What dating advice would you give to the younger generation?

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CalmUntilAbused · Accepted Answer

Ahem...

Don't.

No, really. Do not. Do not date. Unless You are a masochist. Let's break down why.

Most women (say, around 99%) You meet in Your daily life are nagging girlbosses who will ruin You self-esteem... and then divorce rape You, almost literally throwing You off a cliff.

Most women (again, let's assume around 99%) You find on dating apps are attention-seeking... gulp (yeah, I've had tastier words for snacks) who will tire You out with their droning talk about themselves and then divorce rape You, almost literally throwing You off a cliff.

As I mentioned earlier, there might be some women You meet in Your daily life who will not be nagging girlbosses. Those would be cashiers, waitresses, the like... Sounds like a good catch, but You are not exactly supposed to interfere with their work, so hitting it off with them might be tricky, and failed attempts might cost You dearly, not just in money.

How about libraries? Historically, they would be good spots for finding sane women. These days, though, most women residing there will be reading some revisions of Why All Men Should Die by Man Hating Feminist (alternatively, they will be girlbosses in the making, reading some girlboss books - and if You are unlucky, they will be reading both girlboss books and some revisions of Why All Men Should Die by M. H. Feminist).

There might be some more women You meet in Your daily life who are not nagging girlbosses - You know, the ones basically hugging the walls and generally making significant effort not to be noticed as they sneak out of their homes to do some basic chores in the city. These are actually good catches, but they might panic as You approach them. Worst case, they might call the police on You in their panic. Unless You are as smooth as a man-hating feminist's brain, it's still risky - even if they do not mean any actual harm to You as they call the police on You for their own sense of security, the police and the courts will make sure You never talk to another woman (except a prison psychologist - who is likely to be yet another man-hating feminist) afterwards.

So... The cashiers, the waitresses and the city wallflowers might be good catches. If You are willing to take the risk, interact with them. As long as You manage not to interrupt or scare them, there is no further dating advice You need - they are sane, regular romantism You might have witnessed in the books You read at school will do.

On another note, the idea that women like bad boys has never been more adequate than right now. You see, except those cashiers, waitresses and city wallflowers, if You are looking for a traditional, feminine, warm, "girlfailure" girl...

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... girls of this kind stay at home! If You want to meet them, You'd have to become a burglar! Or, alternatively, You might become a VTuber. See, a lot of female VTubers, especially those reacting to Shoe0nHead videos, declare themselves "girlfailures". They are still VTubers, though. If You become a VTuber Yourself, then arrange some collaborations with these female VTubers, You might end up with one of them. Be ready for fierce competition, though.

All the above (except the VTubers, since the Internet is international) is correct for Poland. If You live any further West than Poland... Nothing. To. Do. Here. Run. Do not look back at any women as You do. Just become a passport bro. Women to the east of Ukraine will be happy to meet You!

Alternatively, You could become a VTuber, I guess, if You are ready for the kind of battle royale You will be forced into by all the sane female VTubers' viewers - the supply of sane women in the West who are available on the Internet is incredibly scarce, after all.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Materialistic and superficial relationships won’t make most people happy long term it should be about creating a connection and a bond you don’t have with anyone else. When that isn’t there most people will seek it in others which will lead to cheating and you’ll probably be eventually dumped.

Someone will always be prettier, more handsome, have more money, be taller, or stronger. People that want superficial and materialistic things are just monkey branches and this doesn’t only go for men it goes for women too. When you’re just the best someone could fine. You’ll probably be dumped later on and discarded.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Get to know people IN PERSON. Not that you can't be catfished (or lied to) in person too, but after being with someone regularly, over long periods of time, it becomes more and more difficult to put up a front.

Take your time, do a lot of different things with someone you. like to see how they behave in various situations. Have them meet friends and family. Don't have FWBs and hookups and expect anything more than what they are: sex. And sex alone feels empty and disappointing without friendship and love in the mix.

Cultivate great good friends. You might not have SOs all the time, but good friends are bolsters against loneliness and despair. Find work that pays the bills and side gigs that you value doing. If you're lucky you can get two for one!

If you have decent parents, tell them how much you love and appreciate them. Help them out when that time comes. Talk well about them when they're dead and gone. Tell good and funny stories to their grandkids.

Perform good work, take care of the planet some and be kind to those less fortunate than you when you can. Don't hurt animals, grow a few plants. Learn as much as you can about the world. It'll do you good!

Abbycado · Accepted Answer

To guys? Stop thinking you need to be 6’ or taller. It’s tiring hearing incels here push it. Real men don’t.

InknKink · Answer

Don't get overly attached to any particular outcome. Go in with a clean slate and zero expectations and you're far more likely to find the fun in it. Sometimes you mesh well, other times it's awkward, sometimes you make a new friend... and then once in a blue moon shit just goes poorly. That's life.

Oh and don't worry about rejection. If they're not feeling you that's fine. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. All it means is that the person is not a good fit. Rejection can be a good thing if it saves you from wasting time, energy, and emotional investments down the road from a poor match.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Just remember to take it easy, don't worry about the end goal so much, focus on here and now.

It's so easy to meet someone and fantacise about when future you might have with them. To the point where it doesn't register to you as fantacising, you think it's likely.

And then you find yourself trying to build/force a reality with them that will never come and a lot of the time blame yourself.

Just be present, focus on what is here today right now and be careful your best hopes and ambitions don't cloud you're ability to make decisions that make your life fulfilling.

Everyone is desperate for connection and love right now. So far as I can tell, it seems like a pretty good dating scene if you can be secure in and love yourself.

NMMan · Answer

Date with intention. By that, I mean have a pretty clear idea of what it is you're looking for and/or want, before going out there to meet potential partners. Do you want to be casual and non-exclusive? Are you looking for someone with long-term potential? Perhaps none of the above? All of that is fine. But my best advice is to know what direction you want to proceed in, be able to openly communicate that if asked, and date people whose direction aligns with yours.

Vegasrunner · Answer

I would tell young men these things.

1. Never settle for one option keep as many women as possible.

2. Understand that your value comes as you get older

3. Utilize all the technology available to help you meet women

4. Ask tough questions to women you are having sex with to learn what they generally think.

5. Focus on you money and fitness over everything

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I think the younger generation does not need my advice.

I believe youngsters, as a whole, will proceed with what they want to do instead, like any other generation I can think of. And I think it's a good thing.

EveryDayIsPretzelDay · Answer

I would tell them not to worry about dating just yet. They have a lot of other things to deal with first. Like potty training. And learning how to count, and read. Really, they shouldn't even think about dating until they've started puberty.

Emmabrow · Answer

Don't stress about your future. Be aware of what's happening around the world, not just in your city or country. Don't believe everything you hear in the news-check international small media sources.

NathanDavis · Answer

drink more water... seriously, drink... WATER

MissSunshine2 · Answer

Don't use dating apps. They're full of corrupt people.

MrChinaski · Answer

Love isn't 'clicking' or 'matching' with someone. Find someone you genuinely admire. Put the work into building love.

Zionne · Answer

traditional dating nowadays still works, but if you want to really have that dream girl then you better need a dating coach

Jeff51 · Answer

Good luck. Lol. Some on here can't even walk up to a women.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a date, so I can't speak from experience.

Honeyateleven · Answer

It's not wrong to wait for love to find you

Anonymous · Answer

Quit

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