Is a woman’s past a man’s business?

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If a guy is marrying a girl, her past is his business right?

women look at men’s trajectory, men look at women’s pst to determine future! A guy needs to know if she’s been up to no good and hooked up with men etc… transparency is important

I am not saying he needs to know names but a guy deserves to get an idea of the full picture, how many guys she has let inside of her and dated etc…

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I never even asked any girlfriend or my wife about their body count and none ever asked mine. All I know is that none of them were virgins and that's fine with me. In fact, I prefer women with experience. It means that they are normal, are attracted to men, have healthy libidos, and don't have any religious or cultural hang ups or inhibitions.

The idea that sex desecrates or soils a vagina is absurd. It is also nonsense that a woman who has had previous partners is less capable of bonding.

I completely reject the double standard that a girl who has had sexual partners is worthless whereas a man who has had many girls is valuable.

I assessed my girlfriends based on their personalities and learned about their values and relationships with their families through conversations. I didn't need background checks or resumes. I didn't need them to make confessions about previous relationships or things they had done in the past. I could tell that they were good people, authentic, had self-respect, self-esteem, and were picky about their partners. They loved sex but were not promiscuous cum dumps. They wanted an infatuated, monogamous, steady relationship with the possible goal of marriage. That's all I needed to know.

And I wasn't worried about being compared to previous partners.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

In my definition of a relationship, her past, in the broadest possible sense, is critically important to me. This is thanks to her past that I understand who she is. And I assume women run the same considerations about me. So I'm gladly recounting my story to whoever I'm in the talking phase with.

So far, no girl seemed reluctant to talk about the past, mine or hers, but maybe that's an age thing. In my age range, we both have quite an history to share, good or bad...

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

Just like I told you in your other question, no, it's none of your business. Stop trying to gatekeep women from having a past. It's still just as creepy as I said it was in my other post to you. Do you want her judging your financial situation? Maybe you'd be OK if she judged your manhood and compared it to previous partners or toys. It's not cool to judge others when there are so many things that can be judged about you in return.

Grow up. Get over your insecurities.

Jessica405 · Accepted Answer

It does not bode well to go into a marriage or long term relationship with secrets. Like deciding whether to buy a used car or not, you want to know a bit about its history. Did it belong to a boy racer? If so, keep your money and look elsewhere. Same for chosing a partner. You don't really want to marry a girl and later find out from someone that she was a hooker.

DishLady · Answer

It's not that it's none of his business... or that it is... BOTH PEOPLE should share their sexual history with each other to the point that they are aware of any possible health risks (STDs) that might possibly impact them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If a guy and girl are getting married, they should both be fully transparent and disclose truthful answers to any questions asked. Period.

zayndan · Answer

Yes. A person choices and habits is the best insight as to what their future choices and habits will be. Would you let a convicted pedo around your children? No. But it's his past. Still no. So why should it be different for relationships or anything else?

BCRanger10 · Answer

It is. A man has the right to know who his woman is and how she got to where she is now.

Then again, this problem could be easily solved if we encouraged waiting until marriage for sex for everyone, both men and women, but anyway...

Nikki1989 · Answer

Your past is your business and yours alone. We have been married since 2010 and have discussed very little about our pasts, but we are neither insecure, petty, nor immature.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Your past usually dictates your future. It certainly shapes your present. Why would you want to be with someone who keeps secrets? You'll never know the real person and could never fully trust them.

slatyb · Answer

"Hooked up with men?" Have you hooked up with women?

Ariesman81Nshiiit · Answer

Just imagine dating an honest woman... I bet it's marvelous.

Reptorian · Answer

I think the bare minimum to know long-term compatibility. Otherwise, not his business. Same goes if the gender were reversed.

Anonymous · Answer

Your trajectory as a troll is on the rise.

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