How can I tell which women are actually interested in dating me?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a lot of dating apps, cafes and socials but I never know which girls to go after.
I had a good experience with conversations, but asking for a number got fake numbers, phone died and I don't know my number, happens also I have been lied to as well. I went to a meetup event , we chatted and laughed on the decorations and she seemed interested but then she lied that she has a boyfriend (I know because she was on the dating app the next day bumble).
Like I know people have like a radar thingy like this is someone too good won't accept me, and who is going to ask them out part.

I have approach at the top and got rejected with that creeped look.
And I have been "you deserve some better then " so neither the top wants to give me a chance or the normal ones.
Never got like we both are perfect and let go out on a date or so.
I want get to know, love and learn how to be a boyfriend.
I have been the sponge for so many girls in my life but non of them felt any attraction towards me.
They came to me when they wanted to rant, cry and feel loved. But I never got any support, and when I needed a bit of support every one bailed on me, and those who didn't I tried to approach them. Who were single ofcourse but they put me to the guilt that "how could you ask such a thing to me".
So I feel un-wanted in that aspect of my life.
(It used to be employment as well but I got one, and damn near perfect, I earned so much within a year that I could have got a small house within 2 years)
I left it for masters though I wanna learn more cool stuff

[Jammannn]

Fuck man I've been there I think any average looking guy has. The friction in that space feels distorted because what people say doesn't align with their actions.

When they say "you deserve better" thats simply a nice rejection, if it were true she's not going to actually say no, she is going to make it so easy for you.

You should ask your female friends what do the successful guys say? because after I saw that, I realised it doesn't actually matter what you say all too much.

Though there is a way to use language to build attraction/tension, and based on all these friendships forming its always a good area to improve upon.. Have you tried speed dating?

Women don't actually "give" in this area you could be the kindest/best friend ever for 2 years/ 10 years. It doesn't entitle you to anything and it makes it seem like the whole friendship was for that when you ask. They don't understand this issue because men have always asked them out/been present can't envision a world where that doesn't happen. Nor doees it align with their narrative. If you're interested in a girl. Never tell her your problems. Women will only ever take you as the problem then.

When you zoom out to the broader social problem an average guy struggles to meet 1 person a year now? The apps guys outnumber girls 9-1, so yeah.

Thinking that money is a point of difference like a small house, that'd be nice. I have a house, showed girls that I was making 30k a month and it only ever attracted the wrong type of people.

If you've formed this many connections and none have naturally graviated towards you, its a physical thing. Men in healthy relationships highest success indicator? Muscles.

How you look makes all the difference in how you get treated by women romantically.

Learning a skill, like dancing helps if talkings not your thing and is great to generate attraction they're both around 1-3 year commitments.

[ammar12343]

They’ll make it really obvious. If you have to ask, then she’s likely not.

[jennifer_bloom]

You are focused too much on the initial selection process when you should be focusing on maintaining selection once selection is made.

If you are average, your universal rejection rate or collective acceptance rate will not be remarkable or life altering, what you should consider, is how you keep things going once the relationship is introduced and begins.

I have met woman who never reject a guy who asks them out until they go on at least one date with them, unless they are already taken or flirting with somebody, just because they believe everybody could have hidden good qualities they will not see if they do not give them at least once chance.

[Asker]

It's not like that.
I need to get into a relationship to know if I can keep it.
And people have told me I am a better husband then a boyfriend material..
I would love to be boyfriend though before marrying someone.
I want to go through my playboy type of phase as I am 26 never kissed.
I don't want to break someone, like other guys do. But at least one relationship will make it easier to know what or where I stand and getting a date is impossible

[queenofcardio]

Sometimes women can be confusing when it comes to dating. Some will show interest in you but still won’t date you, or they may not even be looking for a relationship in general. It can be complicated sometimes. Some women may genuinely like a guy but never clearly show or admit it.

I think the obvious signs are when a woman consistently talks to you, makes time for you, and goes out of her way to spend time with you. She’ll usually show interest through her attention and effort.

Keep trying, stay optimistic, and be confident.

[Asker]

Oh I had met someone like that, but she turned out to be really angry about everything I did (I am too pokey when I know something better)
And she hated it
She wants someone else and even she doesn't know what she feels about me, and more over she is not attracted to me.
So I gave up.
But lately I have been going out to charities, and met a lot of people.
But in that place I never felt someone wants to talk to me specifically. Like if I am talking, it felt like I am dragging a conversation 😅.
Hopefully I'll find someone in charity because that my only place where I am able to meet new people

[Anonymous]

They will likely go on a date if they want to date you.

[Asker]

Who will?
I am asking who that person type might be.
Kinda going out on a limb to get a chance.
But never getting one even after working for it, the things I have done really drags me down.

[Asker]

It has become no matter I do, I am not enough.

[Nikki1989]

Use your brain. Not complicated.

[ammar12343]

What the hell is the point in posting that? Anytime you post an answer for a guy, it’s some useless condescending response.

[Jammannn]

@Nikki1989
You ever use yours? Or just your mouth porkchop.

[In_Trance]

Talk to them