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Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

You may disagree with what I am sharing with you, you may think that the ideas I talk about are not possible. I know that they are, and I am pleased to see others that agree with me. If you do not agree with what I say, then that is OK. Look at what I share as a beautiful piece of art and say nothing negative because even if you disagree, you can not deny that you enjoyed this. You are welcome. Another note, this MyTake is not to upset or ridicule anyone, it is meant only as a peaceful happy thought. To those of you who already have this perspective and a marriage like what I talk about, WELL DONE!

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

Marriage today. What's the issue with it?

Let's face it, there are more divorces now then ever. Why? Less people believe marriage is important, the media makes it look less important, more people are lazy, cheating, intolerable, so therefore they make bad spouses. More people don't even get married, they just have flings with everyone that will do it with them. More people are having sex with anyone. More people are being filled with strange ideas on what it means to be a real man or woman. I am not saying that all this is new, I am not saying every marriage fits this criteria, I am not giving a lecture on how you choose to live your life, do what you want. I am just stating interesting facts that you probably already know. I am not saying this is all bad, you make up your own mind about it. More and more children have their families torn apart because of issues with the parents. Hey, it is just their lives. They will probably do the same to their kids.

Couples with Separate Agendas. Is it Both Parties' Faults?

Yes and No. If one spouse, let's say his name is Nikolai, decides to quit his job and become a pimp, (What's wrong with them? Do you think they are a positive asset to the community? Do you think what they do is uplifting for those girls they send out to be prostitutes? Do you want your daughter to fall into the hands of someone like that?) Anyway, Nikolai is a drug dealer/pimp thing and his wife Luiza is a hard working mother of 4 kids. He beats her and her children, cheats on her, takes her money. Is it her fault if they need to divorce? No. Although, she made the choice to marry him. Maybe he was a different sort of guy then. (Notice I don't say nice guy, I just don't want to offend those who think Nikolai's actions are fully acceptable.) I like the words of Taylor Swift's song:

I knew you were trouble when you walked in, shame on me now.

Yes, shame on the one that marries someone knowing that they are only going to bring them and their kids total misery. That again, is not taking marriage seriously. You are going to spend the rest of your life with this person, have kids with them and the kids will look to you for support. Think being treated bad as a kid is OK? Again, I should not use the word bad. It is a well known fact that kids that are beat up, neglected, etc, will grow up great, are an asset to the community and the parents always feel proud of the way they raised them. Good job parents. Really. Back to Nikolai and Luiza, Luiza needs to divorce this guy if she does not agree with how her life and the life of her kids is going. Or maybe, she finds him glamorous and wants to stay with him. That is progress, remember it is all about what you want. Top tip: Thinking about only yourself is the new trend, become like this and everyone will like you. Again, I am not saying this is bad. Do what you want.

To Cheat or not to Cheat? That is the Question More of us Answer Affirmatively Today.

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

Pierre wishes his wife Violet's boobs were bigger like those of his work colleague Sandra's. When Pierre sees Sandra, he feels turned on. Sandra is perfect. Violet is not. What does he decide to do? Get his leg over of course! Duh. Does Pierre feel like his marriage is important? Maybe. But not more important than Sandra's perfect body. Incidentally, Pierre's only feeling toward Sandra was lust. What he did to her was not out of love, or concern, it was to fulfill his own feelings.

Let's have a look at what Pierre's past could be. Let's come up with some solutions. Remember that these are just a few thoughts on what his past is like. Maybe when he got married, he would never have cheated on her but he just gave into weakness, feels bad and he will never do it again. People make mistakes, (your opinion whether or not that is a mistake.) Deep down, they will always remember this incident and their intimacy will never be quite the same.

Another solution is that he had had sex several times before his marriage and feels squirrelly again. He feels like those women are still with him. Sex with Violet is not going to be the same whether or not that is a bad thing. Maybe Violet has a past too and she will not care if he goes out with other women or not. Maybe she got better sex from other guys. With their memory in her head, she might not be satisfied with Pierre. Wait, maybe it does not matter with whom people have sex with. Maybe you should just do as you feel. Remember that marriage does not mean anything to a lot of people. *shrug*

An Idea.

All people make mistakes. That is part of life. It is impossible to be perfect. (Unless how you are is your idea of perfect). Some people have illness, some people have bad habits. There are ups and downs with everyone. So what is it that keeps these couples together that don't divorce (that have the choice to) makes men have the desire to be better when he holds his wife, that makes women carry on putting down the toilet seat for the 100,000,000th time knowing and fully accepting the fact she is going to do it 900,000,000,000+ more times in her life. The answer is LOVE. Let's talk about this concept some more.

What is This Love Thing You Speak of?

Again, I am not saying that couples without this element are bad. I am just making an analysis of the ones that do. I am not telling you to have it.

So, what is it? Our annoying little snowman friend from that seriously over watched movie Frozen sums it up pretty well.

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

That is pretty much it in a nutshell. I know it sounds super cheesy. Maybe the media has made it sound cheesy on purpose. Why? Dunno.

What Does Love Do?

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

Love is what keeps us together. New couple: Charlie and Aoibheann.

Charlie is tired, Aoibheann is sick again with the flu. He looks after the kids, holds down a job, teaches his son, Llewellyn to be kind to his friends because he wants him to be happy. (This is Charlie's perspective on what will make his son happy) There is a glamorous woman at his work that is looked at by all the other men. Charlie finds her attractive but would not think of getting involved. He loves Aoibheann so much. They were both virgins when they married and they feel no connection to any other. Sex is something special between the two of them and they are each other's be all and end all.

Aoibheann struggles with her health and still attempts to feed her kids, keep her house tidy, and

tells her husband daily that she loves him and appreciates him. She remembers an old boyfriend that was rich. If she had gone with him, she would have had a bigger house, nicer clothes, she could have afforded a nanny to look after the kids. She does not look behind her. Charlie is the man for her and that will never change.

Interesting situation. Charlie comes home one night and confesses that he has an issue with drugs. (To take drugs is something his wife does not approve of). He sees her face crumple as she finds out. She cries, he cries. This issue is terrible in their eyes and he swears he will do his very best to beat it. Why? Taking drugs is fun, but his love for his wife inspires him to be a better person. Aoibheann does not hate him. She is worried about his welfare and that of his kids. Drugs can kill, create problems with work, etc. She wants to stay with him and wants the best for him because she loves him. She knows he loves her and will overcome this for his family.

What if the love within a family unit created like an unwritten, unspoken pact that each member would do their best to be the best person they can be because of their love for the other members. What if a family was a sacred unit dedicated to the bettering of the participants.

When we stop thinking about ourselves, that makes everyone happy.

There is a battle going on out there between love and pure selfishness. Which side are you on? It is never too late to change. Show your loved ones your love by becoming a better person and treating them with respect.

The family is becoming less important, but this coincides with standards becoming less important. There is a lot that I have not spoken about. I am grateful that you took the time to read this.

If you remember only ONE part of my message, let it be this: Selfishness makes everyone unhappy. Love does the opposite.

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art

Family from Another Perspective, a Work of Art
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