How can I gain dating experience if I feel ugly and below average?

[Anonymous]

I got confidence but not anything else going for me. And I want to find a date, have fun with.
It doesn't have to be sexual.
Even hugs counts.
I need to improve, but I need a metric where I can

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1 mo

I dont feel ugly, that was the app rephrasing. It's just not something I feel. I have been called ugly when I genuinely asked some of my female friends (3:1) Only one said I look avg. Other part is I can create a good connection, but never convert it to a relationship. Because they open up and tell there ideal type or just tell me that I am not there type. I have been told many times that I'll be a good husband but never new what that actually means

[HollyK21]

Self esteem comes from the way you think, so work on changing that first and foremost. When you’re having bad thoughts about yourself, correct it immediately. Replace the bad thought with something more positive and uplifting, even if you don’t believe it at the time, eventually you will. The way I see it, you’ve spent your whole life becoming who you are, so it will obviously take some time to unlearn it. As long as you’re intentional with that journey though, you will eventually feel some change.

[SueShe]

Are you the one judging that you are ugly or below average and then, what is your metric to determine what is ugly and what not and what is average and what not.

There is no standard rule to determine the beauty or ugliness of a human being. Personally, I would much rather be friends with someone that has a great character, personality and intellect rather than a person that only cares about his looks, his 6 pack and his little penile attachment. Those are really not important in life.

Gaining dating experience? Then you have to go out in the real world and meet people in flesh and blood and not just on those hook up apps that are only out to get your money with no return on the investment.

[HollyK21]

Well said Sue👏

[SueShe]

@HollyK21 Thanks ☺️

[In_Trance]

Doesn't seem to me like you have confidence at all.
Shake that shit off, get out there and do it

[Nikki1989]

You man up and stop digging around for excuses.

[Zionne]

have fun in your life bro. relationhip comes when the knows that you're ready

[Asker]

I wish I could.
I don't have anything left which I want to do alone.
Most of the things which I want to do are with my love.
I wanted to go to ball dance (left out, everyone I asked said no) even the ones who were out rejected me.
And I didn't have enough courage to show up alone (it was paid)
I want to travel to places with her. Not without her, I want to explore the world I tried doing it alone but it felt wrong.

I am so excited about the things I know about a place that will ruin the romance (I tend to bore people to death)

[NathanDavis]

find a therapist instead...