Partner for life even though we won't always be on the same side, feel wanted not needed, in tune with me, feel protected but not in a physical sense. I want to feel protected and safe, in the sense that, he won't take advantage of my shortcomings and will keep my insecurities safe. And of course a loving marriage with communication, passion, and intimacy.
Poorly worded on my part; given that you aren't religious, don't want kids and don't want to take up the dudes last name, what reason do you want to get married, as opposed to those people who make up the "life partner" crap, or whatever people are calling it now? Outside of of marital rights you'd have (which I doubt is the reason you'd rather get married), it seems that you'd just as be fulfilled having a long term boyfriend
Maybe, but at this point in my life, I would like it to be official. And there is benefits to being married. Just ask any gay couple that doesn't want kids either. Like if one of us is in the hospital, he can't visit me at any time if we aren't officially married.
Truthfully... I was being hypothetical. Your attitude and expectations are just plain rudimentary and a complete disrespect in rectifying men as such. You posted this question to attack men for their beliefs. You are a sexist.
That's nice dear. If you want to give your son's your last name, then go ahead. I already said if someone wants to change their name, they can go ahead. I don't give a crap. I already have enough stressful in my life, do your life doesn't concern mine so no, I didn't make this specifically to attack you. You're not that special.
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VERY important question!
Are you ok with hyphenating your last name with his? Ex. "Stevens-Clark"?
I would have to think about it, but I think I would be.
true there are definitly professional downsides to it
I've never understood this thing that you guys have to change your last name in the first place honestly...
To each their own, there's someone out there for most people.
good for you!
Most are bullshit reasons though but do (or don't) what ever you want
I remember this being a big deal to me when I was younger. 2017 however I'm more open minded and willing to talk
What's in a name? I think your reasons are childish
How about this? My name, my decision. And because I don't bloody fuckin want to.
And all those reason are why a guy should always avoid marrying a woman that refuses to change her name.
Okay? If he doesn't want to get married that's no problem of mine.
It's ok if the girl is not willing to change her last name.
General question: What exactly do you want out of marriage?
Partner for life even though we won't always be on the same side, feel wanted not needed, in tune with me, feel protected but not in a physical sense. I want to feel protected and safe, in the sense that, he won't take advantage of my shortcomings and will keep my insecurities safe. And of course a loving marriage with communication, passion, and intimacy.
Poorly worded on my part; given that you aren't religious, don't want kids and don't want to take up the dudes last name, what reason do you want to get married, as opposed to those people who make up the "life partner" crap, or whatever people are calling it now? Outside of of marital rights you'd have (which I doubt is the reason you'd rather get married), it seems that you'd just as be fulfilled having a long term boyfriend
Maybe, but at this point in my life, I would like it to be official. And there is benefits to being married. Just ask any gay couple that doesn't want kids either. Like if one of us is in the hospital, he can't visit me at any time if we aren't officially married.
Good , because your not worthy of my last name. Only my sons will get my last name. And everything else that comes with it.
I'd rather shoot myself than be pregnant
Who said my sons were yours?
Your opinion
To what exactly... at least make sense !!
Mainly the fact that you said it. Trying to act as though I care.
Truthfully... I was being hypothetical. Your attitude and expectations are just plain rudimentary and a complete disrespect in rectifying men as such. You posted this question to attack men for their beliefs. You are a sexist.
That's nice dear. If you want to give your son's your last name, then go ahead. I already said if someone wants to change their name, they can go ahead. I don't give a crap. I already have enough stressful in my life, do your life doesn't concern mine so no, I didn't make this specifically to attack you. You're not that special.
Your right in not special. And neither are you...
Never said I was.
You are still sexist...
Coolio.
I wonder how that works out logistically... Mr. X and Mrs. Y.
Do the kids take on a hyphenated name? Josh & Chloe X=Y?
Really depends on the couple. Some hyphenate the kids name, some give the kids the last name of the husband, or whichever name sounds better.
"1. It's my heritage"
Am I the only one seeing the irony in this, or what.
Good for you, iam not willing to marry a girl who thinks like you, i have enough bitching and attitudes in my life already i dont need more.
I can't wait to change my last name. 😂
Have fun either being single or marrying a yes Ma'am beta male.
Great Take indeed, very good points 👍
I'm not changing my last name either. Fuck that.
Don't get married then, fuck that too right?
You go girl, totally with ya
OK, as long as our kids get my name...