Match blocked me on social media?

[Anonymous]

I guess I’m just trying to understand this person’s thought process. I matched with someone via a dating app. We quickly exchanged numbers and were planning to meet up. I unfortunately started feeling overwhelmed due to other things going on in my life and I let him know that I was not in a good mental space for dating and canceled plans. He seemed nice about it. Since then I had seen his Facebook and instagram pop up as suggestions. I never followed him because I felt like that would have been inappropriate. It’s been about a month and I went to check his socials because I was curious and realized I was blocked on both Instagram and fb. I feel bad and at the same time don’t understand the logic behind that. I was thinking of reaching back out to get back in touch since things have settled, but then noticed that and am thinking perhaps not the best idea to lol. I completely respect the decision, but am trying to understand and hoping I didn’t offend him.

Has anyone been on either side of this situation before? Mainly just curious and I have a hard time when I feel like I have upset someone. He is male and I am female, both in our early 30s. Thanks!

[HollyK21]

First and foremost please consider getting off the dating scene for now if you aren’t emotionally/mentally ready because that shit you did wasn't cool. Loneliness should to supersede doing the work to heal your trauma. Second, your answer as to why he blocked you is right there:


“I unfortunately started feeling overwhelmed due to other things going on in my life and I let him know that I was not in a good mental space for dating and canceled plans.”


He didn’t want to be rude in his initial response to you dropping that bomb but underneath it all he was mentally finalizing things with you because there’s no point. Blocking ensures you can’t reach out to contact him and that’s what he wanted.

[HollyK21]

**should not

[Asker]

I did take myself out of the dating scene. That’s literally the whole point…lol No one said anything about loneliness. I had a sudden traumatic family event happen that would have proven difficult to split up my time to start dating someone new. It sounds like you’re projecting your own insecurities onto this post, but I wish you well.

[HollyK21]

I’m not here to hurt your feelings but it’s also not my job to protect them. I haven’t said one disrespectful thing to you yet you’re acting like my feedback is some sort of personal attack. It’s incredibly ridiculous to make this post then fire off at commenters such as myself because you don’t like what I have to say. You don’t have to say anything about your loneliness, it’s just evident given the fact that you’d prioritize dating over dealing with the fallout from your sudden traumatic event. I don’t need to project a thing, I’m the one who’s engaged to a man who’d blow your candidates and any other man I’ve met out of the water. I’m blessed, maybe one day you’ll be able to relate. Wishing you well likewise.

[Unycorn]

Be happy that you don't waste more time - if he don't want it would not help to know why. You cannot understand everything someone's doing.

Say, maybe better now than next year.