Do you recognize when you feel guilt and shame when OTHERS are in the wrong by abusing you?

[Eileen753]

I recently realized that what stopped me from taking action or getting angry at abusers like bullies or selfish people was that I would feel some sort of guilt or shame for the treatment. Maybe i was identifying with them as in feeling sorry or trying to project some wholesome excuses/motives into their behavior.

But now I realized... If I am being abused and infringed upon and yet I am not retaliating or trying to harm my abusers and am following the laws etc. Then why should i be ashamed and fearful? Sure i may feel fear for whatever irrational reason but maybe i should push through it. I have the logic in my head now that if i am not doing wrong. But wrong is being done to me then why should i feel ashamed or guilty... Especially enough to stop myself from feeling anger or taking some sort of action to stop the abuse and selfishness? Taking some sort of stand?

[Mynameisbobby]

I have a very hard time with this also. People treat me badly and I feel guilty for what they did or ashamed like I'm a horrible person. Example: I was at work the other night and I have really bad anxiety. Well these 2 guys that work with me were making fun of me for it and I felt so ashamed like I am wrong! You make some excellent points! Thank You 😊

[Eileen753]

Thanks i am happy i was able to finally help someone.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I always thought the solution was to beat them, I formed a group that jumped bullies, now that I think of it, I can see why I got kicked out 🤔