In every family where there is more then child born when both kids hit a certain age there is certain power struggle where the oldest takes up the impression "I was here first, I am the more important one, your just steeling my spotlight", this isn't just for parent's love an attention, it could be food, clothing, Personal items for example sometimes Younger siblings will feel more likely to keep a personal dairy about life if the older gets a cent of this they will feel like they need to read it to find out what they sibling is doing, I am fully guilty of using the "Oh you want my drink, well tuff dogs, I was here first" I said something else but It's kinda mean. Continuing on what I was saying this mortality spreads down the chain like a virus till it each reaches the bottom, the more there is the stronger that feeling gets, For Example I was around my friends house one time, me and him were watching Video because it was the "it" thing back then and his older brother comes home from the gym, at the time He was about 27 and we were in our Teens about 15, and wanted my friend to tidy up their shared room and my friend said "He'll do it in a minute" which in mad his brother mad, hearing the argument from their parent's room their young sister who was like 10 comes down and asks me why are they fighting I explained and she sat the quietly while they bickered so I got tired of the he said thing I stepped in and told them to grow up and stop fighting like little kids. Ok I can't speak for big family's as I have only one sister but I do understand both sides although I'm the older brother sometimes due to my learning difficulties I am seen as her younger brother, while we were growing up we both felt like we were in the others shadow because we were both referred to as "oh your so and so brother" or your "Lemia's sister".
This doesn't just apply for family dynamics as well this could I apply to adding New People into the situation like boyfriends/girlfriends. For example your like the Middle Child and your boyfriend is older then your oldest sibling even if it's by a month, they might be thinking "wait if he is older then me does that make me the second in command now". For me I never dated anyone to gain a position of power in the family regardless what my ex says. Ok Story time I've only had one previous girlfriend to the one I'm with Now, and according to her I was replacing her in the family and they would soon kick her out the actually truth is that was never the case I was just a well liked person, this whole thing started because the first time I stayed at hers I was told by her because of an disagreement a month before her brother didn't like me and if he saw me he would punch me so his girlfriend at the time asked her to look after her sisters while they went out and me feeling on edge and tired said I didn't want to and she stormed off crying, instead of her family trying to reason with me, they said "she'll be ok in a few minutes" and since then she felt her family loved me more then her.
One final thought let's say Your the second youngest of 6 siblings so like these are six random ages not using anyone I know for an example. (33,27,24,22,21,15). From my point of view, the siblings that are 24 and 22 are the one with the most power because they got the two oldest and two youngest either side of them.
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