How do I stop feeling so guilty about doing the right thing?

[Puppystarfish23]

I did a post about this a couple days ago but I'll link it to this later so you can get more understanding if you haven't already seen it and give you a little recap.

Basically long story short I was being harassed by a co worker of mine after I fell out with him for a number of reasons including taking pictures of a learning disabled man at our work and sharing it on social media.

I let it go on for months trying to be the bigger person until he started getting his friends to harass me to so I eventually snapped and reported everything to the mangers and he was gonna get fired.

He did some really bad things but he's still a human being and I saw he's started to refelx on his behaviour now and really regrets it.

I feel like such a bitch and he made a Facebook after I blocked him on everything to message me this. I'm not good with confrontation which somethings I'll speak more about later.

This whole experience has really shown me who my ture friends are and unfortunately a lot of them who expect me to be there for them 24/7 couldn't even be bothered to listen to me and have really disappointed me because they weren't there for me at my worst.

Only one my friends at work has turly be there for me, he's been amazing and really supported me through everything.

I also have a amazing partner who I feel like is the only person who can make me feel better but I'm currently with my family as its my hen do tomorrow and they just gas light me and make me feel bad for being human and having emotions as to why I'm so bad with confrontation. I just get told I'm a drama queen, bitch, over trusting, that everything is my fault etc so I don't bother talking to them about anything to do with how I'm feeling because they just make me feel 10 times worse about myself

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Have you ever gotten someone fired and how did you feel about it after? ↗

[Rosexøxø]

I’m only disappointed because I think I mentioned in the first question to make it a priority he didn’t know it was you for your wellbeing sake.

Now he knows, so it’s more drama to sort through.

I don’t know why you feel bad for someone mistreating you I think it’s a lot of your family getting in your head and your friends not coming to your defense.

I think your boo should be more defensive and protective of you reaffirming this not just a buddy you hang with. If he doesn’t have your back then who will?

The choice of friends and the family clearly don’t. I apologize for that as well.

Since now he knows, I think moving forward you should address him saying something along the lines like, “yeah, for me when it comes to certain behavior, I have a certain response for that. In this case regardless of it being you, any employee in any workplace who demonstrates the inappropriate behavior you displayed is something I think worth reporting as a result. I forgive you, but if you try to keep talking to me, for whatever reason, and knowingly we are not friends and never were there. You were unkind. Simply stated. I’ll have to consequently respond with further reports like to the authorities. I can only leave you with this advice: that you treat your fellow coworkers with respect as well as other people in society, or you’re probably going to have a difficult time getting offers and will have to reap a lot of repercussions because of the poor choices and poor behavior.

I hope you find better opportunities elsewhere and you make better choices as well. Wishing you the best. I’m also married so I’m not looking to talk to any more guys right now. I already have my circle of friends and a great respecting partner. Best to you. “

And that’s it. This is definitely a possible opening for him to harass you personally and it’s sad he knows your Facebook account s well. I hope he doesn’t become obsessed but a message like that head on should put somebody like him in his rightful place. He cannot simply go around pushing people in a civilized society, where there are protocols, procedures, and basic courtesy rules to follow.

he's definitely

out of line, and that is DEFINITELY NOT someone to feel bad for. Not at all. You’ve had your fair share of hardship and dealing with his crappy behavior is worse than what he’s facing as a healthy man who can find work anywhere and not have to worry about being harassed. You’ve had hardships and overcame so he can too.

He’s not some puppy to feel bad for.

[Rosexøxø]

Move on how you see fit but I gave a response with genuine concern.

Wishing you the best whatever the outcome may turn out to be, and I hope you’ll continue to be resilient and plain and simple.

There is no need to feel bad about something like this. None

Best to you sis!

[rosemilk]

don't feel too bad. this guy will hopefully learn from his mistakes and might even become a better person because of you (who knows).

[Billlewis]

Just try to put it out of your mind, and keep on going.

[strateguy632]

that IS a tough situation.

[laly520]

take time to think n keep moving