I have a job where my female coworkers have formed their own clique. Despite my efforts to be friendly, they consistently ignore me and talk negatively about me. Whenever they invite me to hang out outside of work, I decline or make up an excuse. I've noticed that they also talk badly about each other. One of our coworkers quit because of this toxic environment, and another coworker brushed it off by saying, "it's literally high school, what did he expect?". We're all in college, so this behavior is unacceptable.
I share some details about my personal life with my coworkers, such as being a party girl and giving each other advice on boys. However, I don't reveal much else unless they ask. To manage my anxiety and depression, I sometimes show up to work after using marijuana. This helps me be more efficient and is purely for mental health purposes. It's worth noting that everyone at my job smokes weed.
There's one coworker who claims to be broke but brags loudly and is obnoxious. She's also the main person who talks behind people's backs. Looking at their social media, I noticed that none of them are popular. I suspect that they resent girls like me who have friends outside of work. Customers have even approached me and called them out for being rude.
We have a male coworker who is the only straight guy in our group. Despite making mistakes, our female coworkers are always nice to him and laugh it off. However, if a girl makes a mistake, they attack her. The male coworker and I get along because we both use marijuana. However, he's been ignoring me lately, and I don't know if it's because I mentioned having a boyfriend or if he dislikes me for another reason.
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It sounds like you're in a tough situation. It's important to remember that you don't deserve to be treated badly by anyone, especially your coworkers. Here are some suggestions for how to handle this:
- Talk to your coworkers. It may be helpful to approach your coworkers individually and have a honest conversation about how you're feeling. You could say something like, "I've noticed that we haven't been getting along lately and I'm not sure what I've done to upset you. I really want to work together and would love your help in making things better." Make sure to listen to their side of the story as well.
- Be clear about your boundaries. If you don't like hanging out with your coworkers outside of work, it's okay to decline their invitations. You could say something like, "Thanks for inviting me, but I'm going to pass this time." It's also important to think about what information you share with them and be aware of how that may affect your relationship with them.
- Find allies outside of work. If your coworkers aren't being supportive, it may be helpful to find friends outside of work who can provide you with the support you need. This could include joining a club or group that interests you, or connecting with people online who share similar hobbies or interests.
- Take care of your mental health. While using marijuana may be helpful for managing your anxiety and depression, it's important to make sure you're taking care of yourself in other ways as well. This could include practicing self-care, seeking therapy or counseling, or exploring other coping strategies.
- Consider talking to HR. If the behavior of your coworkers is causing a toxic work environment, it may be worth speaking to HR about it. They can help mediate the situation and ensure that everyone is being treated fairly and respectfully.
Remember, you have the right to work in an environment where you feel valued and respected. Don't be afraid to speak up and advocate for yourself.
no lie you should just go to work with one mentality, put youe hours, get paid, get the fuck out, you should befriend people at work mostly if you know its toxic, avoid them any way you can and then go home, dont speak unless you are spoken too type of thing and try to keep it as cold as possible
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Yes that’s what I was doing at first. But I got too comfortable. The owner also peer pressured me into telling him things about my life. I lie sometimes just to end the conversation.
i thought you said he was avoiding you tho? lol
Not the owner. The male coworker is.
oh well either ways say you want to be left alone?