Im feeling so guilty and I camt face it. How do I stop this?

[Anonymous]

I am 18 now and i gave some exams at school which i didn't pass so i can't get into university (greek system) i was anxious and the subjects were very difficult that everybody failed it was even on the news. The bad part is that i picked to go to college which i have to pay. If i had passed id go for free to a uni. I couldnt go for a second time. The tuition and fees are very expensive. Its 6100€. My dad is a very hard working man that everything he has achieved he has done it by himself. He had a tough life and we dont have a lot of money. Middle class family. He payed today 500€ the first dose. I felt so guilty that i can't stop crying. Id rather sit in the sun everyday and get this money by myself than my dad that works all day has diabetes one kidney and blood pressure pay for me and give his everything to me. I can't stop crying and feeling guilty. I can't stop blaming myself. (he's okay he takes his medication but it kills me inside) He told me that he will always try for me and i couldnt hold my tears. Its like something that i can't accept. I will study very hard to make him proud and ill work and save some money so after i finish ill spoil my parents with trips and gifts so bad because they deserve it. It still doesn't kill all that pain im feeling. He works 12 hours and more sometimes. I can't watch him pay for me. How do i stop this guilt. Ill work after 18 because now i can't but still it doesn't kill the guilt..

[Alli112]

Your father is doing this of his free will. Graciously accept it knowing that it's clearly important to him that you live a good life and get a good education. I don't know how any of this works outside the us, but if it's possible where you are, you can always look into loans to help you pay (so that the money doesn't immediately have to come out of your parents' pocket), scholarships, and part time jobs you can hold during school (limit yourself to 15 hours a week tops if working turns out to be an option). (You can also work in the summer to help pay part of the cost.)

But other than that, just do your best and give your family a reason to be proud. You'll be fine. I'm also being supported through college by my family and it can be a hard pill to swallow, but it'll be ok.

[Account]

You are only 18. If you are talking about the Greek system of Panellinies, you could take 1 year to study and give those exams again in order to have access to a university. You are still young so keep your chin high and try again if you don't want your father to pay for your tuition.

[Mettbltt]

You are a devoted and loyal person.
I'm sure you will definitely make your family happy.
But you shouldn't worry about exams so much
Many of my friends get depressed because of this but this is nonsense.
There is no such thing as everyone being successful in the exam.
don't worry so much
In the future, when you start earning money, you can make your family happy. You don't need to think about it now.

[HusamRocks]

I've seen lots of families like urs but a few were the same as u
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U r gonna do great 👍🏻