He has clearly established his priorities. You can't blame anyone for trying to focus on their career instead of a relationship, because a bad career move can alter your entire life. If this story is true, I can imagine how stressful it can be for him.
I think he was fair and polite when he told you that he does not have the time for a relationship right now.
BUT GIRL, enough about him. Think of YOU. What do you want? Are you okay with this situation? Do you wanna be stringed along for an unknown period of time? I think it would be safer for you to accept the situation and move on. If it's meant to be and he sorts things out in his life, maybe he'll come back if he really thinks you're fit for him. But until then, focus on yourself and don't welcome heartbreak with open arms.
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Because people are often toxic when they get into relationships, and most relationships are full of drama, issues that are unhealthy, and many want to use relationships for their own gain and not to have something stable. He understands that he cannot emotionally, mentally, and psychologically handle it. Neither can I, especially as an abuse victim and growing up in a dysfunctional home.
He is at least honest and has told you the reality. If you cannot handle that, it's best to move on. It is just not an appropriate time, and he can tell that you won't be happy with him. In the end, he's hurting a lot more than you are right now. In other words, you have a lot of emotional needs he can't provide you. It's not really you or him. But you two are not compatible.
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a major career change, can take more of the time you have, more energy than you have, and it will be more challenging than you previously had, a lot of risk can be involved.
And this might leave the person with no time or energy to dedicate to a partner, which is very stressful due to the fact that you cannot really be the best partner, while this might be "no issue" for the partner, it will be quite a deal for him, he just doesn't want to NOT give his 100% to a relationship.
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Being in a relationship is stressing by itself. You have to put up with your partner's tantrums, defects, keeping her happy, and more. Being alone is way easier.
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