How do people have “dreams” and “aspirations” and do shit with their lives?

[ElizaPam]

In regards to my last question about why women would want to work when they don’t have to y’all answered it like a bunch of kids saying what you want to be when you grow up.

I’m an adult and part of being an adult is knowing work sucks. People with “dream jobs” are very few and far between. The rest of us have to work like dogs just for a few bucks so we don’t starve. It’s painful, it’s dirty, and it’s degrading.

I can’t afford college. I can barely afford gas to get to work. I can’t invest in a future I have to invest in today.

I wanna know what rich ass 2 story home having family you come from to think you can be whatever you want to be. I grew up in a trailer in Tennessee with divorced parents and a drug addict father. I’m transgender I get discriminated against literally everywhere I go. My choices are a shit job in a factory or a shit job at McDonald’s.

So tell me more about how I can just choose to run a business or pay for college to become a doctor or be a fucking astronaut if I want to.

[t-8900]

HOLY SHIT! I love this post. Listen I want to go back to school so I can become a Hotel Manager. My "dream" is to make enough so that my wife can stay home with the kids and make sure they aren't indorctrinated into this shit show society we have going on now. I'm not trying to have my daughters whoring around on the strip or on pornub/onlyfans, etc. And I'm not trying to raise a bunch of bitch boys that are so weak they start to think they're actually girls. The job I'm aiming for pays between 74-180K a year. It means I have to sacrifice A LOT for my family and work upwards of 60 hours a week. But if I have to destroy my body at work to make sure my kids have the best upbringing, then I'll do that HAPPILY.

My issue is worrying about what the wife is doing when I'm working so much. Sadly we live in a society where trust is hard to give now. But anyways when I was in school the jackoffs told us to dream big, that we can do anything and be anything. I sipped that Kool Aid and believed I'd make it as a big time Movie Director and Writer. Well you ain't never heard of me, or seen my face, so you can guess how that turned out. This shit we see now is because single parent households dont produce role models for kids so they look to white trash and hood rats for inspiration... its pathetic.

[MTC29]

Cry, cry cry. There are no shortage of reasons (excuses) for failure.

Let's get the transgender's issue out of the way. Unless you're being force to take on that lifestyle, it's a choice you made, so live with it... or change back into proper clothing.

My mother was a single mom raising my sister and myself on a tiny income. We were teetering on the financial brink during my entire childhood.

My "dream job" was to attend the US Naval Academy and become a naval aviator. It didn't happen. In fact, things like that happen only for a tiny percentage of young men and women. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Regroup, and move on.

I put myself through college by working part time and taking on student debt. My mom helped where she could. I graduated in June, took the Fundamentals of Engineering Examination in July, and went to work in August. Gap year? What's that? I completed grad school at 24 and didn't take an actual vacation until I was 33. I had a pile of student debt to pay, and back then, Buckshot Joe Biden was talking about for forgiving a penny of it!

I put in 29 years on the job and missed a gold watch by taking an early retirement. Was it a good job? Yes, it was. It was every bit as good as the time and money I invested in the education required to get it. I have a generous pension a comfortable lifestyle, which I worked and studied damned hard to EARN!

You claim your choices are a shit job in a factory or a shit job at McDonald’s. What time, effort and education have you invested to deserve something better? Don't claim that you can't go to college when myself, and tens of thousands of others just like me, accomplished what you say is impossible.

You're the exact type of person who wants to drag down others. I can only hope that young men and women come to people me for career advice and steer well clear of those like yourself.

[chocolatesprinkIes]

True, I didn’t take any of my exams in high school because I got incredibly sick and spent those years isolated in a hospital bed. Tried to apply for college once my health improved, got sent away because I didn’t have the qualifications to apply, so I started attending a night school, got the test scores that I needed and got into college. Anyone can do it you just have to earn it and work for it. Sitting on an app crying about how bad your life is whilst making zero attempts to fix it will lead you no where

[Rachelspiks]

Wow. Every single one of the comments thus far have been both unhelpful and just downright nasty. I guess they don't understand the concept of giving advice without being a complete ignoramus and douchebag.
I agree, we can't "be whomever we want to be", due to inherent limitations (ex. lack of talent), financial constraints (otherwise known as "being poor"), environment, upbringing, and other factors. Disadvantage isn't something that can easily be overcome, and most people fail to. The belief that one must "work hard" if one wishes to move up in the world is simply false for about 99.8% of people, for they struggle their entire lives just to stay afloat, and at the end of their lives their health is ruined from all of the backbreaking, repetitive and pointless work they've done over the years.

[jennifer_bloom]

Successful people work like dogs and have to make huge sacrifices, they just don’t talk about it. Like they will work for 14 hours a day and than enjoy an Alaskan king crab and talk about the $400 wine they tasted and not the hours they spent crying themselves to sleep over stress at work. People who succeed have the same problems as people who fail, they just get more happy times than those who fail, because real success requires hard work.

[ohshee]

It's called motivation it's called Running things in life it's called knowing what you have to do to get those things in life it's called because of that Journey and that wisdom of wanting something bigger than yourself and it is called appreciating everything that you work for to get so they can be proud of themselves and what they have achieved that what they were given. When you go out and buy something you take care of it because you know how hard it was to get when you handed something the same appreciation the respect of whatever it was is not even close to being the same it doesn't really matter because you didn't have to do anything to get it it matters when you have to work your ass off to get something and that changes Who You Are and if you want to be in life we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things we say and do. It's just a beautiful feeling that's all have accomplishment or at least striving to be a better person each and every day

[exitseven]

Nobody handed me anything either. It took me 3 tries to get through college because I had to drop out twice because I ran out of money. I stuck to it and figured out how to finish it. Then I worked on a new career. I had more difficulties there as well. I stuck with the plan and when things went sideways I just had to figure out a way around it or a way through it.
It would have been nice to have rich parents but you get what you get.
You are 26 years old. Still have time to turn it around. It won't happen if you don't work for it. With the pandemic I bet there are government training programs that you could qualify for. You will not be a millionaire but you will be able to move out of the trailer park.
You will quit the drugs too if you want to succeed.

[Waldoe]

nope... I won't lie to you. The toughest thing you will ever do is... work everyday just to feed and clothe and have a roof over your head.
It will probably be something that will become 'mind numbingly boring' over time...
If... You Fall in love, and get Married, you will have a partner in your crappy life, Someone to lift you up and make you smile, but, don't expect that from your job...
I'm 71 now, nothing was "Like a dream" just mundane and boring.
But... not a nightmare either...

[Agape93]

So you can't just pack up and leave?

I own the house and land i live on. I'm comfortable enough to save.

I'm not rich nor was my family. They are and were lower class. My home was toxic. I struggled and managed. You can too, you just need to bust your ass in a different area than the back ass of Tennessee, and stop batching about how people are mean to you. It's life, suck it up.

[RealMarek]

The outcomes for most college grads are declining while the costs of that investment are increasing. But what about trade school (welding, electrician work, etc.)? The skilled trades pay well after apprenticeship and don’t take long or cost much to get certified.

[jamesgoldman]

I run my business because I'm unhireable in a commercial workplace not to mention when I was still well enough to work I wasn't old enough so I started my own business when I was 8 and just never stopped doing what I knew

It's difficult unless you are cut out for it and hell even now it's double the work for quarter of the pay

[Anonymous]

you chose to become trans. You could have just accepted the body god gave you and focused on other shit. You can always learn to code, that’s how I went from shitty job living in parents basement to real job and my own place

[Rachelspiks]

Not everyone has the talent (or interest) for "coding".

[Opinion Owner]

@Rachelspiks indeed, not everyone has talent or interest for cooking or dishwashing or waiting tables yet I spent 7 years of my life doing that. It’s called a job. U want stuff? Well, sometimes you don’t always get to do exactly what u want

[Rachelspiks]

You've missed the point. Anyone can wash dishes, because that's not really a skill, but coding is highly technical, and most people probably wouldn't understand it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Rachelspiks I didn’t understand it before I studied like mad

[Rachelspiks]

Good for you, but people do have limitations to what they can actually achieve. I, for example, could never become a special forces soldier, no matter how hard I tried. Goals need to remain realistic, and many people just aren't technically minded enough to "code".

[Opinion Owner]

@Rachelspiks the only limitations are that which you impose on yourself. I’ve seen a person with 2 fingers on each hand play piano like a pro. The mind can evolve if you train it diligently. Some people need less effort and discipline than others but coding is not rocket science. Being a wordpress or shopify dev hosting through a managed service does not require a genius

[FunkyMonkee]

Drugs! Lots and lots of drugs!!

[Anonymous]

You are one bitter mother fucker

[Opinion Owner]

Loose the victim mentality, stop your whining and do something about your life instead of crying about it online. You’re not going anywhere in life with the sucky ass attitude you have now. The world treats you shitty, ya life sucks sometimes but you’re not the only one with fucking issues. So many people have had shitty lives and have managed the pick themselves up so just shut up and do something about it if it bothers you THAT much