Does a man ask for more responsibility or does he just take it?

[Anonymous]

Situation: father runs the family business. I left my career, (wasn't working out anyways), to come back home and learn to take over. However, I feel like he doesn't really trust me with the adult sides of the business. Just busy work day in and day out as if I were still a teenager.

[ArtemisSilver]

You just take it, and generally that means changing organizations because your work peers will already have a notion of you as a non leadership level worker.

If you stay in the same organization your free to ask for and try to justify a promotion, but it's notoriously difficult to escape the crab bucket effect.

Additionally if it's run by a family member there's a lot of weird energy there that you don't want to be a part of, unless it's a free ride via nepotism, in which case have fun.

[Asker]

Guess I should have been more clear, Its a family farm. There are no other coworkers, my father was doing this by himself from the time I graduated until very recently.

[ArtemisSilver]

In which case you should ask him to start shifting tasks to you and making plans for retirement if it's that age, otherwise he might not want the help.

[Asker]

About what I've been doing then, usually dissolves into an argument unfortunately. I've always seen his pushback as a lack of trust.

[ArtemisSilver]

Well, then my initial advice stands. Find satisfaction elsewhere.

[NathanDavis]

in order for you to take over a business... you have to earn it

best way to earn it, learn everything about it...

even better way to earn it, identify how you can make it even better...

and one thing you do have to ask yourself, assuming that money was not an issue... could you actually stop working for your father, and start your own farm, top to bottom and run it as well or better than your father?

if the answer is, absolutely yes... then go ahead and prove it at your father's farm

if the answer is no... then you need to keep learning everything about the farm business

this is how I did, at my family's business

[Chiarac2003]

Gotta jus take more responsibility…. Only way you will be looked at as worthy of it. Parents see us as little kids even if we’re grown. So that’s normal..

[Avicenna]

If he wants it, a man will usually just take more

[In_Trance]

Both