I feel like my friend is recently ignoring me on purpose. Should I end my friendship with her?

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I'm so clueless and I don't know what to do.

She was a great friend and now that I seemed to lose her, things aren't the same as it was before. I feel like my friend is recently ignoring me on purpose. I have done nothing wrong but I do feel like our interests aren't similar anymore. We used to eat meals together, chat outside of school but now, I heard her socializing with the people she has common interests with (which I have no clue about).

She's a writer. Back then, she used to show me her works. Right now, it pissed me of when I heard from one of her new friends that a story she wrote was great (which was new and I haven't heard about it before). Now, that meant that she let her "new friends" read her story while I don't get to read it myself.

She also joins her "new friends" whenever eating instead of eating meals with me.

I have no guts to confront about it because she seems to ignore me on purpose in the speed of lightning. I don't know what her problem is but this is bothering me very much.

Should I let this girl go? Would it be best to stop myself from associating myself with her?

ak666 · Accepted Answer

She's young and still trying to find ways to fit into society. I think she's doing it in a kind of immature way, seeing her friendship with you as mutually exclusive with her friendship with these new people. A very mature person would introduce you to these new friends and try to unite everyone instead of creating a rift.

This is bound to happen to some people growing up. They go their separate ways, begin to associate with different groups of people. Friendships are strained, sometimes split apart.

It tends to happen less as you get older and associate with older friends. They'll have already settled in, figured out who they are, and will realize that the path to their own popularity doesn't require dividing alliances and disassociating with certain people. Right now I think your friend is still figuring this all out.

I'd suggest to let her go and figure things out. Confronting her is somewhat of an aggressive action at which point you might push her further away and widen that perceived rift between you and this new group of people.

Try to focus on your own independence. Try not to let it get to you. Have a good time and be comfortable with yourself. Be who you want to be and don't hold back. Do it really well and you'll find your own group of people drawn to you, and perhaps this friend will also begin to really miss you.

Decentguy · Accepted Answer

its better for you to let her go, letting go is hard, but you have to let go sometimes, even tho it hurst very much.

MissMinaaaa · Accepted Answer

I'm on the same boat:/ I had these two super close friends I've known since primary school-- but one of them has gotten more on the wild side, and even though we still got along very well, I had to eventually drop the friendship because she was in far too deep on her side, and I couldn't let that effect me. BUT for the other friend, I still have been very close to up until recently. I thought she was ignoring me on purpose... but after a while, I think it was the fact that she forgot about me as her friend since she constantly meets new people.. I figured this out since she would randomly hit me up to "hang out" that would end up leading me to doing a favor for her. Because if she were to ignore me for me to get "the hint" she'd just stop talking to me. I stopped talking to this girl too. For you though, does she at least talk to you every now and then, or she completely acts like she doesn't know you? If she still talks to you but not as much as before, it's likely she just forgot how close you guys used to be because of those new friends.

natured · Accepted Answer

I am so sorry that this is happening to you, and i wish you could be my neighbor so we could go out and have meals together because my best friend did the same, but she did it because she has a boyfriend now -_-

Anyways, since SHE IS distancing her self from you for no reason, you should do the same, if she has no interest or if she lost interest whatsoever to hang out with you then it's not a friend that you deserve, you should honestly just focus on your priorities, and let HER GO because you deserve way much better hun.
If she ignores you, do the same ;)
Wish you the best luck and i am sure you will find another friend to have an amazing time with.
SIMPLY IT'S HER LOSS NOT YOURS.
Good luck <3

vonasaurus · Accepted Answer

your friend's change of heart is quite common at this stage of your life. most young people are figuring out who they are, exploring new opportunities with new people, and some (like your friend) have trouble reconciling this newness with their already-established friendships. some people grow apart over time, and that's okay.

you say she's a writer- why not write to her? just ask her how things are going and invite her to lunch or on a weekend shopping trip... if she declines, you may want to re-evaluate the friendship. but don't burn your bridges: she may realize, as many teens often do, that new doesn't mean better and that her real best friend was there all along.

either way, good luck!

-von

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

Let her Go Here, dear. She is now a Fair Weather Friend to the End.
What you both Cared to Share long ago is Obviously Over, and with the Way you feel, even if she was to come back Tomorrow, a lot of Sorrow, it's Hard to get Past the Past. It probably would feel Awkward Now Somehow.
It happens in Life sometimes, but you have to be Strong enough to Leave the Past behind and Move on to your own Fresh way of Life.
Good Luck. xx

coolbreeze · Answer

Let her chase you and give her space and let her go Don't sweat it. Friend's always change all the time.

DarklordOdin · Answer

I'm starting to, not quite drift completely away, but cool down a lot of my friends. When the spark is gone, it's hard to reignite it. I think it would be good to have a chat with your friend about it, but if she seems uninterested, your next choice should present itself clearly.

WriterAndPainter · Answer

Why not confront? What do you have to lose? She sounds like a shitty friend to be honest with you. People change and you will go through your life especially your 20s realizing how real and how fake people are. It could be that she may feel that she fits in more with them from a hobby point, but you'll never know. You could write her letter, or just talk to her in person. At this point it doesn't sound like you have anything to lose.

Izumiblu · Answer

I don't know if I'd say let her go as in no longer willing to be friends, however it might be good to give yourself some space for a while if you can't talk with her.

Ali55sven · Answer

Show her that you dont need her or care about her bullshit storys. Harsh i know lol. Then she will just run back to you, or it could backfire and severe all ties. Either way your playing with fire girl!

Caths14 · Answer

Stop associatinb with her cut ties as she is clearly interested in those other friends and isn't thinking about you the same way you do with her. She will come bsck running when she gets bored with new crowd or somebody falls out with her and it will be too late as you dont want a user

helloitsmethere · Answer

Remember: friends come and go.
It's fine, at this age we tend to gain and lose friends trying to figure ourselves out. We're a mess at this age lol.
Holding on sometimes does more damage than letting go.

abundantlyrich · Answer

She's rejected you. It's best not to think about her anymore. Treat her as if she's dead.

archiz · Answer

confront her call her and tell her you wanna see her like that you ll corner her. you at least to know why

lumberman9 · Answer

You said you don't have the guts to confront her but fight your fear and approach her, and from there make your decision

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Maybe she never was your friend to begin with. I think you should distance yourself from her little by little.

Danielleln · Answer

Talk to her and tell her how you feel. But you might have to forget her as a friend maybe.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

How can expect anyone to know what you need if you won't speak up? Go talk to her.

Luci92 · Answer

Talk to her and be honest, but choose your words carefully as well.

JENGA · Answer

I think you should try to work up your courage and at least talk to her about it before you just completely sever all of your umbilical cords with her.

RealandGenuine26 · Answer

A true friend would be a friend, and not ignore you. you might need to let her go

astrostar456 · Answer

I'd say just end in with her if she was your friend she'd talk to you all the time. So just tell her to go away and that you don't wish to speak again.

Blueeyes2016 · Answer

A lot of women particularly ignore

cupidkisses · Answer

let her go

EdirneCigeri · Answer

Yes you chould

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