When dating and meeting potential dates for the first time, what precautions should young women take for their safety and to verify identify?

[Kelley1]

At college or at work, I know them well enough to feel safe to day. At church or in an organization, I ask others to determine whether I can feel safe dating. If I meet at a club or another public place, we will talk for a while over a drink or coffee before exchanging names and phone numbers and agreeing to a date at a public place. I will also ask what he does and where he works, and give him the same information about me.

Before accepting another date, I will pay for an online investigation and may call his employer to verify. I will use Google Maps for a three-dimensional view of where he lives. Most relationships don't last more than 2 or 3 dates, so there is no need to spend more money and time investigating. The government and corporations do extensive investigations before hiring someone for an important position. Therefore, I do the same.

In six months of dating, I will learn everything about a person. However, I am not willing to wait six months to discover something about a guy that makes him unsuitable for marriage that I could have discovered by an investigation into his past, financial, and medical records. Therefore, by the end of the first month, we will exchange bank and credit card statements, our social security cards, and income info. I will also give and receive a power of attorney to obtain medical and financial records.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Bring pepper spray, a taser or a gun.

Knowing where someone lives gives you leverage over them also. People are less likely to try something if you know where they live.

"The government and corporations do extensive investigations before hiring someone for an important position. Therefore, I do the same." Yes I think women should do that more often.

Why are you interested in medical and financial records in particular?

I think conversation's with a person's friends & family without that person present works best.

[Kelley1]

Conversations will get me the information, but it might take months, and I don't want to waste months of my time. Before I was hired, I was asked to go to a doctor for a physical that the company paid for. They had my SSN, which may have been all they needed to obtain (actually verify) my financial record.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

What if he didn't wanna share his financial record with you, but you really liked him?

[Kelley1]

I move on. It is easy to meet guys. There are 1000 guys in Little Rock that is just like him who will give me their financial records.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 So you get to be extremely picky thanks to the internet. I thought you'd say that. Men don't have the luxury to choose perfection like women do.
I can see why some people would wanna hide their data from someone they've not been going out with that long.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Where's little rock?

[Kelley1]

I would provide the same information that I was asking. Bank statement, which also includes my salary deposits, my credit card statement, and a copy of my recent medical records. More if he asked.

Little Rock, Arkansas

[Kelley1]

I am interested in a man's money, but typically, it is not my money they are after.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 You're good for admitting that. Being honest isn't being a gold digger like you might expect me to say. As long as you're still looking to develop a romance out of that relationship anyway.
It's natural for women to be drawn to providers.

[Kelley1]

We all are. When you meet a women for the first time, likely her first words are, "What do you do?"

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1
What advice would you give to a NEET living in a commune where you get paid more to do nothing then work, however you're still broke.
Working around here would be a humiliation ritual, as you're being someone's slave & just hoping you get offered a higher position. My motivation to do this is would be to appeal to women & start a family, which doesn't check out for me.
That's years of my life living like a bitch & paying taxes to a government that hates me & is fundamentally anti white along with our corporations.
Half of the population around Blackpool are NEETS, actual whores, addicts & criminals, with closed down businesses everywhere.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

I do have extensive and insightful knowledge on history with plenty of books so my own advice is looking towards a YT channel rn. Grifting isn't very manly though.

[Kelley1]

My advice for NEETs is to trap a middle to upper-class guy so they can collect child support.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 That advice doesn't work for NEETs, as women don't suffer the consequences of being a NEET like a man does.

[Kelley1]

Per Wikipedia in the United Kingdom, "Neets are 20 times more likely to commit a crime and 22 times more likely to be a teenage mum." I suppose Neets must be collecting child support.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 Yeah. It sucks being unattractive to women 'cause your stuck as a loser. It's a boomer economy.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 Isn't socialism just wonderful. Here in the UK Keir Starmer is your provider.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

But I'd enough people like me weaponise the governments suicidal empathy against it, then the government can no longer pay for the boomer pensions and then they'll either face collapse or have to fix the economy.
I leafleted multiple streets around advertising Restore Britain who are looking to have a more American style economy.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 And the most attractive NEETs are criminals, so maybe I'll join that 22x likelihood by joining a gang. But that's easier said then done. I can only really think of Hell's Angels for white people.

[Iron_Man]

Make sure they’re not trying to get sex from you and use you

[Kelley1]

They all try.

[Iron_Man]

Deny them all they’re not worth your time. You need to have a man that respects you and loves you for who you are. Not just for sex.

[Kelley1]

I don't know what is best. I have tried refusing sex, having sex, and withholding sex for a couple of months. Neither resulted in a proposal from a guy I wanted to marry

[Iron_Man]

Your meeting college age guys that are not mature they just wanna have a good time And party. Date older men that are more stable and they’ve already are established and they know what they want and want to settle down. You just have to pick an age that you’re comfortable with and date a more mature man that likes you for who you are not if you can give him sex or not.

[Kelley1]

If men are older than college age, they may make it less obvious, but they all want sex.

[Iron_Man]

The man that sticks around when you refuse to give him sex is a man that cares for you and once a relationship

[Kelley1]

Simps will hang around forever. However, the most attractive and desirable men, that is, those who have options, stop calling and find a girl who will if I hold off more than a couple of months. Moreover, most girls will, and it doesn't take long. Mostly, if I like them more than they like me, they find someone who will. If they like me, a lot more than I like them, that is, the guys I don't want, they will hang around.

[Iron_Man]

Let me ask you what happens if it doesn’t work out are you gonna be OK in life by yourself? With no children.

[Iron_Man]

We’ll talk more about this later if you would like

[Kelley1]

It will work out. I could have married in college if I had lowered my standards and increased my age range before my final semester.

[Iron_Man]

I’m sure you will do well and I’m rooting for you. Enjoy the site.

[Iron_Man]

Aww thanks Kelly you are good to me. I appreciate that. Thanks for the award.

[_Jenny_]

@Kelley1 Don’t loose your iPhone

[Kelley1]

Very good. I recall a girl said, "I was 18 when he drove past the restaurant and instead of stopping said, "We are going to my place.' I was too embarrassed to report him." When he drove past the restaurant, she should have called 911 and hung up. Sometimes they don't answer for a dozen rings, but if you hang up, they will call back. When they called back, she should have answered and said, "Please help, this guy (his name) is scaring me." She never said what happened, but whatever it was, would not have happened.

[_Jenny_]

@Kelley1 exactly, be very careful

[Wodens_Apprentice]

What're the police gonna do? If you're unlucky, he's called Mohammed from Birmingham and he'll be joining in.

[Kelley1]

@Wodens_Apprentice They know who he is. Therefore, his address. Moreover, they can track the phone. The 911 operator may ask to speak to him. She would hand him the phone and say, "She wants to speak to you."

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 The point is that police are useless and might not even do anything.

[Kelley1]

@Wodens_Apprentice It is true that the police may do nothing. Depends on whether it is good publicity.

[_Jenny_]

@Kelley1 Thank you Kelly for the MHO

[MikeTheBartender]

I would say everything possible especially if it's an online date, a dude you just met a bar, random encounter etc

You can also check his social media. Look for relatives, the relatives will post pictures of what he actually looks like, I did this for Babes many times in the past.

[Kelley1]

Looking for social media is a good suggestion. An online investigation will list a half dozen relatives. The search will list arrests. Moreover, there are several online people search services and background check websites that aggregate public records, including marriage records, divorce records, and other personal details.

[capriVib]

I think by the third date they should be collecting fingerprints, blood samples, and running a full DNA analysis too. lol


Are you looking for a husband or selecting an astronaut through a NASA interview process?


It's good to do some background checking, but people who investigate this much tend to be obsessive. Just let it go and enjoy dating

[Kelley1]

Obviously, you have something to hide and hate that women want to know.

[Cidknee]

Trust your gut!

[Kelley1]

That too. On the first meeting or date, if something doesn't feel right, it is best to block the guy.

[Cidknee]

Yep! You should take Kung Fu classes to.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 No that is terrible. Just blocking him because of a 'feeling' isn't correct and doesn't really make you any more safe either. If a woman did that to me and I didn't know why, I'd be extremely pissed so I'd imagine some men become more dangerous just you doing that.
If it's a weirdo or someone you don't like, be honest, call out their bullshit and then block.

[Kelley1]

@Wodens_Apprentice You may hate it, but not nearly as much as you don't want to be arrested and sent to prison. Guys are easy to find. Most don't give me a bad feeling. I don't need the few that do.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 Well if you mean me personally I've already accepted I'll likely end up in prison one day amyway. I risk going to prison every time I speak an honest opinion, as I live in the UK.
We live in a matriarchal culture promoted by people who want to destroy white people.
Women have all the power in relationships, so women have complete control over who gets to breed.
However it didn't used to always be like this, not even long ago. People used to remain married more back when their parents were choosing who they'd marry for them.

[Kelley1]

@Wodens_Apprentice It is true that white men rank below women and are often punished just for being white, and are treated unfairly in family courts. That is bad for me because it causes desirable men to choose not to get married.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@Kelley1 Finally a based & redpilled lady on this site 👍