Is my emotionally closed-off guy friend actually into me or not?

[Moneyjelly0907]

I got this guy friend I cannot read for the life of me. He is definitely interesting and has some emotional issues. He is a very closed book due to social issues. Out of our friend group I’m really the only girl I know he feels a certain degree of closeness with. There were times he would call me “honey” or “sweetie” very subtly but does to no other girl. One time he got drunk, hung on to my arm, told me I was his and that I was his girlfriend. By the next day the drink wore off and he was quiet and later I heard he was embarrassed by how much he shared. He also told me very personal stuff when he was drinking. He acted cold after for a little bit but then came around again a little bit. Another time I got tipsy, walked outside and he toted me back inside cuz he said I was walking funny. We also took a quick walk together and talked about a couple of things. Earlier in the night everyone was picking on me about my celeb crush and when it was just me and him later he asked “do u really like him?” Sometimes he asks caring and gives hints but other times he just acts distant. I can’t read him. Would a guy do any of this if he had no interest or just viewed someone as a friend? I keep getting mixed signals and I don't know what they mean. Well everyone keeps telling me that I should talk to him about some of this.! Yesterday I finally got the guts to call him and he didn’t answer but tried to call back an hour later. I was asleep by then. Today I texted and asked if I could talk to him at some point this weekend cuz I was asleep when he called and he never responded. Now I feel like I overthink the whole thing and he never really liked me. But I don’t know what to do from here on out. Go figure

[HollyK21]

It sounds like most of (if not all) of these encounters happen while you’re with this group of friends and liquor is involved, whether you’re both drinking or just one of you. It also sounds like each time he’s acting this way, he wakes up the next day feeling regretful and apologetic about whatever feelings he claimed to have, or whatever interest he exhibited, the night before.
Because of all this, I just wouldn’t take him seriously or entertain him when he starts honing in on me during a hangout. I don’t know which one of you joined the group first, but if you were second then you probably didn’t get a chance to see how he behaved with the females in the group prior. Even if you were first, you most likely had been chosen because out of the women within the group, you are the only one really giving him the time of day. I say this as someone who also had this dynamic before with a dude in my friend group back in my early twenties. Don’t take them serious.

[Moneyjelly0907]

I agree. And he wouldn’t respond until his roommate told him how it made me feel that he ignored the message to talk. Im done with him

[HollyK21]

Yeaaah, that to me sounds more peer pressure based because he knows he will have to see you again if you’re all hanging out. It’s really annoying, because a lot of guys do this within “friend” groups (I add the emphasis because some guys often overstep the friendship boundary). I would just be cordial at best with him and put the romance absolutely aside. You can chat and stuff but once the booze gets flowing, no deep or close conversations, because he is clearly just clinging onto a woman who will give him attention At the time. If he confronts you about it, just say everything is cool, don’t bring up things surrounding romance because he’s already shown that he’s insincere.

[WhitneySnow]

He either likes you or wants to hook up with you. Unclear.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s definitely interested. Just not sure if he wants a real relationship with you.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he likes you, but something is holding him back.

[canamlusciouslad73]

Good thing he hasn't branded you.