My stepfather (47M) is either a narcissist or a liar. I've seen signs in him since I was as young as ten shortly after my mother was first dating him. When he talks, he says he doesn't brag but does brag about his fake wrestling fights/matches and blah blah blah. Searching up his name, R.A., he has absolutely no affiliation even remotely with any wrestling team or company. He's fucking lied to me for about the longest I've been around him. Before you trolls tell me to "get a job and move out." Trust me. I've done just that after graduation. I used to live by myself in an apartment, but even then, my mother was the one paying taxes for both herself and me. I'm now living with my stepdad (who claims to be "father and man of the house") and mom (45F), who gave birth to my brother (9M).
He's giving his son and especially me trauma. He literally flip-flops on his opinions, statements and choices. He tells me I can choose to do/eat whatever I want, but consistently gives me unsolicited advice about food, eating habits and clothing (since apparently because it's too cold outside, it's also too cold INSIDE...when it obviously isn't).
Tonight (5pm) I have told him in advance I was going to have a quesadilla (not a large one, only a medium one) for dinner and I only ate one microwaved small tortilla with barely medium-sized cheese. At 6:30pm he told me he was going to give me only a portion (initially, but that later turned into "half"...gladfully) of the Chinese soup he and my mom bought. He keeps teasing me, called me a stupid nickname tonight like "eating like a baby chick" and other bullshit; I just can't stress it. He gave me some and then tells me "no more eating after that." Like he literally changed his mind. Most importantly, I remind him almost every day I go for walks and burn hundreds of calories. (I only wanted to eat the soup cause my mom announced she was going to buy some and I forgot to tell her I had a quasadilla, which was only a light dinner.)
Another thing too my stepdad pretends he is so "not racist" he has lots of black and brown co-workers and friends, that we bleed red and blah blah blah. He's made tons of racist statements, mostly implicit/dogwhistles and poking fun at how Black and Asian people talk. My mom is even worse in some cases, consistently falling for and even sharing conspiracy theories about California politicians and billionaires. I hate it here. My stepdad and my mom both slam the door, yell, cuss at him (my brother) but when he does the exact same shit they either get frustrated or punish him for a few days. My brother also calls people n*ggers and bitches which is absolutely not normal behavior, especially for a nine-year-old. My brother is literally bullying people on his XBOX, and whenever he says he's bullied by his friends or whatever, he's consistently told by his dad (my stepdad) that he needs to man up and stand up for himself, even though those procedures never work.
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