After knowing someone for 10 years I had hoped that this person would be my greatest ally.
That if either of us ask for something or decline it, we could sit and talk things out like the adults we've supposedly grown into. But it's a battle of wills.
Even when explanations are given the acceptance is next to none and met with resistance and pressure.
My understandings are that some of the main reasons couples fight are usually relating to money, misunderstanding, incompatibility, stress and sex.
In our case I think it's financial and misunderstanding. But given how this person is they are unable to find the ability to be nice. They mostly talk in this need to know way and at you rather than with you so you're left feeling like you're in a relationship with a parent...
They expect to ask and receive whilst the mere fact they have graced you with an hour of their time should be enough, even if in that time they are vacant...
Now we're at the battle of wills. Both stubborn, neither backing down. He makes contact but pride is stopping things changing. Every thing that's said somehow seems to have a double meaning, even when it doesn't.
Caution taken to not cause offense so an explanation delivered as an unquestionable sub text.
Emotionally draining and mentally taxing. I should just block him, but I can't bring myself to do it.