How can I stop attracting controlling men in my relationships?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

Everyone wants to know the secret to this sort of thing, sweetie. It's not a matter of not attracting them, but of being strong enough to set a boundary that does not budge. As my grandma used to say, "Just bc the guy comes knocking doesn't mean you have to open the door." Don't leave yourself open to those guys.

When you see the controlling behavior you can mention it once or twice. If it continues then it's a pattern he's not going to change. You have to want him as is or walk away.

[andreasderjuengere]

That’s not the way that we are by nature. We are not all leaders. Only a few dumb ones think so.

How to stop them: by being unattractive to them. By appearance, behaviour, and signals.

For each Barbie there's a Ken.

For each Bonnie there's a Clyde.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I suppose it depends what you mean by controlling, men have a instinctual urge to protect, many people nowadays confuse simple guidance as controlling, controlling men do exist but there's a line, if you are one to confuse the two then you'll probably never find a man that isn't your version of controlling if a protective nature is your definition of controlling, as for the actual controlling, they exit everywhere, just gotta know how to find them

[Nikki1989]

People who like to control others don't choose their partners randomly. They look for specific "green lights" that signal someone might tolerate their behaviour. By changing your signals, you can change who you attract.

[slatyb]

By being more assertive in your life. Anyway every woman attracts unsuitable men. Women with boundaries quickly reject them. People raised in dysfunctional homes often have poor boundaries. If that's you, get counseling if possible.

[Jackblue]

Date a man who owns a cat, nothing is ever guaranteed but cat owners tend to be the most patient people.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Septum piercings, dyed hair and tattoos work well

[Iron_Man]

That’s the way that we are by nature. We are leaders.

[Danny_dan92]

Stop going for controlling men

[LC75LC71]

Cut off the pussy.