Is a friends with benefits situation a good idea with a roommate?

[coachTanthony]

[CaptainOverthink]

Depends on both of your maturity, rationale and capacity to distance from emotions.

- You must first be willing to risk losing them and one of you might have to move.
- Since you live so close, you must be very careful and upfront about this with your mate because even if you'll treat it as "just sex", you'll still see eachother every day and you might catch feelings anyway.
- As soon as you suspect jealousy or an attachment forming, you'll have a decision to make.

If you both have side-things with others, you could like talk to eachother about advice and vent about stuff there. That way you'll continue to signal your relationship to be strictly sex and friendship.

[Peter_Penetrator]

If your roommate is on time with their rent; don’t shit where you eat. How would you feel if your friends with benefits came home one night and started banging someone in the next room? At some point the friends with benefits will move out leaving you to hustle up a new roommate to make the rent.


Someone always in the friends with benefits arrangement catches feelings for the other. When you are living with that friends with benefits and the other individual doesn’t have the same feelings, you may as well be married because the jealousy, anger or hurt feelings, will be the same as that of a failing marriage.

[Peter_Penetrator]

To add to my reply, you would also have to watch out because the only reason they would agree would be to fuck their way out of paying that rent. I watched an episode of Seinfeld once and Jerry had hired a housekeeper. He started sleeping with her. She quit cleaning his apartment but still wanted her money.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's risky. One might get attached, and have feelings for you.

For example, my facesitting adventures. I had someone who wanted to be my sub. Like committing to just me as a sub. I politely declined and he understood and was okay with it. Until I started to date. Boy got jealous, silent treatment, but he would come back as if nothing happened.

But he was hurt there I stopped that friends with benefits for his sake. He shouldn't be jealous if it's just a friends with benefits, no strings attached. But there is always a chance that one of you develops feelings and that's just going to be drama.

[musicbrain5]

Friends with benefits is just a bad idea all around, so no.

[AviatorTom]

Sure, looks like you have two friends.

[Leapfrog00]

It depends on the two parties involved and what they agree on. I was in a situation like that before, and it's best to have an understanding beforehand, and an agreement if any feelings evolve to let the other person know. The problem with friends with benefits is there's usually someone who wants something more because during the sex, both people are seeing a part of one another they don't usually see, a more opener side.

If both people are mature enough and are accepting of the outcome, then it's fine. The problem is usually one person isn't. So, it all depends on both parties.

[ShellyB]

NO, I don't think friends with benefits is ever a good idea actually, and w a roommate raises the risks a lot, it could be truly miserable if something goes wrong which it probably will.

I think in friends with benefits, one person or the other nearly always wants a relationship and is just taking what they can get hoping it turns into a relationship and that is why I think it usually does not end well. However there are exceptions + I could be wrong maybe it's just my social group where it doesn't work, I don't know every situation.

by the way the girl on the left is really sexy! I mean they both are but, I love her eyes and lips!

[AlphaMale1]

All friends with benefits have one problem. Eventually one or both will develop feelings for the other. If this does not happen then the friends with benefits arrangement will soon end. This just does not last as humans are not made for this type of arrangement.

[ArrowheadSW]

I know a lady who at one time had 3 friends with benefits's. (I was NOT one of them.) I was over at her place and her roommate was there. She introduced me to her, but she just looked at me sideways and walked away. My friend must have explained to her later that I was not one of the ones banging her, because the next time I was over there, her roommate was real nice to me. I think the roommate must have been tired of the revolving door...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think being friends with benefits is never a good idea. At least, for me…

[rebeliouse]

why not?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@rebeliouse Simply no! What kind of explanation does it need if it doesn’t feel right to me?

[rebeliouse]

fair enough just wondered your thoughts on it

[ItsChloe]

Bad idea! When I was in college, I was hooking up with a guy and a girl both who were my dorm mates. Neither of them knew I was hooking up with the other. And when they found out the arguments were so bad that our RA called campus security on several occasions. Needless to say I was branded a slut but I didn’t give a shit because I was hooking up with about 12 others at the same time as well anyway.

[Anonymous]

It can make things very complicated. During the COVID lockdowns I became friends with benefits with first one and then later all four of the guys I lived with. Two caught feelings and one became a jerk who thought I was his sex toy. It got very messy and I eventually had to move out and find a new place to live.

[BCRanger10]

No. Friends with benefits is never a good idea at all!

[AimeeKyle]

A roommate, probably not…but I can totally understand the reasoning for doing it. It’s all good if both remain truly friends with benefits. If jealousy or negativity come about, it will be very bad.

[Simslover92]

Yeah it's definitely a bad idea. I did it with a neighbor and it definitely didn't turn out great.

[Raaj4you]

I think it's a good idea if you are not able to find a girlfriend. If girls are not interested in serious dating then find a girl who is interested in friends with benefits. I am going to do it soon.

[Nikki1989]

Probably not. Too close to home for that.

[Staximus]

Dependsm If one person gets attached and the other starts fucking different people, the drama will get serious and you're still living together.

[Sparkie460]

I'm sure it works out for some people, others, not so much. I think it all depends on the people involved

[Screenwriter]

Sounds dicey. If the friends with benefits falls apart and the roommate exits due to this, where does this leave you financially? Unable to pay the rent?

Don't shit where you eat, as they say.

[RobT312]

Its very convenient! I like the idea. However there is a risk. If one gets emotionally attached then it could be a rough living situation

[devilish-cutie]

friends with benefits is never a good idea

[CuriousMufuxka]

Only if you wish to pay the full rent soon afterwards..

[PeteA380]

No sexual activity without it being to get pregnant is a good idea.

[sheikalana]

I do not encourage this.

[Anonymous]

Guys, are women all the same?

[msc545]

Probably a bad idea actually...

[SnowedIn]

Very bad idea.

[TheSimFans]

Nope is very bad Idea

[Wise4myage]

Sure, why not, lol.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Never marry. Never cohabitate.

[Boomchakalaca]

Just weird

[MikeTheBartender]

F U C K N O

[clampfan101]

Too risky.

[jonishere]

Nope