Hi everyone, welcome back to a new take. Now, let's talk about parent favoritism. Yes, I particularly liked this topic because I'm the disfavored child. So what exactly happens to the disfavored child in the family? Let's find out!
1. We try really hard to get our parent's affirmation.
Yes. I assure you that this is real. I've tried many times working hard to achieve more goals, just to get my parents to love me more. However, there's no such luck. I get the "So what?" look every time. ( I'm not kidding )
2. We grow up feeling defeated with low expectations of getting what we want.
I remember the time my elder brother and my younger sister being able to buy anything they want. My sister got an electronic piano just by singing a few days. As for me, when I was on grade 1-3 piano, I couldn't even buy an electronic piano when I requested for one.
3. We're being ignored, criticized or being told little positive things.
My daily chores must be done neatly, if not, I'll be referred as "useless""no-brain""dumb" etc. Ps my siblings doesn't have house chores because my sister is too young and my brother needs 'freedom'.
4. We grow up with distorted, negative views about ourselves, and have a really toxic relationship with our parents.
Most times, we'll feel useless and our self esteem are really low. This is a result of parents constantly ignoring our achievements and criticizes us when we make a teeny-tiny mistake, causing us to enter into a depressed and angry mode. We tend to think about how we wish to leave this house etc.
In conclusion, we know that parent favoritism is unavoidable. But to all the moms and dads out there, try to, at the least, treat your children fairly, no matter how protective you are of your favorite child. The disfavored child needs love, they need you! :,)
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