(27F) I feel like I can’t physically get close or intimate with a guy ever again because it’s always one sided?

[Anonymous]

I 27 F have been single for 3 years almost. I briefly dated a guy in summer of 2025 but it wasn’t that serious we mostly went on a few dates then realized we weren’t on the same page. I’ve never been the same since my ex before him of 2 years traumatized me and was emotionally abusive then cheated, and my childhood crush ghosted me after pouring my heart out. I feel like at this point I’m sick and tired of getting close to people and I can’t mentally do it no more especially at almost 30 years old. I don’t have any kids, I’ve never been married. I am a woman with a good career and a loving heart, I just get taken advantage of and have terrible luck with love. Most people find me cute and or average. Why I get hurt so much is just a mystery. I like being single but sometimes I wish I had a guy to cuddle with or laugh with, go to the movies with, camping, or any other activities but I’m also content alone. I was a virgin till the age of 22 so physical sex isn’t everything to me but I’ll admit physical touch is my love language but even if I’m next to a person who cares about me it’s enough but now I’m scared and don’t know if I can ever kiss or have sex with a guy ever again because I am not valued and it didn’t mean anything as my experiences meant a lot to me not them. I just don’t care no more even tho it’s sad.

[Anonymous]

And? So then stay single. It's not a fatal condition I promise you. Be super selective. If YOU make bad choices in men (and that is probably the reality here) own that fact! Owning reality is the ONLY way this gets better.

Love, just like life is not perfect. But it should always be healthy pursuits. Otherwise it's doing neither of you any good.

Who DOESN'T like physical touch! It feels good with the right person. But the problem is it also feels good with the wrong person when you're projecting the right person onto a person who is actually the wrong person. And at some point the fact that that person is the wrong person will become clear. But physical touch is NOT the end all be all of a relationship. Maybe that is your problem. In short, maybe you have a problem with being addicted to feelings. A lot of women do.

[Asker]

I fell for a guy who was below average but I fell for his personality, we were best friends and childhood crushes. I don't know where we went wrong, we were inseparable and always there for one another. I always cared about him and think I’ll always have a place for him in my heart but he ended up ghosting me after I wanted to see how he was in life. I’m not picky at all when it comes to height or looks much I just don’t like facial hair that’s all and a guy with good hygiene is what I prefer it just sucks because I’m a caring open minded woman and still end up hurt…

[HighValue]

If you are a good person, and at least a 5 or better in attractiveness, my advice is to find a man that many women thinks he hates women based on his opinions. He likely has strict morals and wouldn't treat you that way and once he sees that you aren't so evil and corrupt like the majority of women, he'd value you and want to be together. Also, never go to bars or clubs to find a partner because that is where most of the low quality people go that aren't good for a relationship.

[Asker]

I was in love with a guy who was below average but I didn’t care about literally any of that or what people would think or say about us. He was a childhood crush in matter of fact. I loved his personality and our vibe and I poured my heart out to him years later only to be ghosted. It’s a wound that will always stick with me because it hurt so bad especially because I thought he felt it too but eh life just sucks.

[DishLady]

It’s ok not to want to be physical with every guy. Don’t stress over it.

[Asker]

I don't know if I wanna be physical at all with a guy anymore ever again

[sawno]

Finding compatible people can be really hard, don't give up though your guy is out there. But don't go heart first either, make sure what you two share is real before giving all the way.

[Anonymous]

It could be worse. I'm 27 and haven't even been on a date. Unfortunately, I can't chalk it up to me being unattractive or incompatible. Plenty of women flirt with me or show me attention, but I can't convert shit.