Do men from upper class environments successfully date and marry women from upper middle class families?

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I’ve dated right across the socioeconomic spectrum, but I had some bad prior experiences where I genuinely liked some rich men for who they were and they thought I was beneath them, for anything serious. I decided I would rule out rich men in future. Just date poorer and middle class men; but I never met any I could relate to, because I’ve had an unusual lifestyle for someone from a middle class background.

So I relate better to the very rich, because of growing up travelling and having exposure to people of all walks of life and extravagance and the very poor, because we started off dirt poor and my years of struggles trying to make my own way in life and sharing working class values. I also found that often they have more depth than other middle class people.

Now years later, I’ve fallen in love with a guy who grew up very rich and went to a private school and top university. I’m from an upper middle class family. He claims to love me too and to want to commit to me when we’ve both finished our studies, so next year.

I’m not intimidated by such things, nor do I think those facts make him superior. I just wonder, if he’s going to have elite values and then be disappointed that I don’t, or if his parents, a very wealthy academic family, are likely to disapprove and scare him off, like I’d heard of happening to a family friend’s daughter’s first marriage.

MontBlanc · Accepted Answer

Of course they can.

Class background might shape habits or expectations, but it doesn’t automatically block compatibility.

What usually matters more is shared values, lifestyle alignment, and how both people handle differences.

Social labels can influence dynamics but they don’t decide outcomes on their own.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily. Oftentimes a guy will choose a "lower caliber" woman bc she's easier for him to deal with. She'll be perhaps slightly less educated (though still enough to circulate in his social groups), or less wealthy, etc. (so he has the ability to be the hero and step in for her).

ABitShattered · Accepted Answer

I would say they can if they're independent. To be honest if you get married your nuclear family becomes extended family.

Alex-Snow · Accepted Answer

Sure I do not see what it would be an issue. There is more to relationships than money

Nikki1989 · Answer

Obviously they do.

Anonymous · Answer

U relate with rich people better? 🤣🤣🤣

Do men from upper class environments successfully date and marry women from upper middle class families?

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