Is it a bad idea to be friends with my apartment leasing agent?

[Anonymous]

I ask because I feel already an imbalance of power. Leasing agent is a few years younger then me. Weeks back our community had a social event, we chatted and exchanged #'s. That nighy she invited me to do a dance class w/her boyfriend. I did join. I met up with them again at a large social event outside of the complex. The thing is, its kinda complicated with a married neighbor in the building, whom I only talked to and we had a breif flirty connection only. I kept my distance & didn't engage with as much months back, in that time I found out about 2 of the married man's "side affair neighbors" I was trangulated after walking away. The drama here is at the pizza party I found out not through word if mouth, But energy that the maintenance mans wife is having an affair w/said married man neighbor, and the leasing agent gal and I exchanged "knowing looks" though we never outright said it.

Again, I don't care about others business.. I have no interest in the married man. Yet, the other women gwt threaten or jealous of me. Im now having doubts that I waa too open to talk to leasing agent about being single. I never mentioned the neighbor drama. I want to keep it professional, maybe not hang outside of the building anymore. I get kinda strange vibes from her boyfriend, not sure why, maybe he knows of something im not aware off... I'm being extra cautious after our 2nd hangout.

Advice, thoughts?

[SueShe]

That is a bad idea because you obviously want to have some favors. Talking with the agent is fine as long as it remains professional and friendly but that it is where it must stop.

People are no fools and being "friends" with the leasing agent will put you in conflict with other tenants when (and if) they find out you are "friends". The reason is that they will obviously see it as getting favors from the leasing agent and perhaps even a discount on your lease.

If the building owner finds out, you may be in trouble and may be evicted from the building.

[SamIam96]

You sound like a person who thrives on chaos. None of these affairs are any of your business.

What is the power dynamic? You rent an apartment. She works for the company that owns them. Who cares? If you enjoy her company, be friends otherwise don't.

[Iron_Man]

What do you hope to accomplish by having somebody you have to pay rent to as your friend do you hang out and go to the movies together no

[Asker]

I want Nothing, she is a few years younger then me. I'm gonna step back, and if she asks to hang ill decline. Let ut fade out and be polite.

[whosnumber_1]

Wow you have got yourself caught up is some kind of love, pizza, maintenance real estate triangle there. Just know your boundaries and stay away from any drama

[strateguy632]

It is because risky.

[Massageman]

Bad vibes.

[Wailee]

That is bad