100 Percent Is Overrated!

[rosetyler1234]

"At whatever age is most smart people get this idea that they are so smart. They also try to develop vulnerability around relinquishing that label. So the difference between telling a child "You did a fantastic job" and "Oh my GOSH you are so smart!!!" isn't enough. According to one growing movement in schooling and being a parent that advocates for retirement of the S word. Hummmmmm.

"The point is is that when we praise a kid for being smart the kid then will think "Ohhhh goody I am so smart!" And then the worst thing happens like and hour later the kid will mess and then guess what happens the kid will say "Oh (sniff sniff) I guess I am not smart after all." Even people will think they aren't smart enough or good enough. And this is when it is the worst! This is a risk to try to avoid, and they will learn. "Smart kids stand to become averse to making mistakes, which are critical to learning and succeeding at things."

We can tell kids that they did something amazing but don't lable them smart they will get the wrong idea. People are born into this world with some innate congnitive differences but, but these differences are eclipesed by early achievement. When a person performs well (academically or something like that) at young ages and are labled smart of even gifted they will become less likely to challenge themselves. They will become less likely to make mistakes because they will stay in their comfort zone and stop growing stronger. And their fixed minds go on though adulthood.

So to ending the high reign of the S word was a great success. "It's imperative that we don't praise children by telling them that they are really smart or just plain smart. You can tell the kids that they have done a good job or a fantastic job but try or don't label them smart. Good Luck!!

[Spiorad_Aisce]

I actually like this take - I have always said that everybody is smart in their own way it mightn't be booksmart, they may be amazing at something else - Creating an aura around being smart is elitist because we all don't have the same opportunities - How do we know for certain that an illiterate peasant farmer would not outperform an Harvard lawyer if they were given the same opportunities in life.
Getting back to your take, you can encourage people for trying and say you appreciate their effort whether it was successful or not. I have never believed in the notion of praise because I feel that most of the praise I got in life was false or fake whereas the appreciation/encouragement was genuine. That is why I do things for appreciative, genuine people and not worry about whether people will praise me in life. In life people don't remember the great last 1,000 things you did but they remember your last mistake all too well. So praise is like a very light snack, one burb and it is gone, you are hungry again.

[aliceinwonderland69]

Being praised for being smart encouraged me to focus on developing my intellect.

[rosetyler1234]

Well I should have mentioned that not everyone is the same. I am glad it did for you. I think so too but this is something I learned in High School so I thought that I should share this :)

[Anonymous]

"People are born into this world with some innate congnitive differences but, but these differences are eclipesed by early achievement. "

That is complete bullhockey. Intelligence by any objective measure is overwhelmingly innate. Extremes like malnutrition or abuse can reduce it but it's there when sperm meets egg or it's not really going to happen.

[rosetyler1234]

Sorry this does not meet your approval.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not a question of my approval, it's science.

www.wsj.com/.../SB10001424052702304898704577478482432277706

There is this constant philosophical/political pressure to ignore the science which is kind of annoying. Talk about global warming deniers.

[rosetyler1234]

www.theatlantic.com/.../

[Opinion Owner]

Well it's great that Dr, Boaler has this theory. When she has some science to back it up I will take a look at that science. There is no mention in the article of anything she has done to test her hypothesis.

[rosetyler1234]

Why would you speak to a 16 year old when you are 25-26 years old and who is just learning stuff like new stuff what a jerk you are.

[rosetyler1234]

At least someone has the decency who is 47 likes and understands on what I am saying.

[Opinion Owner]

You are never too young to learn the difference between speculation and science, between wishful thinking and reality. I am speaking to you like a grownup. I was under the impression 16 year-olds want to be taken seriously. All the ones I know in real life certainly do.

[rosetyler1234]

I am sorry for speaking to you in a very mean way. Please forgive me for my bad manners.

[Opinion Owner]

It's alright, I don't take offense easily.
Allow me to tell you a game I play with news stories, it's sort of like the puzzles they used to have in newspapers except it's much more challenging. Whenever I read anything whether it's something I'd like to believe or something I'd rather not I look for the manipulations in the text, for what should have been said and wasn't, for the one-sided argument. Sometimes it can be very challenging to find, like a 'Where's Waldo' of critical thinking. More than anything else the first thing i ask myself is, "why does this person want to convince me of this?" Depressingly I find it is almost never because it is true or for my own good unless it is something entirely abstract with no political implications whatsoever. Politics has invaded and taints science at every level now.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

this is the pussiest thing i've ever read...

[rosetyler1234]

Why do you say that? Do you have something against this cuz I don't mind i actually like it when people actually say what they really want to say and not say what they think people want to hear. So tell me

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

stop using "the s word" cause they'll feel bad when they get a question wrong... let that sink in... let's also stop using it because it'll make stupid kids feel bad because they aren't called smart when billy and jane are called that

[rosetyler1234]

The "s" word is short form in this cause SMART not shit or shut up. Ok.

[rosetyler1234]

Oh and this is the website I got this info off of www.theatlantic.com/.../

[rosetyler1234]

You make no sense at all to me I am sorry.

[rosetyler1234]

I AM ONLY 16 FOR GOODNESS
SAKE!!!

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

it makes total sense. reward kids for being smart. also, being 16 means what? this is shit you might say to a 5 year old.