My "friend" kissed my crush in front of me! How should I react?

[Anonymous]

So one of my friends kissed my crush yesterday while I was standing right beside her. We only just became friends recently. I've only known her for a week or two, because she just moved into the neighborhood. She knew I liked this guy and she repeatedly "assured" me that she wasn't interested in him. Yesterday I was talking to someone and she kept staring at me. When I walked away and came back to talk to her and my crush, she kissed him and ran off. It's like she purposely waited for me to come back and watch. Everyone knows I like the guy so everyone thought I was super sad, but actually I'm not. It wasn't like he and I were dating anyway. I'm actually not sad that he liked the kiss, I'm just disappointed that she lied to me about her feelings, completely disregarded my feelings, and kissed him right in front of me when she had many opportunities to do it while I was gone. Everyone thinks I should fight her, or confront her, or talk to my crush. I honestly don't know what to do. There's nothing for me to say to my crush. He already knows how I feel about him but he obviously doesn't feel the same way, but I can't force him to like me. I don't really see a point in talking to the girl. That would accomplish nothing. At least I know who my real friends are now and who I can trust. What should I do?

[Izzex3]

Don't fight her.
You don't have to "confront" her because she knows what she did.
It's like she was testing you.
I wouldn't be surprised if she was telling your crush some stuff about you and kissed him in front of you to see your reaction or something dumb like that.
Now you know she's not a friend.
Just take that new information in and don't bother with her anymore.
If she tries to bring it up with you just let her know that you're not friends..
Even though it might be annoying because I can see her telling everybody"____ is mad at me because I kissed_____".
She might not do that at all, but its a possibility. People can get kind of nasty like that to people who they don't consider actual friends.
If you end up wanting to get your say though then deal with that.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. I didn't want to confront her about it anyway. She knew what she was doing, she knew it would hurt me, but she did it anyway. There's nothing for me to say to her.

[Izzex3]

Yeah, you don't need people like that in your life.

[CrayolaCupcake]

Well, obviously you know she's not your friend. It's totally fine to be disappointed about this. Fortunately she was only your friend for a few weeks, as opposed to several years. And everyone is on your side, because they knew you liked him. You're taking this very maturely, and you know nothing would be gained by talking to the girl or your crush. Fighting the girl would be a bad idea and cause unnecessary drama. So my advice would be to move on from your crush as he doesn't feel the same way, and accept that this girl is not your friend. Hang out with your real friends and have fun with them! :)

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. My friends just keep trying to pressure me into confronting her or talking to my crush. That's the only reason why I even asked this question.

[CrayolaCupcake]

Okay, then your friends need to understand you're not going to do that. Tell them you understand their concerns, but they need to back off and stop pressuring you, because that's not going to accomplish anything. Just keep your head up, you're doing the right and mature thing.

[CrayolaCupcake]

Aw, thanks for MHO!

[Asker]

No problem. Thanks for the advice.

[CrayolaCupcake]

You're welcome.

[evenlift]

I agree with this.

[LonerGirlBree3]

Continue to act unaffected. She's not someone you can trust nor need as a friend. A friend isn't someone who would do that. All you can do is move on and try to get over your crush and I, personally, wouldn't associate with that girl.

[Asker]

That's pretty much my thoughts exactly. My friends keep trying to pressure me into confronting her.

[LonerGirlBree3]

if you feel the need to voice your thoughts on her actions then by all means, you do that if it'll make you feel better. But don't do it if you know it'll lead to violence. Violence is never the answer. If you can walk away from this though, that'd be your best bet and let your friends know that you don't feel the need to confront her. After all, Karma's a bitch.

[Asker]

I'm not gonna start a fight with her, so I'm gonna leave it alone. But you're right, karma is a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Wow... some friend...

[Asker]

Yep. At least I know now that she's untrustworthy.

[Opinion Owner]

a bit more than that... she's a worm...

[Asker]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

You should talk to her about that!

[Asker]

I just don't see a point in talking to her. She knew how I felt about him and she deliberately lied and betrayed me. She clearly isn't my real friend. I don't see what talking to her would accomplish. There's nothing that I need to say.