The morning of the second date, he contacted me to tell me he had a meeting at his child's school and asked that we meet an hour later than originally planned. We were planning on going on a walk at a certain place so I drove close to that area to run errands while I waited. I didn't hear from him so an hour after our new meeting time, I texted telling him I hooed he was OK. 30 min later, I went closer to his area and let him know I was waiting there since we were running short on time.
When we finally got together, he seemed pretty lukewarm. I chalked it up to a bad meeting and went with the flow. Throughout the date he was doing things I felt were to purposely turn me off. Belching out loud, for one. Towards the end of the date, he got more affectionate and held my hand and kissed me. He vaguely referenced getting together agin but no formal plans were made.
After that his texting went way down. When he would text, I texted back fairly soon and it would take hours for him to get back to me, gone were the terms of endearment, any talk of a future date. After two days of this I asked him if I did something that bothered him on date 2. He said no, he figured I was busy with work which I wasn't at all. I apologized for driving to his area, saying maybe he felt I was pushy. I told him I felt things were changing and it confused me. He responded with "relax".
After that the texting dwindled further. I let him take the lead as usual, but it was almost nil. Finally I sent him a couple of texts saying I hoped he had a good day, etc. No response.
Finally, at the end of week 6, I sent him a text saying it seemed like he wasn't interested and I was moving on. I wished him the best etc.
Did I mess up?
I was really trying not to be pushy. The only possible thing was driving up to him might have been seen as pushy. But he had set the date and we agreed on a beach walk. And he lives near the beach, I don't. I didn't go to his house either. Other than that I almost always waited for him to text me first every day. Never mentioned a date. He was the one "driving the bus" on this thing.
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