I went to Germany this weekend to check out different housing options.
The first place
The first one I looked at was listed as 285€/month, very cheap, but only 2 rooms for us (me and my potential roommate), a "very basic" kitchen (my dad) and a bathroom with no ventilation (mold is more likely to develop when there's no ventilation) and no window. No dish washing machine.
The washing machine would have been in the basement of the house (multi-storey apartment building) and officially, you also have to dry your clothes there. The mother of the girl was really sweet and this particular potential roommate was definitely my favourite of them all. She seemed very stable and determined to finish her studies.
The only thing that really disappointed me was how crappy everything looked, that all of a sudden they told me and my dad that I would have to pay 300€ every year for having the hallway cleaned (that's considered a lot per person here!) as this moved the price to 310€/month and how that girl treated me later.
![Some idea of what the first place looked like [not the actual place, only had one window]](https://cf.girlsaskguys.com/a62490/d78ebef2-f5d6-487e-9d78-36ca9f2d4bab.jpg)
The second place
However, once we looked at the second place, we were so in awe with the place that the decision was much harder to make.
The second place is 400€ with more stuff included and is just amazing as a whole. I can afford it, but 400€ was my personal limit.
The apartment contains two rooms, a living room, an amazing kitchen and a bathroom with a bathtub (we don't have one so that's amazing) as well as a very nice, small hallway. There is a space downstairs for my bicycle, a small part of the basement that I can use and the neighbourhood is much better too.
The only problem here is that I didn't meet my potential room mate #2 because she didn't want to travel there for two hours one-way.
I think that this is quite selfish given that we drove for 7 hours one-way - is it just me or is that somewhat of a red flag?
What happened
After keeping my dad entertained for the whole ride (didn't sleep or look at my phone once, we just talked all the way until we were there) and looking at the first two places, I felt extremely dizzy and started to notice that I hadn't slept in more than 20 hours.
After visiting another rather underwhelming apartment, we looked at the city itself and the university, had something to eat, I texted potential room mate #1 that I would have to make my decision on Monday (that was on Saturday), and finally, we drove to another city (3 hour drive) to spend the night at a hotel.
When we arrived, I texted her that I would love to take her apartment and spend the next three years there, sent that message, turned my WIFI on to make sure it was sent and then I realised that she had told me 30mins earlier that she had decided for another girl.
Despite being her favourite potential roommate as well, she dumped me - I hadn't slept in more than 26 hours at that point, was almost passing out from exhaustion and just wanted to sleep but managed to wish her well.
I should add that while we were there and literally two weeks before that as well, she texted me every day to tell me how happy she was that we would visit the apartment, that she needed a decision very early etc. Essentially, she was stressing me and my family out for absolutely (!!) no reason, I would've moved in in August or September (!!!!!!). Why was she in SUCH A RUSH?? She literally couldn't even wait for 8 hours. I don't think that this is fair at all.
What about you? What do you think, was she right for dumping me because I didn't want to make a decision before talking to my mother on the phone first?
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