My boyfriend's mother was diagnosed with cancer and he is really depressed. How can I cheer him up?

Question

Is there anything I can say or do to help him in this difficult moment? When he is sad I get sad too.

UnknownReflection · Accepted Answer

This incident requires a natural grieving process. So you must make sure that he has enough space to grieve his way out. It takes for him to recover from this shocking news.

However, you can be helpful by being there. allow him to have the space he needs to deal with his feelings and settle down his emotions. But make sure to let him know that you're there for him and he can come to you and run to your arms anytime he wanted. Check on him time to time and make sure he is okay and announce your present and availability.

Furthermore, you can try to open his eyes upon optimistic perspectives. This is an unfortunate that his mother needs to deal with this battle but this is a battle that many fought before and won. Cancer is dangerous but not as dangerous as before. Cancer can be treated by medication and diet. Most importantly; mentality. Remind him that this is not the end of the line for his mother. Make him familiar with those examples that fought with cancer now they are living happy, healthy and stronger than before. Also remind him that all of you must remain positive for her. Because the mentality is important in this case. He must know that the fighting spiriting and an optimistic mindset can literally beat the cancer.

Additionally, try to distract him as much as you can. Involve his favorite actions, bring him his favorite foods or play his favorite music, hang out in his favorite places and so on. These actions can push him forward and distract him from the heaviness of the subject in his mind.

And again, he would need some time to recover from this naturally anyway. As just a natural process. Just be there for him and help him through this.

Hopefully she be able to win the battle.

Good Luck.

Graydon · Accepted Answer

Aww sorry to hear that. What type of cancer is it? Is it severe? Well maybe you could tell him that life is all about these ups and downs and that no matter what darkness occurs there is always light on the other side. Like I lost a friend in a car crash last year (both her and her sister died and it left her mom and dad with no children). It was devastating but I was told that her mom wants to participate in a walkathon with our school this year and talk about how she trusts in God that he took her daughters for a special reason (as her and her husband and both devoted Catholics).

Malaya · Accepted Answer

I know when someone is diagnosed with cancer it is extremely hard my grandmother is diagnosed with cancer to but what I do is :
Cheer her up by saying something positive
Being there for her even if it is by phone video call or messenger or email
Tell her it is going to Be ok
And if he is frustrated anger upset mad sad and he says something unkind to you then I know it breaks your heart but i do not think he will or would mean it just keep quiet and do not say a thing

Natalie I hope she feels better and get well soon just do everything you can

AmyShadowhunter · Accepted Answer

my friend's brother was diagnosed with cancer recently and she was heartbroken.
let him know that you're there for him but give him his space. act like you always do. you can't possibly cheer him up. but you can make the pain easier. just hug him and don't say anything. he'll feel the affection you have for him in that one gesture.
hang in there.

Megalyssa · Accepted Answer

Cancer is not a disease. It's business. If I were you I would encourage him to look for cures. I personally saw people who healed. Conventional medicine means death for sure

HGG3805 · Answer

Encourage him to talk about what he is feeling. He needs to deal with what it going on.

Encourage him to say all those things that he should have or needs to say to his mother while he can.

Odds are she is going to survive this bout with Cancer. This is an opportunity for him to realize how important his relationship is with his mother. To tell her how much he loves her, how much he appreciated what she has done for him. She will appreciate that and will be comforted to hear him say those things.

There is a point in time when he no longer can do that. We often wait until it is too late to realize that.

guycrush · Answer

Natalie,

At this point in time he more then likely is thinking about his mom and the things that come with cancer are usually not great! so Depressions is an ok feeling to have. If I found out that my mother had cancer I would be talking time to think about things like how long? is it curable? What stage is she at? What kind of cancer does she have? is it fatal? What does this mean in my life? How does this affect my mom! these are all questions I am more then sure your boyfriend has, even if he is not saying them it doesn't mean he's not thinking about them! right now your best bet is to Be what you have been! his girlfriend! I read an article once that said the healthier way to cure depression is stability! Hope This Helps! I wish your boyfriends mom best of luck in her battle! #TheMarchToCureCancer

Mega_illuminati · Answer

just be there for him. This is not something to go away that easily. He is allowed to feel bad for it. Best thing to do is to stay with him and assure him that it will be okay. With new age treatment, many cancers are treatable.

Stockton · Answer

Listen my Dear II recently lost my Mom. And all the preparation in the world is useless, keep this in mind as it helped me. As much as it hurts it's the way of our existence, and if her death destroys you then her life didn't mean much. Your mom raised you to be strong and keep a level head. As far as for cheering her up... simply be there for her. You have my prayers in the times head

slatyb · Answer

You can't cheer him up. This is a tough thing and he's going to have to go through it. The best you can do is listen, let him know you're available if he wants to talk or needs you to do something for him.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

The only thing you can do to let him know you care is just be there for him. Let him know if he needs to talk he can call you. 24/7... you can't cheer him up, it's good to feel needed in a relationship and I hope he calls you.

S_Rose · Answer

I don't think you can cheer him up. You can support him though. Just be there for him.

Anonymous · Answer

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msvv2 · Answer

A good suggestion would be to try and be supportive of him emotionally. Even though he might not show it up front, he would most certainly need it. As to what to say or not to say, you know him better than any of us here do.

neoagent1 · Answer

There really isn't a way to cheer someone up when their close relative gets diagnosed with a fatal disease. All you can really do is be there for him, talk to him, maybe have him tell you stories about how great his mom is.

manthan69 · Answer

Nowadays that's possible way to get over from it. So you can also you favour her by help but you should talk to your boyfriend to cheer her that you can beat it. Give her confidence. Try to make her concentration on any other things.

Nice222 · Answer

Give him time to spend with his family but there there for him when he needs you. Be a good listener. Even if you don't know what to say to comfort him, just listening to him will help. And give him lots of hugs.

JCT666 · Answer

That's not really something you can easily cheer up somebody from... Give him time to grieve and allow him to spend more time with his family.

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

This'll put a smile on everyone's face. It's a quote written by yours truly

Stamps · Answer

No. Things like these need time. Just let him process this. Eventually, things will go back like they used to be.

talkaki · Answer

Just be there n help on whatever he is doing n goimg through. Support emotionally too.

Reddwolf · Answer

just be yourself and always have a smile on your face

NightOwl8801 · Answer

Just being there for him or asking if he needs anything will mean a lot to him

WinterBlaze · Answer

He is worried about his mother and nothing can change that.. just be there for him.

Svennedude2 · Answer

Help him with the grieving. If he feels like crying, let him cry while comforting him.

worldscolide · Answer

It's really difficult, just be there for him, offer a shoulder if needed, be liberal with affection.

Nahid1234 · Answer

Try to spend time with him 😊

Babydyke · Answer

Just hold him and tell him you're there for him.

AnuragClancy · Answer

Its fine. Think about the present. Maybe this will help.

Vishnu5121 · Answer

Just be there for him and support him

jansoka · Answer

Show him that He is Not Alone

daniel_shalome · Answer

Don't Listen To My Chemical Romance's Song Cancer

Anonymous · Answer

Hug him, best thing you can do

Anonymous · Answer

You should do whatever he wants you to do.

mohamedatef · Answer

be beside him

Anonymous · Answer

Spend tym with them make food nd make love

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