What early red flags in dating and relationships should I watch for?

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

What are the red flags in dating or relationships that people should be aware of? I’ve had some difficult experiences in the past, so I’m trying to understand what signs I should pay attention to early on. I had a traumatic experience at age 13 where I was love‑bombed in special education, and later in vocational specialist college I also had bad experiences with girls who tried to tempt my boyfriend at the time to cheat. I’m trying to understand what warning signs I should pay attention to early on.

[HollyK21]

The red flags that come to mind first are inconsistency, moving too fast, and lack of effort.

[Kevinvdd]

There are none that will give you 100% certainty. However, I do think that if you are trying to build a framework to follow, you'll always be suspicious and that will be the downfall of all your relationships. In my opinion you should just realize that you can't do a damn thing about it and you'll have to trust someone, accepting the risk that it could go the wrong way. If you are not willing to take that risk, then a relationship is not for you. Loving someone and having a relationship with that person is based on (blind) trust until the other one proves that he or she isn't trustworthy.

[Alex-Snow]

A red flag is when one of them just talks about themselves and does not ask about your life. Also a cigarette smoker is a turn off

[Bklynbadboy12]

Being controlling wondering eyes selfishness just to name a few

[FreyaRed]

Lack of respect