Am I really a creep for dating a 24-year-old at 32 and then dumping her?

[Anonymous]

I dumped her and people are saying I am a creep. All she had to do was not do any of the following stuff she did:

1. Using me for a place to live

2. Bang other men who brag about it.

3. Lie until she’s caught

4. Tell me she’s the best I’ll ever have and that I should put up with it. Even saying “I’m so pretty, you should feel lucky you have me even if I cheat.” She was hot, but it’s not worth all this crap.

5. Do this all for 2 years

How am I the bad guy here? According to my aunt, I am just because of our age gap.

[ohsheeT]

It depends on a lot of thing. First thing is was she you girl friend. Or a room mate and you wanted her as a girl friend but she said no so I'm sure that she did go out with other guys and tell you about them if she was just your roommate because a girlfriend is not going to do that


So I'm sure all the above is probably true but at the same time if she was adamant about not being your girlfriend and you got pissed off and kicked her out for that reason because you couldn't have your way then that's a whole different story but something doesn't add up

and to be honest it's none of my business but for whatever reasons you're always going to have somebody pissed off but you should be honest about what happened and why it happened not for any of us but for yourself

[BadApple69]

No the age gap isn’t the issue here. If you two worked out the age gap would have been good. If you two got married A 24 year old can give you a few children. If you married someone closer to your age that biological clock would be winding down. This is the advantage of an older guy with a younger woman. The benefit for her would be you being older you would be more emotionally stable, more economically stable, and probably setup with a place to live and a decent job.
It’s sad these young girls think that sex is important. To them it’s just something to make them feel good.
Dumping her was the right choice.

[MissSunshine2]

No it's an acceptable age gap, to me. Just accept that at your age, if you date people seven years younger, there's going to be a maturity gap, I think that's what your aunt is worried about. I suggest looking at people 2-4 years younger until you're in your late thirties.

[bobalife]

I don’t think it matters what people say.. someone will always have an opinion or judge. No one knows your relationship better than you due to the harsh verbal and mental health process you went through. Let it go and focus on moving forward with life.

[HawkPerception]

An 8 year age gap isn't even that big. You did nothing wrong and you should ignore the idiots who say otherwise. However, I implore you not to be a simp next time. You should have never agreed to those terms in the first place and left her the moment you saw any of those red flags.

[nolabels]

Whether or not you are a creep, and if the entire truth has been disclosed by your above-included description of the events, it certainly seems that you're not a creep in this situation, society almost always demands that there must be a bad guy.

Without knowing more details, as far as who might know who between you and her, and so on, apparently, right or wrong, society has made its call.

If the web is too complex to adequately unravel to your satisfaction, chalk it up to experience and move on.

Easier said than done, I know.

Good luck to you.

[RavVid]

I'm surprised you managed two years suffering that. Rest assured it is OK to dump a slut.

If it is OK for girls to get icks, it is OK for us to get the yucks with a girl that comes home with other guy's semen inside them. It is after all very yucky in both a figurative and a literal senses.

As for the age gap, a 24 woman is a woman and mature enough to accept or not a 7-8 year age gap.

If we use marriage as a proxy for dating,13-14% of relationships have that age gap - about 1 in 7. Not unusual by any means and you'd expect more common in the dating phase than in marriage.

Your aunts opinion may be based older women not liking competition from younger women. Older women get quite censorious of young women and men dating them so don't pay attention to her.

[OneViewpoint]

2 years? You're a hell a lot more tolerant than me. That 24 year old is for draining your balls. No more. And apparently a lot of guys have figured that out. Tell your aunt she's a moron. Check in on the 24 year old at 35 and see what becomes of her.

[Master_Debator]

I don't think you're bad. Same requests I would make except I might be even more strict.

Reality factor... women are like having to take care of child. At the same time she has a bunch of power a kid doesn't have and simps out there are just going to hate that's you're taking one of their options out of the picture for them.

For instance... You think anyone hated Bell Delphine for having a boyfriend... or just hated him for banging her instead of them?

[Anonymous]

yes, you are a creep. because it takes a creep and a guy with VERY low self esteem to put up with that shit for 2 years. you only stayed with her cuz she was hot.

this is why i always advise men to stop dating financially insecure losers who have no career, no money, unable to adequately eat on their own

[Cyfris]

Your aunt is incorrect. You're a creep because you say things like "She was hot" like that part has some kind of defence in it. You clearly were not acting on your best judgement bruh.

[Anonymous]

No, not a creep. It's only a 8 year difference. Your aunt sounds like a salty, crusty b****.😆 I get that it depresses her that guys want that girls snatch but not hers. But that's not a reason to call you a creep and she should have your back. It sounds like she's letting her petsonal feelings get in the way.

[Keyboardkat]

No, you did the right thing. Just because you are older than she is doesn't give her the right to be a user. v She sounds like a really despicable and narcisistic person.

[slatyb]

Your aunt is rather ridiculous. It's a long way from 18 to 24. She is old enough to know her own mind. You aren't like the 30 year-old who only hits on 19-year-olds.

[NoDecision]

Not the bad guy, but definitely the dumb guy to allow her to use you.

[Loki97]

You’re not, you should have dumped her sooner. As for people calling you a creep, get out of your emotions. Fuck what others think and stop doubting yourself. You sound like a bitch. Stay strong

[ammar12343]

Nah you’re fine. A 24 year old is a fully grown woman.

[Alex-Snow]

I guess it depends on why you dumped her. How long were you going out? Was the sex not as much fun?

[MereAnarchy]

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me for 2 years, shame on me.

[KimmySchmit]

No i dont think so.

[Anonymous]

I smell bullshit.

[Anonymous]

(25-29) but 32. 🙄

[Staximus]

No, you got played