladies who stay in shape).

The only thing that matters to me is compatibility, which for me is about similarities. Similar views, interests, sense of humor, aligning goals, sexual compatibility, etc.

And yes, a 9 year gap would be a bit of a generational gap (like I might have watched different shows or listened to different songs growing up, but those don't matter much to me at all).

A 9 year gap isn't even incredibly uncommon. My friend got married to her husband a year and a half ago and he's 16 years older than her. Same as my cousin. She married her husband who's 16 years older than her and that was like 15 years ago. Then my grandparents on my mom's side had a 15 year difference as well.

There's a dominant submissive dynamic in the relationship between men and women. Women generally like a guy "at least" older than them. But also bigger, stronger, taller, and at their level of intelligence or more intelligent. And for men, it's vice-versa. And that relates to the bedroom as well.

Age only matters to sheep in my opinion. As long as you're past the age of puberty, there's mutual attraction, and consent on both sides, age does not matter.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , mainly because I don’t hold age as a deciding factor to a certain extent , all that matters is you have great chemistry and connection together and enjoy spending time with each other , some younger people have better manners and more mature than people are age or older , so chemistry and connection and attraction is where it’s at

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yeah, the greatest age disparity i’ve been involved with was over twenty years.

AviatorTom · Answer

I have, so I guess the answer is Yes

Berethor · Answer

Sure, as general rule younger is better, it usually the young one who should be asked if he/she would date someone older, people at twenty are at their prime, they didn't hit the wall.

abc3643 · Answer

I would have yes. In fact, I am talking to a woman right now who I had a crush on. She is almost 16 years younger than me now. I was 36 when I met her; she 20. This was back in spring 1999. I just found her again this week; she just turned 47 and I turn 63 in a few weeks. I am married to someone else, but, so a certain extent, I wish I had never left this girl's life and we might have been a couple. But the age gap was too large really and, in the long run, I am not sure I would have been enough for her. Amazingly, I discovered she never married or had kids.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I tried 10 years younger and no I would not like to do that again. Too immature and they always disappoint because they don't have the knowledge with woman to know what we want or how to treat us nicely. Plus you said this guy chose someone else, he most likely isn't worth a second chance especially a military dude, they cheat all the time.

Gentlemanly · Answer

I have dated women younger and older than myself and none of the relationships ended in what I ultimately want which is marriage and a family. Honestly, I would say that for whatever reason, each relationship gave me something to cherish with that woman whether it was a memory or a feeling that I can recall. I have been dating myself for the last 10 years and going to therapy to become a better mate for when the right female comes into my life and I can say I have grown a lot. Life is a journey, whether you have a partner or not, so be happy with yourself first before you get into a new relationship.

Lliam · Answer

I would have, sure.
When I was 36, I met a 30 year old named Petra. So that was a 6 year difference. We got along great and wound up living together for two years. In fact, she was the best girlfriend I ever had before I met my wife.
Petra was extraordinary. I loved her with all my heart and she loved me.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Probably not even if I was your age and definitely not now. Why do you ask?

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Age gaps don’t bother me as long as the connection feels balanced.

If the maturity, values, and intentions line up, 9 years isn’t a problem.

What matters most is how two people show up for each other.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

No, since that would make them 16 and then I end up being someone elses little bitch in prison for the rest of my life for being a pedo and that's not really on my bucket list of things to do today.

JonDough69 · Answer

I met someone online over 3 years ago. She was 19 years younger than me. We both thought we had nothing in common and in our own minds had zero expectations one the first date.

Over three years later, we are still dating and it's the best relationship we have ever had!

serious · Answer

As a man, yes I might consider going out with a woman who is 9 years younger to me but provided she is not only physically beautiful but also has a equally good personality.

smashleyy · Answer

God no😹. humour aside my answer would likely be the same if I was much older and a 9 year gap didn’t mean dating a literal child. I have always preferred men older than me

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

No, because until next month, she'd be a minor. That might be the only reason for a negative answer, though.

Spencer10 · Answer

Well I try to judge everyone as an individual... so I guess I would be a hypocrite if i said no. I would probably give it a shot.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am married, but no, I wouldn't. That would be a 27-year-old man and most likely still going through his juvenile bullshit phase.

snermcger · Answer

Cause you're 40 and she's 31. Cause you're 50 and she's 41.  Because younger people tend to be more attractive. Because many younger women prefer older men. Lots of reasons.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Well given that my lady is 8 years younger I think I’d have to say yes 😂

MemeSupreme · Answer

i wonder if chris hansen ever had a girl predator on his show lol and no

jkreuger95 · Answer

Sure. I wouldn't seek it but wouldn't turn it down if I felt like I was compatible with the girl

CherryLove007 · Answer

Duh  were all just humans trying our best to pair bond.

HighValue · Answer

No because she would be too old for me to begin a new relationship with her.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Sure if the girl is mature, friendly, loyal, open minded and have few things in common then I will date even marry her.. 😊

Coden7 · Answer

Yeah. She’d be old enough to do anything I’d be able to do, so as long as we have similar energy I don’t see why not

WonderingManII · Answer

Yes. But the main thing is if I get long with the person or not. My age consideration is always second to that.

Twalli · Answer

10 years young or older is my line. I won't date a girl under 24 or over 44, but I would if they were between those ages. My girlfriend is 5.5 years older than me.

exitseven · Answer

I used to say that ten years would be my limit so I guess I would.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure! why not? It didn't stop my parents and there was a decade between them.

genericname85 · Answer

i wouldn't do that in my 20s-30s but now i guess i would.

Counterclocking · Answer

Yes! There are women 9 years younger than me that I find physically attractive.

Jerre · Answer

Yes I would. That would put her in the 40’s. I’ll go out with anyone as long as they are of legal age.

Anonymous · Answer

No I try not to date 10 year old boys. Even when I was 10 I didn't.

ohsheeT · Answer

If I liked her hell yes

Summeroflove · Answer

I’m 23….. so. No

Staximus · Answer

Once you're past your early 20's that doesn't really matter anymore

art84 · Answer

Probably as they would be 32 years old and I am 41.

Still-alive · Answer

sure just so long as they don't mind going out with someone 9 years older than them lol

fivebyfour · Answer

I'm 62 so in terms of percentage difference it's not that much,,,

AngryCarl2 · Answer

hmm, that would make her 57. I probably would, if she was still hot.

888theGreat · Answer

Sure , my cut off is 30 years old and 5 years older

Beckybooboo · Answer

No, for obvious reasons 😂😂

OneViewpoint · Answer

Sure, I've dated women 25 years younger than me.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Yes, that's obviously not a problem. :-)

chrissykerdock · Answer

no brainer i'd go young as 18

Tarifa · Answer

Yes, have done so in the past.

sage2021 · Answer

Yes, and I have already.

Shiprex · Answer

Yes and still do but it's 12, not 9.

MisterPandemonium · Answer

No, I wouldn't date a seven year old.

RavVid · Answer

If she is up for it, I'll be fine with it.

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes I would and have.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yes. If I were single a 34 Yr old would be ok

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Make it 6 and you got yourself a deal 😂

bowenw · Answer

That would not be an issue for me.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not really They would only be 11. Not a good idea.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I would for sure

Grond21 · Answer

If I wasn't married, maybe

Floralpalmtree · Answer

I personally could never do it

shortster · Answer

Yes, 9 years is close to the ideal age gap.

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