Every girl has a special friend who is the best. He is trusted with any secret, with him you can practice kissing and much, much more. I have a friend like that, too. And I am constantly jealous of girls. I decided to find out what could be the reason and share it with you.
1. "Mommy Syndrome"
Even when you do not have fond feelings for his friend, you think you are responsible for his happiness and well-being, so every new girlfriend he treats with apprehension. Jealous, of course, in a purely maternal way. That's why you get nervous when he hasn't been online for a long time, or every half hour you nervously check to see if he called. That's why you should turn off mommy mode and mind your own business.
2. "Backup"
In this case, you're not the least bit in love either and you keep him in a strict friend zone, but you have a pact that you'll get married if no one finds their soulmate before forty. Why? You've drunkenly accidentally kissed a couple of times, and, if you think about it that way, he's pretty much all right. Even if you have a man - it does not prevent you to consider a friend as an option "in case", of which, of course, no one will tell him. So the new woman causes you rage and vague anxiety, which you do not even have the right to express, and you can only powerlessly throw mean jokes about her appearance or ridiculous jokes. The main thing here is to remember such a small detail as the fact that he is not your property, but a living person.
3. "The faithful dog"
He is always free and always ready to meet you, while you fly from one date to another. At the same time, your friend sits at home and texts you about how boring it is without you and absolutely nothing to do. And you are perfectly fine because as soon as you get tired of his men, perfect makeup and heels, a friend here as if here. Honey, taking you in baby pajamas and pizza in hand. But then one of these days you dial him up and he doesn't come. Something has collapsed, broken, the usual order of things has been disrupted. Your first reaction is panic. The answer is simple - do not be selfish and mind your own business and your men. Well, and also patiently wait for his call and an invitation for coffee.
Here is one of the saddest and most frequent reasons. Someone always turns out to be in love and is waiting. Someone waits for a signal, for a hint, he or she waits for the end of each romance. In that case, it's better not to wait and not to collect, like detective evidence of falling in love. And immediately have a heart-to-heart talk to dot all the i's, not to lose a lot of time and avoid a lot of disappointment.
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This is some really helpful insight.
Truth is, for the guy, it's most likely one of two options.
He sees you just as a friend with benefits and eventually just has other interests/prioritys,
Or he's been in love with you the whole time, got sick of being a doormat and decided to distance himself from you to stop feeling that way.
I've never understood what feels like a lot of mixed messages, but this helps me understand the other side a lot better than I did before.
The take away for me is that if she really loved him she'd let him know and not keep him on the wings. She probably cares, but she probably knows she doesn't really want to end up with him. That's fine if you're looking for a hookup, but it's also a great way to get your heart taken advantage of.
I'll be more able to spot that, be direct and react respond accordingly in the future.