Do guys ever realize what they lost?

[Anonymous]

I am a 20 year old college student and I must admit I'm trying to move forward from a breakup. I met my ex while I was in Texas and I had to move to another state. I met his family and they seemed to love me. I motivated him to go to college and he started going to college. He said it was for me. So that we could have a better life but I told him that going to college is something you do for yourself. But he ended up breaking up with me the first time because he said he needed to concentrate in school. The breakup only lasted a day because he contacted me saying that he misses me. Thinking about it now I should've given him more of a hard time instead of take him back right away. Anyway, at the end he was acting kind of weird. I noticed that he wouldn't do all the small things he used to do to let me know that he loved me such as call me. I felt like it bothered him talking to me. I got a little upset at him because I hated how he would update his Facebook status but take hours to text me back. I asked him if he still felt the same way about me and he said that he just had a lot on his mind that he didn't want to talk about. Right after I asked him he had to go to work. I sent him a text telling him to smile once for me and to take his mind off of whatever it was on. And that I love him. I didn't even hear back from him. He usually calls or text right after work even when it's been a late shift. But I noticed he was snapchatting others while he was on his break and on Facebook. I sent him a text telling him that I couldn't do this anymore and that I felt like he didn't appreciate me. Basically breaking up with him. And I never heard from him. I sent him a message on Facebook asking him what made him change and he saw it. but he never responded.At the end I had to delete him from Facebook because it just hurt me seeing him on there. I still notice that he never deleted any pictures of me. But I guess I was better off. Many people say that he will realize what he lost and come back. and that when he does that I should not take him back.

[BrunetteNYC]

If he comes back or not, you did the right thing. You felt unloved and he was not meeting your needs and making you feel unloved. Of course that must have been making you unhappy while it was happening and know that you are still young, yet you seem here to have made the right choice is how you have responded to this situation with him.

MANY guys fail to appreciate when they have a girl who is sincere and truly loves them, and I honestly have only seen guys come back to those girls after some slut walked all over them and THEN they see the light.

But guess what? By then, usually, the girl who loved them got over it and refused to trust them again with their hearts, so I think by the time this guy gets it, it will be too late.

Please try to realize that when something hurts us too much, and causes more unhappiness and happiness - it means we are not compatible. For whatever reason, this guy was not meeting your needs - he was wrong for you. Long term, he would have always been wrong for you. You are better off, no matter how much is sucks right now.

[bettybets]

Telling him you love him probably scared him off. Especially since it seems he doesn't feel that way about you. I wouldn't bet on him coming back. I can give more insight in a message. You'll have to add me as a friend first, though.

[Asker]

I just added you :-)

[Anonymous]

People said the same thing to me. It's been over a year since we've broke up and he stopped talking to me months ago. He has never indicated that he wants to come back. In fact he's said he doesn't love me anymore.

[Asker]

Sometimes I wish he would just talk to me to let me know what he felt even if he said that he didn't love me anymore Just so I could get closure. This was the first time I actually fell in love.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand. I feel like I still need closure as well. My relationship ended a year ago but since I was annoying him with my angry texts towards him, he started ignoring me and hasn't contacted me since. I'd like to know how he really feels about me now. Because on one hand I think he likes me as a person but on the other, he doesn't seem to have any fondness towards me at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Feel free to message me about this if you like.

[Asker]

I've felt like texting him a couple of times as well. But I figured it wouldn't lead to anywhere since I've already sent him a couple of messages. I miss him like crazy but I don't feel like he misses me at all.

[Asker]

Ok I'm trying to figure out how to message you but I don't know how since I'm rarely on here

[mike5150]

Some people feel cutting the person out of there life entire will make them move on that is what he did. I felt my ex would miss me or realize what we had and want to come but she didn't she is with someone else. I hate to tell you this but you are going to have to admit he is gone. There is something called "The Five Stages of Grief" I would suggest you read it may help you from feeling as much pain.

[Anonymous]

Most people lack the ability to see their own mistakes and instead create fantasys of how bad their ex's treated them. Just listen at all of the sweet saintly boys and girls that complain they were done wrong by an ex that never appreciated them. It shows a pattern that people almost always see themselves as the victim.

[Anonymous]

Were you trying to be supportive? Seems to me like me that when he says he's got a lot on his mind he'd like to talk about it... you asked him to smile for you, that's kinda selfish?

[Anonymous]

Move on.