On your first dinner date with a new girl/woman, what's something that she did that made you never want to see her again?

[sage2021]

[InknKink]

1. Phone addicts - be present or don't bother going on the date.

2. Misandrist - If you don't like men, why are you even here. Just date another woman.

3. Argumentative; religious or political - This isn't debate class. Sure, sometimes being argumentative can be fun, but as a default mode of communication, it's just annoying.

4. Late - sometimes things happen but I find it rather disrespectful, especially when you don't communicate that you're going to be late or have a valid reason.

5. Excessive drinking - this is a first date... try and keep it together. I don't want to see drunk, overtly emotional/slutty you, before the 4th or 5th date, if at all.

6. Getting high - come on. I get it, weeds legal here in Canada. But women who can't get through life without constantly numbing themselves with drugs is a huge turnoff. Some recreational use is fine but emphasis on the "recreational".

7. Excessive shit testing - I hate to feel like I'm constantly jumping through hoops. I get it. You're been burnt before but act on what you hope to be true and not what you fear to be true.

8. Vegans and excessive animal lovers - I love animals too but I also like eating them. Don't hate on me for it or try and tell me how horrible a person I am because I'm eating a steak or burger.

9. Catfish - don't post 10 year old photos on your dating profile and then show up plastered in 5lbs of makeup trying to hide the fact you're a lot older/heavier then you initially presented yourself. Just be honest with me and if we vibe then we vibe.

10. Self-absorbed or acting disinterested- I want to know about you, after all, I asked you out on the date. And you said yes so presumably you want to get to know me also? So how about you try and get to know a little bit about me? Simply waiting to talk rather then actively listening.

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None of these are in any particular order and yes I know there is a lot of them. Honestly, I could make a much longer list if I tried. Thank god I don't have to do anymore more first dates; fingers crossed it remains that way.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Outstanding & I’m voting MHO’s on this one. Phone addicts YES.

[MrChinaski]

@Static_In_The_Attic I agree MHO. Late is my bugber. If you're late for a reason I don't care. If you are late without a reason then you don't care and it's going nowhere.

[Anonymous]

My last date:

She admitted she doesn't like giving blowjobs, was terrible at it, did not want me to come in her mouth, didn't like doggy position, tried to change each previous date, I cooked for her and she didn't eat.

If she's already like this at the very start then no thanks. Kindly informed her this has no future. I don't mind boundaries but not everything can be an issue.

[MrChinaski]

Ahhhh... the one that got away...

[MontBlanc]

This isn’t about “having boundaries”, this is about zero alignment, zero respect, and zero consideration right from the start.

Boundaries are I don’t do this, but I’m fully present and enjoy what we do share.

What she did? She turned everything into a “no,” rejected every connection, and even disrespected your effort by not eating what you cooked.

That’s not boundaries, that’s her showing you she’s not here to meet anyone halfway, not here to enjoy you, and honestly not even interested.

You made the right call.

If the very first meeting feels like a list of demands, rejections, and zero warmth?

It only gets worse, never better.

Compatibility means wanting to be together, not fighting over every single thing.

You saved yourself a world of headache, good on you for walking away early.

[AgentG111]

Got mad at me for my career and tossed coffee in my face. Gave me her run down of demands.

[sage2021]

@Agent111

So, are you going to ask her out again? Hehehe 🤣

Did she bring her broom 🧹 with her to fly away on? What a witch.

Did she really throw coffee in your face?

Listed her demands on a first date. Is that what most women do nowadays?

I'd say that was the date from hell !! 🔥

[worldscolide]

Spent the entire night on her goddamn phone.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

My rule is you pick up the phone once, no problem, you pick up the phone twice I’ll let it slide & if you pick up the phone three times I’m out like a fat kid in dodgeball.

[Paige2006]

I think most guys don't like girls that smoke.

[Alex_Bright]

Indeed. But you know that before the dinner date.