Have I destroyed my boyfriend ego?

[XxMirriexX]

Ok so I have been going out with this amazing funny guy named Daniel for a little more than a week now. We've both liked each other for ages. He's my first boyfriend and Im his first girlfriend, He's shy about hugging and holding hands but his friends always find away to get us to do that kind of stuff.

recently his friends have been saying he want to kiss me bad! and when we went to play out with him and 4 other friends (2 of his and 1 of mine) we went in to town and we held hands in public. We went to the shops and he bought some sweets and offered me some. I declined because I didn't want to seem like a pig lol. When he had to go he hugged me good bye but his friends started to chant "kiss kiss kiss!!!" he was really nervous and so was I, he friends dragged him to the side and talked to him, then he came back after a bit more teasing and shoving he walked up to me and gave me a kiss.. I was nervous like REALLY nervous and under pressure I turned my head and he kissed my nose... when I turned my head back he seemed to be really embarrassed that I rejected him..

im ready for him to kiss me but now im afraid things will be weird between us, his friends keep saying "why did you reject him?" or tap there nose when they look at me. Do I have to kiss him first now? what do I do? please help thanks

I distroyed his ego

I didn't distroy his ego, i just embarresed him

[christinalong338]

not wanting to kiss in front of everyone at the peer pressure of some adolescent boys (i'm assuming you're young or this wouldn't be a problem) isn't really "rejecting HIM" it's just not wanting to kiss in that circumstance. @lonerider, there are plenty of circumstances in which kissing your partner isn't what you want to do, and if you're shy PDA may be something you never want to do. not kissing him is not a rejection of HIM, it's a rejection of that circumstance. she has nothing to apologize for. she can explain why she didn't want to kiss him, but in no way is a girlfriend obligated to kiss her boyfriend all the time whenever he wants to. if she NEVER wants to kiss him, then that's an issue. but not enjoying kissing in public isn't something a guy can be angry at a girl over. he can decide that they're not compatible and end it. if a girl doesn't want to kiss right now and avoids it like she did, kissing her anyway would indeed be forcing her after she rejected the kiss.

[JohnWhilkins]

there's a huge difference in reaction depending on if it was a rejection or just nervousness, something you would easily pick up on. I think that was just a "troll"

[lonerider]

Again.. You are not getting me. I am saying whether she's right or wrong. I am just answering, did she hit his ego? She sure did!

[Prettygurl12]

It's pretty impressive to destroy a person's entire ego all within the span of 7 days.

Your friends need to butt out of your relationship. One cannot hope to have a mature, healthy, functioning relationship when one involves their friends.

How old are you? It's also interesting that this Danial kid is just so amazing and you've been dating for like 9 days. Save the amazing for when you've been dating for a year and you've seen him at his worst and his best and you still think that he's the greatest thing on the planet.

[Conrad_Kelsiven]

I agree with John, you guys should spend more time together away from your friends. As for embarrassment, he probably is embarrassed, I would be in the same situation.

It isn't all that drastic a situation, just ask to talk with him (away from his/your friends) and explain what happened and give him a hug, he should understand.

[JohnWhilkins]

Your friends need to chill out is whats going on. You already seem like you're yourselves around your friends you should start hanging out just you two more. And everything else is fine really. Its great that you dealt with it, next time you'll be less nervous.

You sound like a sweet couple, best of luck.

[lonerider]

I would sure be angry at any girl who did this to me... I mean seriously.. you are my girlfriend, and i am not forcing you, still if you reject me. Chances are i would never like to see your face again. You should apologize to him in front of everyone.

[Singingballerina3]

wow. thats a little rude. She obviously did not want to kiss him in front of people just to kiss him. Correct me if im wrong, but i think most girls want to kiss someone because they want to kiss them, not because his friends are judging her.

[lonerider]

I am not rude.. I am thinking from the guy's point of view. You are defending this girl. I am not judging who's right who's wrong. I am just saying what he felt. Because that's what she asked. If you look at the poll, majority of answerers are women, who have never had male ego.. They are defending this girl.

[lonerider]

How can one understand whether it hit the male ego when you dont have male ego? How would you know whether someone is playing a game wrong when you have never played it? I am absolutely not defending the guy. And i am absolutely not consoling her either. Just answering her question. Did it hit his male ego? Yes it sure did! Whether your intentions were right or wrong, the result is- his ego has been hit.

[christinalong338]

well if women don't understand the male ego, how can we be expected to be responsible for it? either we get it, and you can be mad if we injure it, or we don't get it and can't be liable for it. pick. you can't have it both ways.

[lonerider]

christina: did i say she was responsible? why don't you people read properly first. I never said SHE was responsible. but now that i have told her that it hurt his ego, she must apologize. and she must apologize in front of everyone to suit his ego. a personal apology might work if his heart is broken. Seriously.. learn to read first.

[lonerider]

While my stance being that she should leave him. and not get in all this trouble.

[lonerider]

So for all those guys who think that my comeent was baseless and rude, read the third point. honestlynaked.com/.../

[christinalong338]

so you concede that she's not responsible but you'd still blame her for injuring his ego? now she MUST apologize in front of everyone to suit his ego? jesus, should we all just bow down to the GLORIOUS male ego? what a load of crap. he can suck it.

[lonerider]

Why dont you all people read properly.. My earlier commnet says that my stance would be to leave him and not get into trouble.. Why hell doesn't anyone read properly?

[christinalong338]

we can all read. we are commenting on other things that you have said... duh.

[lonerider]

that's the problem with girls.. you never listen to the gist, but just the footnotes or sidelines. I am saying that she should leave him, but INCASE she wants him, she should apologize.. because it has obviously hurt his ego. its her wish whether she wants to repair it or not. and i recommend not to do so. but you are not viewing my opinion, just the solution. she herself asked 'what do i do?' i am just answering that question. simple.

[jesseray]

Your boyfriend may feel a bit rejected, but it can be fixed with a conversation and few kisses. Just know that you have the right to choose when you kiss someone, so you did nothing wrong here.

[mario1321]

Wait till you can be alone without his bossy friends then if you want kiss him or maybe he will kiss you just dont give the friends any ammo to use against either of you