I have never dated anyone and I want to but i'm scared of intimacy how do I overcome it?

[Anonymous]

[Jamie05rhs]

You're scared of intimacy? The way to overcome that is by getting closer to the other person slowly and gradually over time. Don't put any pressure on yourself or the relationship. Just go all in and give it all you've got -- at a Slow Pace. But the key here is put your EFFORT into it but don't put your EMOTIONS into it. Save the emotions for later. Only let them out once you've established a basis of understanding with the other party and you're on the same page about both liking each other and both seeing the other as a potential partner.

[Jamie05rhs]

by the way, just in case you were talking about SEX, that is NOT what I'm talking about. So if you want to ask me about sex, I'll answer that separately.

[Asker]

nope I wasn't talking about sex. Honestly I don't care about sex , I really want the emotional connection and trust in a relationship.

[Honesttguy]

As long as u make his dick happy he will ne happy, also ots good start to make his belly happy with some nice food, now u just became marriage material

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Are you scared of committing?
Scared of being vulnerable?
Scared of sex/physical closeness?
Scared of trusting someone?


It’s hard to overcome any of those, but you either have to learn as you go, or reach out for help from a therapist to try and guide you in a professional manner…

[Anonymous]

Ahhhh trust me, you are good on your own.
You will find your soulmate eventually. And it will be magical :)

[Honesttguy]

Khe hem, thats straight TV programming right here in action spreading further, be careful believing fantasies like that, real world is different than TV shows it.

[YoitsEl_Baby]

I think it’s because you’ve never experienced it but when you do it’s something so nice, like a special feeling between the two of you

[Asker]

yeah I have never experienced it hence I am worried what if I don't do it right

[YoitsEl_Baby]

there’s no wrong way to do it, once you guys feel comfortable with each other, you guys would begin to open up to each other and really connect

[jahaims]

You can't be scared of intimacy and be in a healthy relationship. Figure why it scares you then go from there

[GMANN56]

Just take it slow. Don't rush anything. Get what you need from it
before you worry about the other person. Keep the communication
flowing.

[zagor]

Start by getting more comfortable in social situations.

[joeldalton]

What are you scared about, specifically?

[Asker]

What if the guy finds me boring or what if I am not doing enough to make him happy

[Asker]

or what if he finds my lack of experience not worth being with me

[joeldalton]

Have you ever had the power to control other people?

[Asker]

no..

[joeldalton]

So you can't control if someone finds you boring, or doesn't like your lack of experience. Would you even want all guys to want you?

It's like Chinese food.

Some people love chinese food
Some people hate chinese food
Some people like chinese food but aren't in the mood for it right now.

That doesn't make chinese food objectively bad or good.

Same with you.

[Asker]

makes sense

[joeldalton]

so take it slowly, and enjoy.

[Asker]

yeah thanks

[CuriousMufuxka]

Well that depends on whether or not you want to stop being weak.

[noohair]

What happened to you when you were young?

[Asker]

I never got the kind of affection kids are supposed to get. I was also sexually assaulted by a teenager when i was 8 years

[noohair]

Have you tried some kind of therapy?

[Asker]

I have just talked about it with my friend that's all

[noohair]

There is professional therapy that I believe, would benefit you. All the best.

[Asker]

thanks

[BarryLiverstone]

With experience

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you done your research?

[Ayaan00001]

Noone is perfect