How do I stop putting so much pressure on finding the right career path and the right partner?

[Anonymous]

I waste career opportunities and I don't consider dating some women because I need more. These careers and these women are indeed more challenging to get than most. But the problem is that, knowing that, I put so much pressure on myself and there is so much stress that I self-sabotage and reduce my own chances of succeeding.

[Oliverlogan263]

I know it's tough man, but you gotta stop stressing yourself out so much about finding the perfect career and girlfriend. Not everything's gotta be some huge monumental decision, you know?

Like for careers, just try stuff out! Who cares if it's not your dream job, as long as you're learning something or making some cash. And if you don't like it after a while, just move on to the next thing. No big deal.

And with dating, the same thing applies. Don't overthink it so much - just ask girls out even if you don't think they're "the one" yet. What do you have to lose, a couple hours of your time? But you could gain a new friend or find you actually really like them.

I think you just need to take the pressure off yourself and live more in the moment. Quit worrying so much about getting everything perfect right away. Just relax and have fun trying out different paths to see what sticks. That way there's less stress and more chance of things working out naturally. Keep your head up man!

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I'm kinda at the same situation, just finished university but have trouble getting a job, and adding to that, I haven't managed to find love yet. Though I kinda gave up on love and want to focus on work. i suggest you do the same, you can start dating once you have a good job

[Asker]

I did that last year. It felt pointless, because it was a job I didn't particularly like, although I made decent money. Without finding love and without the prospect of having a family, it didn't feel right.

[Nikki1989]

You need to focus on one thing and stick at it.