How I Learned Not to Hate my Stepfamily as Much

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How I Learned Not to Hate my Stepfamily as Much
they're still gonna live with me no matter what

So for the longest time, I hated my two stepsiblings with a serious passion. I would legitimately daydream about things like them being sent away and stuff like that.

It all started when my dad started dating who is now my stepmom. She herself is pretty decent, despite some minor turmoil over the year. My two stepsiblings at first actually seemed pretty chill. I wouldn't say I instantly liked them as real siblings, but they seemed like decent kids who were tolerable at the least. Of course, that all eventually changed...

It wasn't until a few weeks later after knowing them for the first time where I really started realizing how they were. Now when I was still getting to know them, I kind of just knew the two kids had some problems. I knew the boy would cry almost every 5 minutes about the smallest things (which is probably caused by him being babied by his mom/my stepmom) and I knew the girl had anger issues and would yell every 5 minutes about the smallest things. At first, my sister, my dad, and I would kinda just laugh it off at first. We legit thought it was kinda funny, but it wasn't until living them when I realized how bad it really was.

When they first starting staying over at my house, that's when I started realizing how much I hated them. Along with the fact that they cried and yelled every two seconds, they kept making messes, kept hogging the couch and TV, and overall, just weren't fun to be around. In fact, my sister even went to a friends to try to sleep one of the mornings since they wouldn't stop being loud at like 6:00 in the morning.

When my dad and stepmom were getting serious with the relationship, we started looking for new homes. Eventually, we bought a new home, and they all moved in a few months after my side of the family did.

Back when I bothered trying to have a relationship with them (or even talk to them), they were decently respectful. They still kept their annoying antics though. The longer I lived with them, the less I bothered trying to be friends with them, and the more I just ended up hating them.

Lets talk about my stepmom for a second. While she is the most tolerable out of the three, she still has had her annoying moments over the time. Although, I'll give her credit since she has gotten better. One cool thing is that she gave me her old mattress since she would obviously sleep with my dad now that they're married (I got to upgrade from a twin xl sized bed to a queen size). Another cool thing is that she has helped me with school and college stuff (since she's a school counselor herself). She was also pushing for my dad to help me buy a Nintendo switch since she knew I wanted one. Even though I paid for most of it myself, I still got some help from the two of them.

But anyways, back to my stepsiblings. They annoy me. However, it wasn't until recently when I started seeing things differently. Despite how much I hated them, they themselves were still pretty respectful to me.

Also, things just didn't feel the same when most of my family would be gone for a while. Don't get me wrong, I loved it when my stepsiblings would be gone for the day, because then I would have alone time for that day. But when its like an entire week, things just feel just kinda awkward. It also didn't help when my sister would be at either work or hanging out with friends for most of the day, meaning that I would pretty much be home alone for at least a week. Because my stepsiblings grandparents recently moved to Las Vegas, my parents now take them there a lot. It just feels weird to me being home alone for that long. The house as a whole just feels empty, because I'm just so use to hearing their noises.

When we went to Texas last month, my sister couldn't come because of her job. She told me she felt the same experience as I did regarding the family being gone for too long. Also, my sister recently decided to move out of our home. It wasn't really done in an ideal matter because she kind of just "ran away" from home. It just feels like there's kind of an empty void now since she was the closest one to me out of the whole family.

Before she left, she said something pretty interesting about our whole journey about us and our new stepfamily. First off, she wanted to buy a little trinket or something for our younger stepsister since her birthday is coming up soon (although in the end she couldn't since she was out of money). My sister said that no matter what, that it just wouldn't be good to have any bad blood with them in the future, and that we really have no clue what they're gonna think of us when they grow up. That statement somewhat hit me hard. She said that despite disliking them as much as I did, that she might be ok with having a relationship with them in the future.

Just two days ago, my two stepsiblings returned from Vegas with their grandparents, who ended up staying over that night. Because my stepsister is a fan of artsy and crafty stuff, she started making homemade pillows. To my surprise, she made one for me, which I thought was pretty nice of her. Also, yesterday we celebrated her birthday at SeaWorld. It was pretty fun yesterday.

And this is when it hits me. This is my family now. Because my sister is gone, my two stepsiblings, my dad, and my stepmom are all I really have left. And as much as all of them may annoy me, there's no other house I would really belong in.

Will I still find my two stepsiblings annoying? Yes, there's no denying that. However, I'll probably just see things in a different light now.

How I Learned Not to Hate my Stepfamily as Much
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