First date in the park with an online match—how do I secure a second date?

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

You are 37 years old and don’t know how to get a second date with a girl?

slatyb · Answer

I dated online for quite a while -- one five year relationship, then I met my wife online.

You don't "secure" a second date. You meet her and see how you feel, and how she feels. If you both want a second date, there will be a second date. More often there isn't and we move on. I can tell you how to prevent a second date -- instead of paying attention to her, spend the entire time trying to figure out how to get her into bed.

What do women want? More than anything they want to feel that someone wants to know them. I started dating after divorcing and was more successful than not. Surprised me, I'm 5-8 and then I had about 20 extra pounds and shared custody of a child. I asked one of them what made me special and they said exactly that -- you pay attention in conversation and in bed.

SueShe · Answer

It may already be too late to secure a second date. It all depends on the impression you gave during the first date, how you came across, the red flags you raised, the conversation flow, your attitude, whether you look into your date's eyes when you talk to him or her, your general appearance and a plethora of other details people look for when they go on a date with a total stranger.

Your best chances are that you did not raise too many red flags and that you were yourself and not someone that you are not. The way you sell yourself is determining whether the potential partner is willing to invest more time and energy.

MrChinaski · Answer

How do you even know that you want a second date? You haven't met her yet.

But to answer your question, the only trick I know is to show genuine interest in the person you are talking to. If you can fake that you are set.

NathanDavis · Answer

focus on the first one... instead of fixating about the second one you don't got yet

Nikki1989 · Answer

I stopped reading at "online match.”

Tomislav7 · Answer

Tell her you had a good time and suggest seeing her again to something more intimate for date 2

msc545 · Answer

Well, you probably should show up and be polite on the first date.

In_Trance · Answer

You secure the second date by having a great first date

First date in the park with an online match—how do I secure a second date?

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