If anyones struggling right now, please read this. I’ve made a pretty cool realisation.

[Graci_e]

P.S here’s my dog because I need to add a photo to post it and I’m not putting bubba on the internet with strangers, and I’m too lazy to google a suitable photo

A couple of hours ago, my niece was born. Both my sister and niece are happy and healthy. And there’s a very happy dad too.

We all love her so much already. We loved her from the day we found out. My sister and brother in law gave me a card congratulating me on being an auntie, and I jumped up squealing and shouting, jumping around like a loony. Both my sisters and I cried.

I haven’t met her yet, but I’ve seen a thousand photos, videos and we’ve face timed twice. My niece is the most beautiful thing and I love her so much already. I’m so proud of my sister.

My niece is bringing so much love and joy into this family. And it has me thinking.

We were all babies once, we were all inside our mothers womb. We made aunties, grandparents, cousins, uncles and siblings. I know my sisters would have been so excited for my brother and I to come along.

People had the same happy conversations about me that we have about my niece (and my other niece on the way). I brought that joy and love into my family. I made two big sisters and a mother of 3. I added to my family.

We choose not to speak to both my sides of my family (but a fair few we are still close with) for person reasons. But I still know that I gave them joy too. They spoke about me while I was in my mums tummy, they got phone calls to know I was about to be born, they were excited to see me and hold me. I made people as happy as I am now. We don’t speak to my family but the love still remains and goes both ways.

People have loved you from the moment you were born. People have loved you from the moment they knew you were conceived. People have loved you like I know I already love my niece, with everything. She’s the most precious, sweetest thing and I feel so much love for her. Our family feels so much love for her. She has such proud, loving and exhausted parents.

So if you’re struggling, people honestly do feel this way about you. I can promise you with my whole heart that your family loves you, no matter if you’re close or if you have no contact even. Cause I know I will always love my niece as much as I do.

This probably sounds really silly - but I genuinely love her with my whole heart already and I can’t wait to meet her tomorrow. I’ll probably cry haha

And there’s another little girl 3 weeks way!!

[OlderAndWiser]

At the other end of the cycle of life. . .

When you walk through cemeteries and read headstones, you won't see inscriptions like:

"Here lies OlderAndWiser. He drove a Mercedes."
"Here lies Gracie. She was very pretty."
"Here lies Avicenna. His ending balance was $789,423.34."

No, what you will see are inscriptions like:

"Here lies OlderAndWiser. Beloved son, brother, and husband."
"Here lies Gracie. Beloved daughter, wife, and mother."

That is the final tribute you will receive. It will come from your family and it will only address your family relationships. That is what is important and that is how you will be remembered.

[Graci_e]

Yep exactly!

[exitseven]

@OlderAndWiser That could be a scary thought for some.

[RandomGuy1030]

My dogs named bubba too wtf. I went back to my moms and saw him again yesterday. he's one of those cute little mixes. nobody knows what he is but can agree he's handsome.

My mom was excited to see me. I wonder if thats even the issue though. Plenty of people are loved. What they really want is respect. And some trust.

[Graci_e]

No the baby’s name isn’t bubba haha, I just called her bubba cause it’s a way of saying baby

[ShadesOfPale86]

I really needed that. Thank you 💞I am pregnant and I feel so sad for my baby not having any other family except me due to my family passing away through the years and her dad's out of picture. but that made me feel so much better that at. least she has me and I love her so much already and she will always have that love

[Graci_e]

I’m glad that helped ❤️
I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly for both your baby and yourself.

She will be perfectly okay and your love is more than enough. She’ll feel it. All she needs is lots of cuddles and love, and she’ll be perfectly happy!

I don’t see much of my family either. I did see them when I was younger, but they were very toxic and harmful. So I don’t have a lot of family in my life either.

But what I have always had is the family my mum made for us. Which are my big sisters, my little brother, my mum and our pets. Our dads (2 older sisters share a dad and my brother and I share a dad) aren’t around either but we do just fine without them.

I’m happy and I know I’m loved. I have a really tight-knit bond with my family and I’m close with my sisters partners. My mum has given me plenty of male role models too, as she has male friends that are really good to me.

Your little family will be perfect and if it chooses it grow, so will the love. Your little one will be just fine and so will you 💕💕

[Blackcosmo]

That was beautiful and thank you.
Congratulations on being an aunt.

[Anonymous]

Thank you SO much for posting this and you're a million percent right about what you said. We are loved from the day we are conceived most of us at least and even people who did not have the best family still had people around them who loved them.

I do remember back in the day when my parents loved me, my grandparents and much of my family was in my life and even close with distant family. I remember even though I did dislike school I had my teachers all cared for me and my school was a amazing school. Where all the teachers, support staff, administrators, even the janitors and lunch ladies were like a bunch of aunts and uncles. My bus drivers were all really amazing. I had a lot of friends back then too.

Back in those days due to my autism and everything I had to go to speech therapy with a pathologist at the school there, a literacy coach, as well as a reading recovery teacher, I also had the counselor, my special education teacher, and a number of paras that were both in her classroom as well as my normal classes with my teachers. In fact there was a number of special education teachers that I had there all were very amazing.

Outside of school I had one of the best childhoods a person could ever ask for. I did not grow up super rich but not super poor either about middle class. It was not until I got older that we began having financial struggles but that is another story. When my life started all going down hill.

I do remember though was that I was truly happy and loved. Back when you were a kid nobody cared what you did. If I was a adult playing in my front yard my neighbors would think I was weird. But back then it was normal nobody judged you and even if they did nobody cared.

A lot of my friends then did grow up to be great people. But there was some that were not as much. I remember how everyone liked each other. Even people you "disliked" I think we all really liked one another since we could talk to each other sometimes.

We are loved and in life we have to find people who accept us for who we are and love us in the valleys not just the mountain summits. But who push us to be the best version of ourselves while at the same time not forcing us to change who we fundamentally are and who God created us to be.

[Whatever2929292]

Well congratulations on that!!! So happy for you all!!! Yea I have had some family problems too. Most of my family get along fine with the exceptions of one part of it. A quarter of my family. (my dads mom/grandma on dads side) I love them but they are full of drama all the time. So nobody talks to each other very much.

I think when I was a child and innocent and carefree. I was a lot happier and I miss those days all the time.

It kind of seems not everyone but some stop really caring and even start to dislike you though once you reach a certain age... People stop caring for you and having understanding. Like they once did.

I know that my family loves me and there are people who do love me

[Andres77]

Congratulations!

I'm happy for all of you that this precious child is born into a connected and loving family.

However, there are many born into families that really don't love or want their own kids. Tragic and deadly recipe. These are the kids that feed a majority of the human trafficking in the US.

Consider yourself and your family to be very blessed. I'm truly happy for you.

[MCheetah]

I've been struggling for a long time and this story didn't help me in the slightest bit. Just seems like a personal story that not all of us can relate to. I don't understand what the take-away from this is supposed to be.

[Graci_e]

That people love you and they always will

[MCheetah]

That's not the least bit true. Many of us don't have families or mothers who ever wanted us.

[BillyBalls]

Your message is very uplifting!!

A little new life is always an amazing thing to behold!

[Graci_e]

Yep it is!

[crmoore]

That's very uplifting. 🙂 It's nice to see some positivity online.

[JohnK123]

Damn another three weeks away?
congrats tho!!

[Graci_e]

Yep there’s another coming!

[JohnK123]

Ahhh so exciting…. U better be the best what aunt? (I don't know if that makes u an aunt or what) haha but Ik u will be lmao

[Graci_e]

Yep I’ll be an auntie! I’m so excited.

[JohnK123]

Cooool

[exitseven]

Thanks for posting this. I really get it.

[WhitneySnow]

Beautiful ❤️

[joeldalton]

Right on.